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sultryone -> Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/5/2009 8:24:30 PM)

I am new to being a submissive/masochist.  I have found someone who is a very heavy player, and I would like to know if there are any ways to learn how to increase the level of my pain tolerance.  I've learned I can take a lot but feeling I have hit my limit, so I am looking for techniques or experiences in how to let go and take more.

There is little warm-up.  There is little aftercare.  But it is all consentual.

Thanks,
sultryone




Needysubgrl -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/5/2009 8:38:27 PM)

You would probably do better if you were warmed up slowly and allowed to come down slowly.  Of course mixing the pain with sexual gratification will make the pain more tolerable and enjoyable.



RainydayNE -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/5/2009 8:42:03 PM)

the time i remember taking the most, there was a warm up process kinda built into everything
it was really nice. nice and welty
there's nothing wrong with using warm up, you're going to have to warm up to increase ability in whatever you do. clarinet playing, marathon running, masochism =p my suggestion is to go slowly



VanessaChaland -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/6/2009 1:05:44 AM)

Just curious if you are wanting to expand your pain limits to suit yourself or is it for the Dom/Domme?



GabrielleSlave -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/6/2009 1:46:16 AM)

When i first started out i couldn't take a tenth of what i can now.  Two years later and i now have a masochistic streak that very nearly matches His sadists urges lol!  My suggestion is like the others; take it slowly and gradually.  With time, patience and skill on the part of your Master, you will probably not notice the gradual change in that you will be able to take more and more.  You will most likely start to want more too and as long as He goes with this, but not too quickly, there should be great fun ahead for you both!

Think of it like athletics training - you could not run a marathon unless you had trained; starting with run/walk sessions for a complete beginner etc  This is exactly the same!  Don't stress, if this is what He wants you to do for Him, then He will be very pleased to help you i'm sure lol!

Have fun

gabrielle x



mc1234 -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/6/2009 5:24:26 AM)

I agree with the warm-up and aftercare being very helpful in stretching limits.  Also some sexual play during the pain helps me take a lot more.  It takes the edge off by distracting me. 

It sounds like this may not be possible within this relationship, but I think it's something you should talk over with this partner.  Does he know you've hit your limits of endurance?  Has he spoken to you about expanding yourself? 



peppermint -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/6/2009 5:47:27 AM)

Being a submissive does not automatically make you a masochist too.  Some people are just not wired for pain.

Other than that, the advice already given in other replies is excellent.  Gradual build up of intensity is the key. 



sultryone -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/6/2009 6:37:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: VanessaChaland

Just curious if you are wanting to expand your pain limits to suit yourself or is it for the Dom/Domme?


It is for the Dom mostly, although I am not one to back away from challenging myself.

As I said, what I know so far, He does little warm-up and not much sexual play in the play itself.  That's just the way He does it.

So, I am looking for ways to mentally prepare myself and possibly teach myself how to take more to please Him, if there is such a way to learn on one's own.



BoiJen -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/6/2009 6:41:30 AM)

Check out being able to do meditative breathing through the scene...or turn your music up really loud and bang your head to it while he beats you....these things work for me



swan70 -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/6/2009 2:18:22 PM)

For me--i let the pain ripple through my body.   i try to not tense up--but stay relaxed.  deep breathing--focusing on other sensations--like the feel of the carpet against my feet, the smell of his cologne, the sounds of His movement



euroluv -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/6/2009 2:51:00 PM)

this one finds that one day she can take more pain the other days  it depends on mood and state of mind too .
and how it is done/given . not enough warm up makes me aggresive in my tolenrance falls to almost none masochist levels and i will ask to be  restrickted i useually know after one minute of starting the session what i want .normally i dont get bound .and i also find if not restrickted in movement pain tolerance is way higher  for ME  personal that is .practice and undergoing things also can make u get used to more pain .

euroluv   



natasha66 -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/6/2009 3:29:25 PM)

Some are just not wired for pain.  I am, but I do have my limits.



rubberpet -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/6/2009 4:58:10 PM)

For me, it's much more mental than physical.  I'm not a masochist in the least, but I do have a fairly high threshold of pain.  In the past, whenever my former owner would flog me or cane me with added "umph" behind the strokes, it would kill the scene for me.  With Mistress, I work myself up into a controled rage and lose myself in my head.  When I'm in that mindset, I hardly feel anything and she's usually wailing on me quite a bit.  She warms me up slowly to give me time to get into my headspace, but once I'm there, the gloves usually come off.



greeneyedreamer -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/6/2009 5:43:11 PM)

please help me understand WHY? For you? or For your master? I don't know if i would ever need more pain tolerance unless i because in love with pain... Oh well... I just don't get it...



