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WestBaySlave -> RE: The Averages (3/6/2009 10:53:16 AM)
My real time experience is quite limited - two, none of them fully "established" relationships, whether you call it collaring or ownership or something else. The first was my intital foray into BDSM, lasted about six weeks, one overnight scene and meeting real time, the rest of it all long distance. It ended badly, but despite my inexperience, I don't blame myself in this case. The worst I was guilty of was misplaced enthusiasm. The second was a longer situation, about two and a half months in total, one month living together, and only about two weeks of that a full-on 24/7 slave situation.This was both more and less serious - I didn't have a romantic connection to him, unlike the previous one, but we made a serious attempt at a relationship. There was no spark though, and we frustrated each other terribly. Fortunately we both had good enough sense to end it while we were still on good terms. I've also had several more casual scenes with a couple dominants, but sparks failed to fly and we turned out incompatible, so I don't count those. The rest has been online, but considering that I didn't get involved in this scene real-time until the end of last March, it's been a busy year.

RainydayNE -> RE: The Averages (3/6/2009 11:23:11 AM)
my current Dom is the only one

kallisto -> RE: The Averages (3/6/2009 5:04:39 PM)
I've had 3. The first was my first Dom, husband and father of my kids. When he died, I had 3 little ones and jumped pretty quick into the next one. I must have jumped with my eyes closed because that was a mess. It lasted 3 years and that was probably 3 years too long. The last one lasted about 5 years. His job took him West and I had kids and and family and I had moved a couple of times and finally felt settled with the kids and didn't go with him. What did I learn? That I could stand on my own 2 feet. To have patience and listen to my "inner self". I also learned not to second guess myself. I don't look back and wonder "what if?".

mc1234 -> RE: The Averages (3/6/2009 8:00:30 PM)
Attached to? Two. One collared. The other not. Both were real time. I started out online, chatting and getting very attached to a Dom, who never wanted to move to real time. It ended when I realized that I needed real time, and I moved on from there. Between the two I was attached to, I dated and with some I played ... never found the compatability, passion and depth I was looking for. I stopped looking, and was contacted on cm by someone who intrigued me with his uniqueness. And we've been moving forward, taking things one step at a time. Has my search criteria changed? I've become more open as to age - and have become more attracted to men who are older. There's just something about that that I enjoy. I'm less tolerant of the idiots who just want someone to hit their knees whenever they want a BJ. I know the experiences I enjoy and wish to continue enjoying and pushing further, so I also look for someone with the imagination and experience and desire to help us enjoy that.

DVsFox -> RE: The Averages (3/6/2009 9:04:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici How many Dominants have you been attached to? Were they real time, online, or a combination? What if anything have you or did you learn from these situations? Has your search criteria changed? One Real Time I've learned a lot more than I could possibly write about in one sitting. N/A DV's Fox

michelleryder -> RE: The Averages (3/7/2009 5:36:16 AM)
Three for me also. First 2 for just a few months current for close to 5 years. All realtime. I learned the first two were wrong for me and current Master wasn't.

serisa -> RE: The Averages (3/7/2009 7:58:57 AM)
just one relationship, uncollared for a couple years plus. like velvettears i gave my love and trust far too freely to someone who doesnt love me back & to whom my wants, needs and desires were not valued. i hope one day i can freely love with a open heart again but next time it will have to be earnt. so that is my lesson learnt, only to give love to One who deserves it and actually WANTS it. i dont think all men even want love, i wont give love again to someone who wants to use me in a vanilla way

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: The Averages (3/7/2009 8:23:21 AM)
before Daddy, i was attached to 2 dominants though i wouldn't actually call them "dominants". they were kinky (married) tops looking for kinky sex. both were started off as online and then real time however there was no D/s in the dynamic. what i learned was that i was more than a sex object and being forced into something i didn't want to do/be wasn't for me. now i'm attached Daddy for almost 3yrs. even though it's ldr and online - it fits perfectly for me.

catize -> RE: The Averages (3/7/2009 11:00:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: attachezmoi I guess maybe this makes me a subby slut, but in 6 yrs of play, have never agreed to be collared or owned. I have formed attachments, doms I have seen for years now, but I am not owned and am certinaly free to seek out others. It's a personal choice each has to make, for me this way works. Ditto for me! (except R. and I tried an M/s dynamic, but when it didn't work out so well, we returned to D/s.)

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