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lovingpet -> Non Impact Subdrop (3/2/2009 4:43:24 PM)
Let's set the stage. A submissive is with his/her dominant partner for a longer period of time than normal. Light play occurs (impact-wise). Some time is spent watching others play. They part ways reluctantly, but out of necessity. Can this result in some level of drop for some submissives? I realize this will vary from one submissive to another, but is it possible? How might it manifest? How long might it last? Thanks! lovingpet

chamberqueen -> RE: Non Impact Subdrop (3/2/2009 6:20:11 PM)
You might get a case of the blues, as an example, because you wish that you could have stayed together longer. Perhaps you might have craved some hugging time or something. I would guess that for most people it wouldn't be a severe subdrop.

Huntertn -> RE: Non Impact Subdrop (3/2/2009 6:28:26 PM)
that kind of drop can last a few hours to a couple of days..and yes, I've seen it..its hard to get envolved..then to have them leave befor your back up...its hard on a sub..and at times hard on the Dom too.

pinkwind -> RE: Non Impact Subdrop (3/2/2009 6:54:03 PM)
Impact play isn't the only way of altering the amounts and interactions of hormones within a highly charged human being, so i have little doubt that some form of come down from that chemical imbalance could indeed occur.

peppermint -> RE: Non Impact Subdrop (3/2/2009 7:09:16 PM)
It used to take me 2-3 days to drop....so your answer is yes. Felt like normal drop....depression, sleeplessness, nervousness, etc.

RainydayNE -> RE: Non Impact Subdrop (3/2/2009 10:57:17 PM)
is this subdrop caused by not getting the sort of impact you wanted ooor somethign i'm not understanding? like you had light impact and then watched others play who did stuff more like what you would've wanted? on a side note: would it be a kind of subdrop if you get extremely tired after getting stimulated but not enough?

lovingpet -> RE: Non Impact Subdrop (3/3/2009 5:59:48 AM)
We did a light scene with the intent to play harder at the club later, but due to a series of unfortunate events I was not able to do so. We watched a lot of wonderful scenes and I really got into them mentally and emotionally. I was able to well imagine how some of the things being done felt and what others might have felt like. I was occupying both my headspaces quite nicely. We spent the night together afterwards and played and cuddled the morning away. We got lunch and spent time doing some naughty shopping and riding the hour long trip back to my house. The bluesy, random crying jags, achies and all started before we even left the bed in the morning. I think I have rebounded now, but was wondering if it was just basic fatigue, something I should mention to my doctor as a worsen symptom, or if it was just a different form of subdrop. Thanks all! lovingpet

junecleaver -> RE: Non Impact Subdrop (3/3/2009 8:55:53 AM)
I guess subdrop is different for different people. For me...it is more like fun/exciting/adrenaline drop. A lot of the times those high emotions and pumping adrenaline come from a scene, but sometimes not. I used to go through a horrible horrible 'sub-drop' kind of thing after almost every volleyball game I played in school. I've been through it after getting pierced. I've been through it after having a week of gogogogogogo stress and then having the time to relax and unwind and not remembering how. It's important to remember that it doesn't/shouldn't last forever. If it last for more than a week-ish, I would speak with my doctor.

softness -> RE: Non Impact Subdrop (3/3/2009 11:06:22 AM)
I drop every Monday night without fail .. whether I have played or not, regardless of what has happened over the weekend. Obviously if I have played, the drop is more pronounced. I find that having been exactly where I want and need to be for a weekend, coming back to my life here is a downer. By the time I wake up on tuesday everything is back on an even keel and I am getting excited about going back home to Him on friday. We're both aware of it, we both deal with it, its simply the payoff of having a dual life, and its one I am perfectly happy to continue paying. I have taken up monday night colouring, I get home from work, do my chores, cook my dinner and then colour something. For some reason my little space doesn't feel the drop so much, probably because she takes things more at face value .. "its monday, i'll see Daddy on friday .." ,... where as my inner monologue goes something like this ..."ohmygodohmygod he wont love me by friday, something will happen ... will he call this week ... what if something happens and we cant see eachother ... i miss him so much,,, its ages until friday,,, i cant keep doing this,,, i'll have to look for another job closer to him,,, but i couldn't leave this flat .,... ohmygodohmygod" see ... from the mouths of babes

camille65 -> RE: Non Impact Subdrop (3/3/2009 2:39:13 PM)
We can't do much impact play (damn that body of mine!!) but yes, I have realized that I do get a form of sub drop after our weekends. It goes deeper than simply not being near him, my balance is off. I don't have his direct line of sight influence over me anymore and it feels like the adrenaline just.. bottoms out in me. I am highly aware of my emotional - leading to - physical state and there is a definite readjustment period usually the second day after he leaves. Heh for awhile I thought it was a weirdo sort of fibro flare actually. I'd be willing to bet that my chemical self is very different on the days he is here, vs the time right after he leaves. It feels like I'm not saying things very well, but I know it happens.

lovingpet -> RE: Non Impact Subdrop (3/3/2009 7:56:15 PM)
I slept today. I slept and slept and slept. I got up feeling a bit more stable and all comfy in the relationshipy stuff too. I just had no idea all this could happen just from time together or watching others. It was a new sensation for me. Thanks for all your input! lovingpet

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