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/6/2009 5:47:42 PM)

He's going to have to be willing to put in the work to get you where he wants, and if he's not willing, then I personally would tell him no go, not happening.
quote:

ORIGINAL: sultryone

quote:

ORIGINAL: VanessaChaland

Just curious if you are wanting to expand your pain limits to suit yourself or is it for the Dom/Domme?


It is for the Dom mostly, although I am not one to back away from challenging myself.

As I said, what I know so far, He does little warm-up and not much sexual play in the play itself.  That's just the way He does it.

So, I am looking for ways to mentally prepare myself and possibly teach myself how to take more to please Him, if there is such a way to learn on one's own.




LPslittleclip -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/6/2009 8:02:44 PM)

warm up is great for me as well as getting in the mindset for the scene.as far as becoming more of a masso don't sweat it just relax and learn from watching others and going to events. i noticed you stated that there is little warm up is this something that you want more of ? just thinking but i do much better when i have a warm up than when i get little or none.



quietcontrary -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/7/2009 3:01:34 PM)

Time and pratice are both very good sound tips.  I have another thought though.  When you're sitting down to a nice decodent desuret <spelling>, snap yourself hard with a rubberband or pinch yourself in a sensitive spot or stub your toe into something for that matter, so you can start to associate pain with the pleasure that is going to inevitably going to follow, a sort of conditioning.  Just a thought.



drtygrl -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/7/2009 10:42:27 PM)

pain perception is far more mental than physical, but there are various ways to influence it. All of the suggestions mentioned are great- warm up, sexual play, etc
Even if you're not a masochist you can still enjoy the beauty of how your body reacts to pain with a rush of endorphins. Notice the amazing feeling- it may come right after the pain, during the pain. It may even been a love/hate. It may hurt, but it creates a flooding of sensations that is awesome!



VanessaChaland -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/8/2009 12:47:32 AM)

 Just my opinion here, but I think that is the wrong reason. What if your Dom has the expectations of your having a very high pain tolerance? There has to be parameters and boundaries for your own safety and well being, which only you can set. :)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sultryone

quote:

ORIGINAL: VanessaChaland

Just curious if you are wanting to expand your pain limits to suit yourself or is it for the Dom/Domme?


It is for the Dom mostly, although I am not one to back away from challenging myself.




Dastan -> RE: Increasing Pain Tolerance (3/12/2009 7:19:13 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: drtygrl

pain perception is far more mental than physical, but there are various ways to influence it. All of the suggestions mentioned are great- warm up, sexual play, etc
Even if you're not a masochist you can still enjoy the beauty of how your body reacts to pain with a rush of endorphins. Notice the amazing feeling- it may come right after the pain, during the pain. It may even been a love/hate. It may hurt, but it creates a flooding of sensations that is awesome!



I agrry with Miss grl.

However, as a man, i can tell you that military training often deals with how to withstand pain as operative limit (i.e. heavy exercises in obstacle courses and hard terrain drills) as well as psycho-phisiological deterrent (i.e. torture and interrogation resistance) and the common element to pain is to manage its phases according to the situation.

BDSM is a place where the rules sort of go out of the window for even though you try to take on as much pain as possible, under such circumstances, you must actually obtain a pleasurable feedback from it or its context.

My advice would be to combine and to create intermitent parallel stimulation. Ask him to crop you or cause pain in the manner he wants, but at the lightest level, so you can easily tolerate it and do another thing. For example, the way we did it: we could do pushups with a heavy bag on our back and squats and the instructors would kick us and hit us with their rattan canes or with their rubber sticks softly, and harden it as we progressed until we were almost insensitive to such pain, also use the tazer batons with us at low-level so as to create the same de-sensitation.

Just my 2 cents of peso worth of advise.



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