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What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/3/2009 8:34:08 PM

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So I was sitting here wondering what is the difference? mind you this is all your personal opinions and idea's but it would be worth hearing input from others.

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/3/2009 8:35:47 PM

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So I was sitting here wondering what is the difference? mind you this is all your personal opinions and idea's but it would be worth hearing input from others.

A sadist enjoys inflicting pain and or suffering. A dominant enjoys dominating. If you're really lucky, you get a dominant that is also a wonderful sadist as well.

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/3/2009 8:55:23 PM

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While dominants typically enjoy being in control or having authority, not all of them enjoy using that control to inflict discomfort, suffering or humiliation on others.

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/3/2009 8:56:11 PM

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So I was sitting here wondering what is the difference? mind you this is all your personal opinions and idea's but it would be worth hearing input from others.

As someone who self-identifies as both, here's how I see the difference within myself:

Dominant - I get off on the power exchange, the ownership, the responsibility. This is who I am, 24/7 (though I am not dominant to all in my life, such as in the vanilla world), but I strive to be calm, collected, empathetic, and rational in all interactions.

Sadist - I like to inflict intense sensations (some would classify them as pain, others find them pleasurable); I am a very tactile person and find it physically arousing to touch another's skin, whether with the lightest of touches or the bite of the cane. In a very intense interaction, my "tools" become an extension of my body: I can literally feel the tips of the floggers' lashes as they curve around the buttocks to nip at the person's sweet spot. The very thought makes me salivate. But my sadistic side isn't always present - it's a desire and craving that waxes and wanes and that I do not always indulge.

Sometimes the dominant and sadistic sides are present at the same time, such as when I'm feeling sadistic and there's a slave around that I can lay into. If I am being sadistic with one that I consider to be my own, frequently I don't care if they are enjoying themselves - not only am I getting off on the sensations that I'm inflicting, but I am also flying on the knowledge that they're taking the agony out of respect for my desires - that's a heady thought.

At other times I am sadistic without there being much power exchange at all, such as when I'm "playing" with a submissive who isn't mine - then, while I am the one providing the sensations, I don't feel that I am the dominant in the scenario - instead, we're equally going through the experience together.

(I've a feeling that I've muddled that.)

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/3/2009 9:07:51 PM

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/3/2009 9:19:07 PM

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Diiference.....oh well. Not all Dom's or Domme's are sadist.

Look up the word Sadist and it might tell you more what you are looking for.

Just because you go to McDonalds....doesn't mean your are a Hamburger!!! LOL

Hope this helps you a little.

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/3/2009 10:33:38 PM

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So I was sitting here wondering what is the difference? mind you this is all your personal opinions and idea's but it would be worth hearing input from others.

Is it really that hard to open a dictionary or, since already online, to pull up dictionary.com? Really?

It's not a matter of personal opinion(s); They're two different things with two different, verifiable definitions.

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/3/2009 11:56:18 PM

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So I was sitting here wondering what is the difference? mind you this is all your personal opinions and idea's but it would be worth hearing input from others.

You'll know the difference when it hits you... or doesn't.

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/4/2009 2:59:11 AM

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So I was sitting here wondering what is the difference? mind you this is all your personal opinions and idea's but it would be worth hearing input from others.

You'll know the difference when it hits you... or doesn't.

OK, THAT's priceless!

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/4/2009 3:18:39 AM

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As someone who self-identifies as both, here's how I see the difference within myself:

Dominant - I get off on the power exchange, the ownership, the responsibility. This is who I am, 24/7 (though I am not dominant to all in my life, such as in the vanilla world), but I strive to be calm, collected, empathetic, and rational in all interactions.

Sadist - I like to inflict intense sensations (some would classify them as pain, others find them pleasurable); I am a very tactile person and find it physically arousing to touch another's skin, whether with the lightest of touches or the bite of the cane. In a very intense interaction, my "tools" become an extension of my body: I can literally feel the tips of the floggers' lashes as they curve around the buttocks to nip at the person's sweet spot. The very thought makes me salivate. But my sadistic side isn't always present - it's a desire and craving that waxes and wanes and that I do not always indulge.

Sometimes the dominant and sadistic sides are present at the same time, such as when I'm feeling sadistic and there's a slave around that I can lay into. If I am being sadistic with one that I consider to be my own, frequently I don't care if they are enjoying themselves - not only am I getting off on the sensations that I'm inflicting, but I am also flying on the knowledge that they're taking the agony out of respect for my desires - that's a heady thought.

(I've a feeling that I've muddled that.)

