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Craving - No feelings - 3/3/2009 8:43:16 PM

kallisto

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Do those of you (subs) in a D/s relationship crave being used by your Dom? Having the "rode, hard, put up wet" feeling? Does it leave you feeling like something wasn't finished? or Are you satisfied and contented simply because you were used? I know this may not necessarily be just a D/s but it's from the /s angle that I'm looking at it.

It's hard to explain the "no feelings" when you have feelings for your Dom. It wouldn't illicit the same feelings if it were a first time partner or a stranger. But there are times where I do crave the walk in the door, told to bend over the table, yank my panties down, and to quote a very old cliche', wham, bam, thank you maam, slap on the ass and "where's supper" question. Whether or not I orgasm is immaterial. It's the He took what He wanted ... He used me to His satisfaction that I needed. It's the "no feelings", but yet a feeling of being completely controlled (for me anyway).

Just curious as to others thoughts and opinions.

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/3/2009 8:54:46 PM

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I do enjoy it, a great deal and how I enjoy it tends to be... complicated. I would prefer to orgasm but it's also very nice to just... be used. It sort of like being being given flowers randomly except it's more of a random display of dominance.

Hopefully that makes some sense!

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/3/2009 9:06:45 PM

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This is actually my favorite form of sex. My biggest high and greatest enjoyment comes from being used for someone's pleasure - I prefer not to get an orgasm in all honesty, as it prevents me from focusing 100% on them and theirs. I certainly enjoy theirs more than mine, that's for sure.

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/3/2009 9:48:39 PM

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you mean like being woken up on a Saturday and told to pleasure Domina until she is satisfied, all the while locked in chastity. And then being told to get up and make the coffee. Yea, that's what I call the start of a great weekend.

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 12:16:51 AM

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i dont know as if i would call it wanting no feelings...but dammit i'm sliding into the latter half of the 40's, and with health issues. sometimes no matter what he does, i wont climax. and HE worries about it.

sometimes its good just to be his sex toy. or just to do what he wants and not worry about "hey, i'm not getting mine". its immaterial. i get to be with him, right? and my pleasure concerns him? that makes it ok whether i climax or dont.

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 1:33:57 AM

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i have to say that i love this kind of use... i don't even want to orgasm when He does that, it just doesn't seem important...only His pleasure is. In a way however, i get a kind of mental orgasm out of it because it makes me so completely and amazingly happy lol!

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 3:01:48 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

~Fast Reply~

I do enjoy it, a great deal and how I enjoy it tends to be... complicated. I would prefer to orgasm but it's also very nice to just... be used. It sort of like being being given flowers randomly except it's more of a random display of dominance.

Hopefully that makes some sense!

Makes perfect sense to me.

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 3:04:21 AM

kallisto

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GabrielleSlave

FR
i have to say that i love this kind of use... i don't even want to orgasm when He does that, it just doesn't seem important...only His pleasure is. In a way however, i get a kind of mental orgasm out of it because it makes me so completely and amazingly happy lol!

I love the mental orgasm reference

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 3:41:06 AM

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Sometimes yes, sometimes no. It depends on where my headspace is at at the time and what is going on in my life.

Sometimes I like feeling used, being for his pure pleasure, when I am not taken into consideration and it feels fulfilling for me.

Other times it leaves me feeling lost and well..used and not in a good way.

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 3:54:24 AM

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Who couldn't enjoy knowing their partner is so turned on by them that he just pounces on you and has to have you? Yes, I enjoy it.

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 6:00:22 AM

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I call this different things and it could be seen as used on either side of the kneel. Coming from this side of the kneel, I have ordered that he come home for lunch and give me what I want just like that and in the mornings I like that too. I don't feel used... I feel happy. lol

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 6:35:49 AM

subangi

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Being used is so delicious, and what makes it the best is knowing that undercurrent where in reality He cares and cherishes you.

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 6:52:20 AM

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My exhusband had sex like that. It took him a maximum of 60 seconds to come.
It took me far longer to get up, bathe, douche, brush my hair, etc than the act itself. Then afterward I had to clean out and clean up again. It was a chore like having to get up to clean the dishes or sweep the floor. Something that had to be done, but you wish you didn't have to. There was no way I could even begin to feel anything in those 60 seconds.

Even if I did not come, if I at least had a bit of time to feel some nerve endings tingle a bit, it may have been slightly more worth while. He felt sex was absolutely HOT! While I thought it was like any other chore. It is no wonder I told him half way through the relationship that I would rather not have sex with him, but just live together. He couldn't understand how I could possibly not want to have sex. Honestly, the relationship was MUCH better for me when I didn't have that additional chore to perform.

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 8:32:35 AM

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I must chime in on the other side (like i usually do) Master never just uses me like that. His main pleasure is to make me cum. If he just used me and i did not cum he would enjoy it, but not get the maxium pleasure out of it because i did not reach climax. So being used could be fun, it would not be for me and my Master.

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 9:08:57 AM

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when this slave was first introduced to the concept of D/s and M/s relationships, she thought that everyone's definition of sexual submission would be the same as hers---submitting oneself for use by another for THEIR pleasure---with no "safe" words or other limits placed on the Dominant/Master.

after 6 years of meeting with others who engage in D/s and M/s relationships of varying sorts and participating in the online forums, she has learned that there are those that view sexual submission in a completely different way than she does. more power to them, but this slave's definition of sexual submission, for herself, has not changed. she just doesn't expect anyone else to feel the same, anymore.

using this slave to His satisfaction happens daily...it is fan-fuckin'-tastic!!!

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 11:00:36 AM

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I remember my favorite scene with my last Sir like it was yesterday. He did not restrain me in any way. He merely leaned over and whispered in my ear, “Hold perfectly still. Do not move. This isn’t about you. This is about me and my pleasure.”
That is the hottest thing anyone has ever said (or done) to me.

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 1:25:37 PM

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To put it simply, yes, please! :) And if he hurts me a little in the bargain, all the better. sigh ....

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 3:36:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chicagoswitch

I remember my favorite scene with my last Sir like it was yesterday. He did not restrain me in any way. He merely leaned over and whispered in my ear, “Hold perfectly still. Do not move. This isn’t about you. This is about me and my pleasure.”
That is the hottest thing anyone has ever said (or done) to me.

Absolutely can agree with that!!!

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 3:43:35 PM

kallisto

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I agree with you all in so many different ways. Thanks for responding everyone

Certainly there are no right or wrong answers or thoughts or likes or dislikes. Not that I thought I was in a room by myself

I just know that sometimes I crave being used just like this ... where the mental and emotional feelings of fullfillment far out-weigh any physical pleasures.

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RE: Craving - No feelings - 3/4/2009 5:43:06 PM

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*shivers* Oh my yes! There are times when that is absolutely the best thing in the world. I love the "mental orgasm" comment in describing the feelings from it. That's exactly what it is when I have experienced it on those regretably few occasions. It is so hot. Not something I want on a daily basis or for that to only be the way it is when sex happens, but sometimes...............oh my...yummmmmm!

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