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RE: A Preference for Experience - 3/9/2009 2:36:26 AM

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For me, I had my children young. I'm now in my early 30's and find I have more in common with people in their 40's. It just makes sense for me to look for someone older. I am respectful to everyone, regardless of age, gender or sexual preferences but I find that I have a greater respect for those who are older. It's just something that was drilled in to me from an early age - to respect those that are older than me. Like others have said, older men also bring a lot more to the table in terms of life experiences and are less liekly to judge you on your looks or your body. They know from experience that it's the person within that counts more than the shell they inhabit. I also find that older men are more patient and caring than someone younger.

I suppose it's all down to personal preferences at the end of the day, and an olde rman is certainly one of mine.

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RE: A Preference for Experience - 3/9/2009 5:28:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
Being I have an older UM I tend to be creeped out by men who are much younger than me.

My daughter has forbidden me to date anyone who is closer to her age than mine.

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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper
Debonaire grey hair? Money? That fatherly look? wrinkles around the eyes and mouth from a life of expressions?

Another way to look at this question: As I get older, what do I have to look forward too?

You're talking about superficial physical traits. If you want to know what physical traits you have to look forward to, look at your parents.

If you want to know what to look forward to in your future relationship, talk to HisHeavan.

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RE: A Preference for Experience - 3/9/2009 6:01:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: feydeplume

There is a very shallow reason for the 30-50 age submissive to appreciate about older men. To them, we are still young and fresh and tender. We see our youth in their eyes and we see the appreciation of the beauty that we have now, rather than the wrinkles or the sagging or 'defects' that we see in a younger man's eyes.

I hadn't thought of that, but I understand it. Interesting!

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RE: A Preference for Experience - 3/9/2009 6:06:58 PM

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It's more about the life experience than anything else for me. Guys that are more than a few years younger than me (generally) weren't raised with the same values that the older guys were. It's much harder to find the young guys that open the door, drop you off at the entrance in the rain, etc. that the older guys do as a course of action.

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RE: A Preference for Experience - 3/9/2009 6:09:30 PM

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Shoot, i just wanted someone i could talk to after the beatings and fun.

Usually that comes from someone who has been around the block a time or two.

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RE: A Preference for Experience - 3/10/2009 3:14:52 AM

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I've been involved with ladies half my age and several ladies in their 30's. I"ve asked them what they were attracted to:
I'd like to day it was my stunning good looks, but damn I put up pictures so I won't lie.
I'm weird, always have been. I've been described as a Generation Y in a baby boomer body (take my body ... please).
I love conversations about ... many strange things. I've shared a love of horses with a few ladies. I love hopping on the motorcycle and going north to do some wine tasting. I love cooking and having large meals with friends and family. I love listening to a lady tell me what she wants and what she is about.
I am not old (regardless of my age.) I'm a damn liberal and proud of it. I love to lay in bed and listen to her tell me of her fears and desires. I love playing with someone I love. I love pushing a lady on the swing or sliding down a slide. Water fights or helping to build something are all parts of the equation. I love to explore a woman's body. She is a unique being. responding to touch in her own special way. Relax and enjoy her passions in life, her mind, her emotions and her. I treat her like a woman.

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RE: A Preference for Experience - 3/10/2009 2:42:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: apiercedkitty
It's much harder to find the young guys that open the door, drop you off at the entrance in the rain, etc. that the older guys do as a course of action.

I do those things :D

Go me! ^_^

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RE: A Preference for Experience - 3/10/2009 2:56:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

With reason, many younger submissives, 18-30, prefer their dominant to be older and more experienced. I know many prefer similar aged counterparts, and I'm not saying old is better than young; those are not the focus here.

I want to know what attracts people to the 45+ year old dominant.

Other than experience*, what are the attractive qualities? (Leaving this question open ended doesn't mean I don't have an answer, I just don't want to restrain creativity.)

*Experience is a factor of when one started and how in depth and consistent they've been in said field. A 25 year old can have way more man-hours than a 75 year older, even with the 1/2 century gap.

Ageism.

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RE: A Preference for Experience - 3/10/2009 3:41:26 PM

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I just find, and now this is not always true but mostly, that the older guys have their lives put together, and are financially stable emotionally stable and they have a game plan for their lives and know how to treat the ladies.

Now however it's not always true mind you.

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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

I want to know what attracts people to the 45+ year old dominant.

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RE: A Preference for Experience - 3/10/2009 9:09:03 PM

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i am a 23 yr old bi submisive so i cant exactly say i have much life experience to share from but i wont date or even play with a male that is within 5 yrs(preferable 10) of me. i have always found men my age are immature, party too much, and onlythink about sports, sex, and drugs/alcohol. yes sex is great but i wanna be able to carry on a conversation about things..interests hobbies whatever. (music, cars, animals, kids).I chose older men not just for their maturety but life experience, knowing what they like/what they want, more willing to stay home and snuggle than party and be wild, and yes the fatherly look. I am definitly into Daddy Doms. Daddys especially, are willing to see inner beauty before outter, thoughts of settling down are closer to the front of their minds. I have been told many many times i have an old soul. for this reason i tend to have more in common with older men and can relate to them more, and DAMN that slightly greying hair does something to me and gets me hot. My Daddy now is actually 20 yrs older than myself. we get along great and things couldnt be better. the youngest guy i dated was 6 yrs older and we have parted ways because i am ready to settle down and do things with my life besides drink alcohol and stay out late and he enjoyed the bachelor life too much.

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RE: A Preference for Experience - 3/11/2009 9:10:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: agirl

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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

Maybe I should specify my question.

With so many people prefering a guy who's been around more years, is it the experience that weighs so heavily, or other positive traits?

Debonaire grey hair? Money? That fatherly look? wrinkles around the eyes and mouth from a life of expressions?

Another way to look at this question: As I get older, what do I have to look forward too?

A craggy face that hints at a thousand tales, a sense of humour that is disgustingly wicked, a calmness in storms from having weathered so many....the chance to be *oh, so NOT what is expected*. The confidence of knowing what you're good at and exploiting it to the full in the best possible ways.

There are some things you simply cannot pour into younger, firmer flesh........

agirl

I so liked reading that.

All I need then, is a craggy face that hints of a thousand tales

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RE: A Preference for Experience - 3/11/2009 3:54:16 PM

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maybe b/c i'm young i don't like the creepy old men. i have played with older Doms and i like their experience, but don't want to be owned by someone who is nearly twice my age or more. ohter subs like old men for thier years, but i prefer somone my own age or close to it

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