Ms Laura - that wasn't a bit muddled. It's almost exactly what I was thinking. Well put !!

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/4/2009 3:35:38 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissLaura1973

quote:

ORIGINAL: Arafiss82

So I was sitting here wondering what is the difference? mind you this is all your personal opinions and idea's but it would be worth hearing input from others.

As someone who self-identifies as both, here's how I see the difference within myself:

Dominant - I get off on the power exchange, the ownership, the responsibility. This is who I am, 24/7 (though I am not dominant to all in my life, such as in the vanilla world), but I strive to be calm, collected, empathetic, and rational in all interactions.

Sadist - I like to inflict intense sensations (some would classify them as pain, others find them pleasurable); I am a very tactile person and find it physically arousing to touch another's skin, whether with the lightest of touches or the bite of the cane. In a very intense interaction, my "tools" become an extension of my body: I can literally feel the tips of the floggers' lashes as they curve around the buttocks to nip at the person's sweet spot. The very thought makes me salivate. But my sadistic side isn't always present - it's a desire and craving that waxes and wanes and that I do not always indulge.

Sometimes the dominant and sadistic sides are present at the same time, such as when I'm feeling sadistic and there's a slave around that I can lay into. If I am being sadistic with one that I consider to be my own, frequently I don't care if they are enjoying themselves - not only am I getting off on the sensations that I'm inflicting, but I am also flying on the knowledge that they're taking the agony out of respect for my desires - that's a heady thought.

At other times I am sadistic without there being much power exchange at all, such as when I'm "playing" with a submissive who isn't mine - then, while I am the one providing the sensations, I don't feel that I am the dominant in the scenario - instead, we're equally going through the experience together.

(I've a feeling that I've muddled that.)

Very well put and it is how it applys to me also.

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/4/2009 4:28:53 AM

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a dominant enjoys Control, Assertive, I am the Rock and lover of her life.. now I have many responsibilitys and its not the same as sadism. a dominant may at times deliver discipline or sometimes do similar things to arouse pleasure. I have to know as a dominant what type of submissive i have and provide the proper care to her. Some Masocist submissives require a mixture of a sadistic Master but a dominant is very careful to reign in and control himself.. You can be a firm handed dominant.. without being a sadistic cane wielding dom.

Sadist - has sensations of elation at inflicting pain on another person's body.. Usually this is a psychological development that is not a normal behavior. Its something that has been developed from their past experiences or adolescence.. where they associate giving pain with giving pleasure and they generally get off on inflicting this pain.

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/4/2009 5:44:31 AM

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Sadist - has sensations of elation at inflicting pain on another person's body.. Usually this is a psychological development that is not a normal behavior. Its something that has been developed from their past experiences or adolescence.. where they associate giving pain with giving pleasure and they generally get off on inflicting this pain.

Some of us are just wired this way. No unusual adolescent experiences necessary.

Pain doesn't need to be pleasurable to the person receiving it for me to enjoy it, either. It helps, because emotionally stable adults who seek out unenjoyable pain are unusual, and I won't hurt people who aren't specifically looking to be hurt, but my sadism isn't predicated on another person's masochism.

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/4/2009 11:22:59 AM

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/4/2009 11:30:59 AM

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this slave has been in the presence of both.

if she trips and falls down, the Dominant, full of concern, helps her up and asks her if she is ok, checks to make sure she is walking again without pain, obtains an ice pack if necessary and orders her to sit down and apply the ice pack to whatever is swelling for a few minutes before proceeding.

the sadist giggles, either right out loud or stifled into a wry smile, and if they happen to be Dominant as well, goes about the same activities as described above...might even feel bad about the uncontrollable giggle...but still finds the trip/fall amusing.

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/4/2009 1:23:00 PM

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A dominant is someone who makes you look things up in the dictionary. A sadist will hit you in the goolies with the dictionary.

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/4/2009 2:21:59 PM

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often times some subs enjoy switching and being sadists but dont fall into the dominant role

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/4/2009 2:40:55 PM

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Is it really that hard to open a dictionary or, since already online, to pull up dictionary.com? Really?

It's not a matter of personal opinion(s); They're two different things with two different, verifiable definitions.

This is not a dictionary. This is a discussion forum. It's all about personal opinion.

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/4/2009 3:48:16 PM

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If you're really lucky, you get a dominant that is also a wonderful sadist as well.

:D we're not THAT uncommon, but... the key word is wonderful. I do try :)

by the way... DONT FEED THE TROLLS!

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RE: What is the difference between a dominant and a sadist - 3/4/2009 4:32:20 PM

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