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RE: when in doubt what should one do? - 3/6/2009 8:55:10 PM

SirDarkside357

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I see no problem with you wanting to be sure it was your Master, but then that's me. I think you should do what your Master would want you to. If you don't know, then I suggest you talk to him and find out as soon as possible.

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RE: when in doubt what should one do? - 3/7/2009 12:56:47 AM

antipode

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If this was my Master did i kill the moment by asking for conformation? Am i to cautious?

Why don't you ask him? How are we supposed to know something that is in a third party's brain?

Generally, if you have a relationship in which your master does not need to identify himself when he comes on line (because that is what you effectively said) and he can withhold-his-collar-but-not-his-chain, you are being played, and you're in a situation that I can only classify as somewhere between immature and infantile.

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RE: when in doubt what should one do? - 3/7/2009 4:15:43 AM

Kana

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I would be more than Ok if my girl did that.
I get territorial.
How can I really get mad if she is doing nothing but protecting my property?
That's not insubordinate.
That's respectful.

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RE: when in doubt what should one do? - 4/2/2009 1:23:44 AM

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As my CEO once said..

When in doubt " Sell Something" .. lol

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RE: when in doubt what should one do? - 4/2/2009 4:56:22 PM

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I would know if the first minutes if I was chatting with the "right person" If you been in that relationship any decent length of time, how could you not?

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RE: when in doubt what should one do? - 4/4/2009 12:11:46 PM

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A easy password between Master/slave or Dom/sub will easily clear up any doubts about who is who for real when they arent face to face.

If you have any doubt at all dont continue. Any real Master or Dom wont mind that!

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RE: when in doubt what should one do? - 4/4/2009 5:17:06 PM

saphyreslady

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No kidding! If you are using a chat client that lets you see the /whois , you should know the identifying marks. Conversely, as stated above, a password would be the easiest way to identify him if you feel that is necessary. However if that ever happens, then there are games being played and the level of trust is soon to be shattered. Just my 2.5 cents worth.

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RE: when in doubt what should one do? - 4/6/2009 8:32:01 PM

fannilee

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if in trouble, if in doubt, run in circles, scream and shout

tehehe, i just felt like being a little silly

>.<

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RE: when in doubt what should one do? - 4/8/2009 6:17:45 AM

MasterRaid

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ORIGINAL: hallieB

To add a little back ground about our situation, Master has stripped me of the privilage of wearing his collar back in October. i am still owned by him and wear his chain around my neck but i no longer have the privilage to wear his leather collar. i made the mistake of letting a man put his hand on my shoulder when we went to Tybee Island for Masters birthday, and i didnt move it away.

He is setting you up for failure. I do not require MY sub/slaves to act when another Dom does something. That is My job. if I cannot attend to the matter all I ask is that they simply state they are not allowed in a respectful manner. I do not remove collars that quickly or easily. It is either that or your Master is very insecure about what is His and is looking to push that feeling of insecurity onto you rather than dealing with it Himself.

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tonight while i was in chat having casual conversation with others someone PM me. Everyone can see on my profile i belong to Master Jay. I know there are alot of master J's on this site. I asked for conformation to be sure it was my Master. I want to do the right thing here and i am only committed to my Master, i will do or atleast try anything he ask of me. ( i wanted it to be him so bad ) I am suppose to do what he ask with out question. Trust in him that he wont hurt me in any way. At this time he is out of the US and i can not talk to him till he comes home.
i know the element of the unknown is supposed to be a turn on, what this person wanted to do tonight i had never experienced and wanted to try, but only would i do this for my Master and only with his guidance and approval.

In this statement you answer your own question. Here you show that you are devoted and intelligent, even with the self doubt. You wanted to wait for Master.......

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If this was my Master did i kill the moment by asking for conformation? Am i to cautious?

Not too cautious you are now just a bit paranoid, a by product of either what He is doing or an earlier factor that you have not told us of. You are walking on eggshells.I agree with the others that you and He should sit down and talk things over.

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