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whippedsub -> PLS guide me (1/21/2006 5:50:42 AM)

I have a submissive nature that I have largely left unexplored. I am aware of these lifestyles and have an innate desire to submit to a dominant lady. I fantasize about the scenarios of serving beautiful and powerful women but never had a chance to tell my feelings to my girlfriend.
I am happy and has no regrets about not materializing these fantasies but my submissive nature brings me a lot of trouble in office.I am always taken advantage off and treated coldly and roughly by some females in my office and I actually enjoy it and my submissive nature forces me to accept their abuse without any protest. I actually enjoy the insult from their hands and they have also find a pleasure in frquently bullying and humiliating me. I have been denied promotion and my work is suffering.I also dont want to leave this firm again becauz of my submissive nature but i have become a laughing stock in my office at the hands of these females. I am confused as what to do as I dont want to loose my self respect. Please guide me ......I am so confused.



JohnWarren -> RE: PLS guide me (1/21/2006 6:47:45 AM)


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ORIGINAL: whippedsub

I have a submissive nature that I have largely left unexplored. I am aware of these lifestyles and have an innate desire to submit to a dominant lady. I fantasize about the scenarios of serving beautiful and powerful women but never had a chance to tell my feelings to my girlfriend.
I am happy and has no regrets about not materializing these fantasies but my submissive nature brings me a lot of trouble in office.I am always taken advantage off and treated coldly and roughly by some females in my office and I actually enjoy it and my submissive nature forces me to accept their abuse without any protest. I actually enjoy the insult from their hands and they have also find a pleasure in frquently bullying and humiliating me. I have been denied promotion and my work is suffering.I also dont want to leave this firm again becauz of my submissive nature but i have become a laughing stock in my office at the hands of these females. I am confused as what to do as I dont want to loose my self respect. Please guide me ......I am so confused.


It would be interesting to see how these "females" see your actions. We've had other posts with similar stories and as the tale develops it seems that the poster was actually imposing his scene on nonconsenting co-workers. I hope this isn't the case here.



MasterLark -> RE: PLS guide me (1/21/2006 7:11:18 AM)

I wonder if you see a difference between being masochistic and submissive? There is one in my mind.



LadyJulieAnn -> RE: PLS guide me (1/21/2006 7:28:02 AM)

I don't believe being submissive equates to having a personality that allows others to take advantage of you and make you a laughing stock. I also suspect that you are reading more into your co-workers' behavior. My guess is that you have been denied a promotion because you are not working to your potential, not because your female co-workers want to humiliate you.

Fantasies are nice, but you are most likely the only one thinking about those things.

Be well,
Julie



attaksub -> RE: PLS guide me (1/21/2006 11:38:47 AM)

in response to master larks view, I would like to then think that every submissive or slave is masochistic anyways......no matter how anybody goes on justifying submissives or slaves as different beings from masochistic!!



MsIce -> RE: PLS guide me (1/21/2006 2:20:37 PM)

I think the issue is that these women whilst treating you cruelly do not understand any D/s dynamic. They are simply being unpleasant and you are allowing them to be.
The D/s dynamic with a Dominant woman usually involves some form of respect from the Domme towards the submissive

My advise to you is to stop allowing this behaviour. Gain back your self respect by slowly just saying no to their unpleasantness. Basically you have allowed them access to you with no boundaries. They will continue to push you until you acutally show them that you have a boundary. You dont have to be rude or unpleasant, you just need to develop a firmness.

Find someone who appreciates your submission, dont waste it on people who are unworthy of it



MistressFire70 -> RE: PLS guide me (1/21/2006 4:31:36 PM)

No one, including yourself, is forcing you to act in a specific way...until you take responsibility for your actions. With responsibility comes choice; with choice, comes freedom.

Fire



KarbonCopy -> RE: PLS guide me (1/21/2006 9:23:22 PM)

I agree that submissiveness does not equate to being taken advantage of.

I'm a submissive male, 6'1" 290lbs and a terrible attitude problem.

Not many people have had the guts to even try and take advantage of me.
I submit to a special person, its a choice, nothing else.

I'd be the first one to lay a dominant out on the floor for talking to me with disrespect, or touching me for that matter.


So no, submissive does not equate to spineless.



firefey -> RE: PLS guide me (1/22/2006 2:23:03 PM)

i'm honestly wondering if the repression of your nature with the ones you love and trust is what's leading you to allow this treatment at work. you fanasise about the thing you want so much, and deny yourself so often, that you are seeing it in places where it is not. chance are, they are not picking on you for any gratification they get. they are most likely not even aware of your feeling about what is happening. but what you are doing sounds (with no other information to go from) very much like the senario brought up by john waren. you are foisting your fantasy onto an unwilling, unsuspecting victim. and that is wrong. you should be looking for ways to bring your girlfriend into the lifestyle, is she wants to, or moving on with your life and gatting yourself under controll. this is not healthy behavior, and honestly has lees to do with you being submissive and more to do with you needing balace and honesty.



Smythe -> RE: PLS guide me (1/22/2006 7:44:07 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: whippedsub

I have a submissive nature that I have largely left unexplored. I am aware of these lifestyles and have an innate desire to submit to a dominant lady. I fantasize about the scenarios of serving beautiful and powerful women but never had a chance to tell my feelings to my girlfriend.
I am happy and has no regrets about not materializing these fantasies but my submissive nature brings me a lot of trouble in office.I am always taken advantage off and treated coldly and roughly by some females in my office and I actually enjoy it and my submissive nature forces me to accept their abuse without any protest. I actually enjoy the insult from their hands and they have also find a pleasure in frquently bullying and humiliating me. I have been denied promotion and my work is suffering.I also dont want to leave this firm again becauz of my submissive nature but i have become a laughing stock in my office at the hands of these females. I am confused as what to do as I dont want to loose my self respect. Please guide me ......I am so confused.



I am going with JohnWarren on this...I am actually even wondering if you are interpreting certain behaviors according to your submissive fantasies. Maybe there is someone around your office that you can ask for an objective opinion.

Smythe




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