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MissMorrigan -> RE: When people do stupid things (3/2/2009 9:30:55 AM)
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There comes a point when you need to take care of you or you'll risk emotional/psychological stress to yourself. Sounds harsh, but have been there/done that, refuse to allow it to occur again and recognise it for what it is. I will always provide support, but the moment I withdraw it is when my benevolence is abused and unfortunately, dramakings/queens have a tendency to bite the hand that is extended to them. They feed off their negativity and that from others, remove them from it and they don't know how to cope. It's wretched having to watch a person work on a loop, but to be honest with you, they are usually fully aware of what's going on and have no inclination to want to alter their lives. I have a dear friend whose entire life was abusive, they walked on eggshells growing up, anticipating the next onslaught and that, sadly, modelled their future. Their life now is the exact same, walking on eggshells until the next crisis (which occur frequently), friends rally round, support is provided and despite them being fully aware just how harmful it is, they would rather live with the devil they know than face a scared future of the unknown. At least with the 'devil' they can anticipate and adjust. They have no intention of changing. These days, I accept them for who they are, but there is a cut-off point, that cut-off point is when the situation could become detrimental to my emotional well-being.
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