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aravain -> RE: BDSM vs A Mind Blowing Lay (3/8/2009 10:10:08 PM)
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ORIGINAL: hizgeorgiapeach
While I am intensely sexual, I do not enjoy sexual stimulation that lasts for "hours" - it becomes an annoyance rather than a pleasure.
Quoted so that I don't have to say it in my own words :P I'd much rather have many, short sessions in a day than one prolonged session that lasts hours.
That said, though, my partner from my last relationship was one such as the guy you describe *_* It's funny because he's so awkward in so many other sections of life, but he just had this sexual 'control' and aptitude that was absolutely amazing.
I've had sex with a fair few men... none of them were intensely as *natural* at it as he was (though at least one of them was just as good; the whole skill versus talent debate).
As a masochist I find general pleasure in response to pain, this can be either sexual or nonsexual in nature (either way every now and then I just 'need' it and don't care about the context). For me it's *better* than sex more often than not, and the one activity in which I'm truly selfish (there, I said it![8D]). I don't *care* about my own pleasure in most sexual situations (in fact, I usually DON'T orgasm, in the traditional sense, with partners. The amount of partners whom I've orgasmed with is MUCH smaller than the amount of partners I have had), but in situations where I'm receiving pain, that's *all* it's about, it's about my pleasure, my experiences, my reactions.
(at this point I'm going to remind everyone that this is for me :P and another reason why I 'relabeled' as a switch)
I've also found that the requirements of skill are at a completely different level. Even the most unintuitive and unschooled 'top' can provide pain that will satiate... whereas it takes a good deal 'more' to do so sexually.
In either case, I like a 'variety' (to run with everyone's food allergies). I like the trashy junk food just as much as the gourmet 'more than one bite and you'll die of euphoria' dishes.
EDIT: It took a search party, and a few shots from that elephant gun, but I caught that "had" and stuck it back in its place! I also took down that rogue "have" for you, it was looking kinda feral.
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