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RE: i attacked Master :( - 3/9/2009 8:10:48 AM

Valyraen

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It can be a pretty scary place to go to. Kitten and I were playing pretty rough one night and I opened a big ol' can of worms when she tasted blood from biting at my very chapped lips. It made for a hot session, and we discussed it when we could both breathe normally again.

Flash forward to over a year later... Kitten's feral side comes out again, and drags mine to the surface. I found out just how much of a big, bad monster I can be, and that really damaged my calm for a little while. We talked about it, and now it makes for some very hot play that we both walk away from quite sore, but happy.

Glad to hear it all worked out well for you, and good that you two could talk about it freely.

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RE: i attacked Master :( - 3/9/2009 9:52:27 AM

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If someone is hitting me, I won't sit there and take it unless told to do so or he sets that as the standard. It's not at all natural for me. I like playing with a person and in a space where we can react however we react not in line with whatshisface's idea of submissive/dominant/top/bottom.

Your master has already told you everything you need to know, so your job now is to accept that.

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RE: i attacked Master :( - 3/9/2009 12:27:02 PM

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Euroluv, I am glad your Dom has been able to talk things through with you. Still, isolating the trigger may be useful to you. Primal play or getting that fight-or-flight button pushed can be fun if both people are up for that, but I can certainly understand how it might be confusing if you weren't expecting it. Also, if you happened to catch him at the wrong angle or something you could inadvertantly hurt him or yourself if it happens in the future.

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RE: i attacked Master :( - 3/10/2009 12:57:26 PM

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Do not worry, it is a normal and natural reaction.

Unlike others, I do not agree this is normal and natural.
A different perspective for sure.

I cannot even comprehend this !!

You can smile and think I am just being a fool lilthang but.....
so....if you get pushed too far - you go too dark and deeto a place that pure fear takes over - it is simply too much
My Sir can come on here and tell you exactly what I am gonna say.... he would never push too far, never make me go deep or dark or have too much .....

- you think you can just accept it blindly - and give up?
I do not accept blindly nor do I give up.

Instincts take over, realsub - smiles - believe me on that.
I am old enough to know this, believe me !!

The survival instinct in a human being is strong - stronger than any conscious thought.
I have had to survive an AK-47 pointed at my head in a "strange land," with intent to shoot and kill ..... not just one occasion, but several.

The moment you just act - not thinking it through to tell yourself if it this reaction is submissive enough.... I have learned to react carefully most of the time.
Granted an AK-47 is not the same thing as a play scene between Sir and I, but I am with him because I believe in his integrity to never put me too deep, too fast, too dark or where he himself has not or will not go.

Does it make sense now why I simply do not comprehend why attacking my Sir would be normal or natural??
Does it make more sense now, maybe? *smiles*

*smiles*

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RE: i attacked Master :( - 3/10/2009 4:26:14 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RealSub58

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ORIGINAL: badlilthang

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ORIGINAL: RealSub58

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ORIGINAL: robertolapiedra

Do not worry, it is a normal and natural reaction.

Unlike others, I do not agree this is normal and natural.
A different perspective for sure.

I cannot even comprehend this !!

You can smile and think I am just being a fool lilthang but.....
so....if you get pushed too far - you go too dark and deeto a place that pure fear takes over - it is simply too much
My Sir can come on here and tell you exactly what I am gonna say.... he would never push too far, never make me go deep or dark or have too much .....

- you think you can just accept it blindly - and give up?
I do not accept blindly nor do I give up.

Instincts take over, realsub - smiles - believe me on that.
I am old enough to know this, believe me !!

The survival instinct in a human being is strong - stronger than any conscious thought.
I have had to survive an AK-47 pointed at my head in a "strange land," with intent to shoot and kill ..... not just one occasion, but several.

The moment you just act - not thinking it through to tell yourself if it this reaction is submissive enough.... I have learned to react carefully most of the time.
Granted an AK-47 is not the same thing as a play scene between Sir and I, but I am with him because I believe in his integrity to never put me too deep, too fast, too dark or where he himself has not or will not go.

Does it make sense now why I simply do not comprehend why attacking my Sir would be normal or natural??
Does it make more sense now, maybe? *smiles*

*smiles*

well...my compliments to You and Yours, then - it must be wonderful to have One that can read you 100% 24/7 - not many are that lucky...s...

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RE: i attacked Master :( - 3/10/2009 7:49:33 PM

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well...my compliments to You and Yours, then - it must be wonderful to have One that can read you 100% 24/7 - not many are that lucky...s...

Thread hyjack......
I answered truthfully and honestly. I did say "never."

Mock me if you wish. I did not mock you.

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RE: i attacked Master :( - 3/12/2009 6:34:21 AM

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I have had this experience a couple of times now, once in a punishment that I did not believe I derserved and once after a session of teasing that I knew, or at least thought I knew, was not going to end in sex/release/or anything more than more teasing. Overload of frustration seems to be my trigger. I'll be putting up a post asking for advice on this!

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RE: i attacked Master :( - 3/12/2009 10:48:57 PM

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I sent my ex husband across a room once, still have no idea exactly what happened but something clicked in my head and all I knew was he needed away from me NOW. I have only had one D type since then and he was aware of that incident just in case it happened again. That's all we can do, sometimes the mind does things that we don't understand the full reason for.

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RE: i attacked Master :( - 3/13/2009 4:59:09 AM

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we've gone to the same place and this time even though relaxing was hard i did not want it to happen again . and this time in play nothign happened so i hope this was and will be the only time it happened it was scarey . and i still feel guilty
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RE: i attacked Master :( - 3/15/2009 4:00:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: RealSub58

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ORIGINAL: badlilthang

well...my compliments to You and Yours, then - it must be wonderful to have One that can read you 100% 24/7 - not many are that lucky...s...

Thread hyjack......
I answered truthfully and honestly. I did say "never."

Mock me if you wish. I did not mock you.

***i did not mock you - what i said was sincere, but it is not always easy to get the right tone of voice through on paper. I obviously struck a nerve in you - but again - i meant what i said in a very positive way. ***

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