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Mercnbeth -> RE: Demographics - more Subs than Dommes? (3/2/2009 8:12:20 AM)
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Depends - what do you call a 'sub'?
Someone who has 5 pages worth of limits, requiring a notarized signature and 'blood oath' commitment to honor his/her 'safe-word' who lays down on a feather bed and 'submits' to having a 'dom' "Do ME!"; represents a dominant persona who enjoys, and allows themselves to feel, sensations from the receiving end of the paddle. I think that represents many people posting behind the label of 'submissive'. Under that definition, you're right there are MANY more 'submitting' under those terms than dominants willing to serve them; very vocal, very active, and very dominant. Fun people, great play partners, and handy when you need some 'skill development' work and it happens to serve their sensation requirement.
Don't get hung up on labels; self, or globally applied. Enjoy people, enjoy experiences, and have fun; while keeping an eye out, and an open mind, ready in case you find a person who meets the 'label' of your mental image of submissive or dom - whichever you seek. They may not come in your preconcieved 'ideal' body size, age, color, or even gender. Simply being open to the possibility that there is 'somebody' out there, is not only essential, but may be the only thing you need to have beyond your own self knowledge and confidence to find a partner for a successful relationship. There are enough submissives, and doms to go around who don't identify by sensation. You can find them. It just takes a little time and communicating intercourse to determine if they want to submit (or dominate), to a sensation or a person.
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