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slavedezzie -> probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 7:07:24 AM)
i am new to being a slave, i have been a submissive for about 3 years, but reccently i met a Master that saw something more and brought her to the surface. Since that time i have fallen hard for Him, i can see living my whole life as His. But the past few days there has been no contact from Him, which is very unsual. i have tried to call but He does not answer or call back. it is becoming unbearable and i dont know where to go from here. please give me some advice, some shread of hope...i am losing mine. i might be over reacting but i just cant help but feel something isnt right. its so unlike Him...

subangi -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 7:13:52 AM)
Is this an online Master or realtime?

LaTigresse -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 7:23:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavedezzie i am new to being a slave, i have been a submissive for about 3 years, but reccently i met a Master that saw something more and brought her to the surface. Since that time i have fallen hard for Him, i can see living my whole life as His. But the past few days there has been no contact from Him, which is very unsual. i have tried to call but He does not answer or call back. it is becoming unbearable and i dont know where to go from here. please give me some advice, some shread of hope...i am losing mine. i might be over reacting but i just cant help but feel something isnt right. its so unlike Him... Stop over to his place. Make sure he is okay.

SirKenn -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 7:41:49 AM)
I have to agree with LaTigress on this one. Odd things can happen and it is ok to check. There is the chance that it is a diliberate rebuke and if so you need to know that as well.

plainjoe7 -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 7:44:54 AM)
scenarios : 1 he is married 2 he had a accident 3 he is no longer interested /he found someone else. I hope I'm wrong. Good Luck.

LadyPact -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 7:47:47 AM)
Feeling the devil this morning, LaT? I'm actually torn between thinking it might be funny if the wife answered the door or feeling for the OP if the guy just isn't interested anymore and is screening his calls via caller ID. I could be completely wrong about both. How surprised would I be if I was right and it happened to be either one of those things? Not much.

Aileen1968 -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 7:55:20 AM)
My money's on him being married.

subangi -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 7:57:49 AM)
I have found that if there is interest, then contact in some form is rendered. If that is an impossibility for a certain circumstance or time frame, then a quickie email explaining that communication would be impossible for whatever reasons. There is no excuse for not communicating in some form if there is interest.

dreamerdreaming -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 8:02:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavedezzie i am new to being a slave, i have been a submissive for about 3 years, but reccently i met a Master that saw something more and brought her to the surface. Since that time i have fallen hard for Him, i can see living my whole life as His. But the past few days there has been no contact from Him, which is very unsual. i have tried to call but He does not answer or call back. it is becoming unbearable and i dont know where to go from here. please give me some advice, some shread of hope...i am losing mine. i might be over reacting but i just cant help but feel something isnt right. its so unlike Him... WTF? Where has people's common sense gone, lately? OP, as said above: go check on him and make sure he's alright, if it is realtime. That's what people did, before the internet. If he's married, you probably won't be able to because he hasn't told you where he lives. So if that's the case, consider yourself dumped, or dump him when he finally gets around to contacting you. If it is online (meaning you haven't met in person yet) and he went poof, see above. You have been dumped. Block him, and delete. Don't let him waste any more of your time and energy. In this day and age it only takes a second to text someone to let them know you're alive and thinking of them. Not doing so is a clear sign that he's just not that into you. Forget him. Sorry to be so harsh, but he's showing by his actions that he's not worthy of you.

OsideGirl -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 8:04:30 AM)
We know nothing about this relationship...whether it's online, how long it's been going on, whether it's a committed relationship, etc. What's a few days? 2 or 3? For all we know this could be a month old relationship with an adult woman freaking out because he hasn't called in three days. To the OP: Stop calling, stop emailing. (how many times have you already?) He'll either answer or he won't. You can't make him. Personally, I think you're over reacting and you need to just deal with it. You could stop by, but be aware it has the potential to blow up in your face.

LaTigresse -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 8:07:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Feeling the devil this morning, LaT? I'm actually torn between thinking it might be funny if the wife answered the door or feeling for the OP if the guy just isn't interested anymore and is screening his calls via caller ID. I could be completely wrong about both. How surprised would I be if I was right and it happened to be either one of those things? Not much. Meee the devil? Yes and no. I guess it is difficult for me to fathom being so emotionally invested in someone I wasn't free to check on physically. Regardless of whether dominant or submissive. Oh yeah, I know it happens. We see post after post about mad love, even though they haven't even physically met. And yes, I know it is possible to care about someone via the net........But, to get so emotionally invested without KNOWING the other person isn't playing internet games, seems foolish at best.

SteelofUtah -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 8:18:12 AM)
There are so many variables my head is swimming in them. How long have you been involved? Is it just Online or is there REGULAR real time Contact? If you have phone numbers is it a Cell Phone Only or do you have the home phone as well? Do these calls always go to Voice Mail? Does he get Irritated when you call at inconvenient times? All the above questions will help you to determine if this Dom is a Dud or not. I remember the days of mIRC when subs were collared to thier Masters after knowing them for only a matter of days and the out of no where said Master would Drop off the face of the planet never to be heard from again. It wasn't always that they were married, they were just not as INTO the online thing as thier submissive counterpart was. I have been accused of this before. I don't do long distance I was always clear about this right up front. I told them that I would be willing to move to them or they would have to move to me but that being TOGETHER was important to me. Numerous times they were more interested in the Internet Fantasy than the real deal. If things were swimming along and there was always some excuse why we could not be together then I would let them know that I was unable to maintain a Long Distance Relationship and I would move on. Then there is the Other side of things. Often the "Dominant" is a Pervert who is really just amazed at the things you are willing to do just because he wants you to, you are a toy and when he bores of all the pussy shots you send him and all the web camming you do for him he will break all contact and return to what he thinks is NORMAL life. The first questions I always ask is "How well do you Really know you Dominant? What is his Full Name First Middle and Last? What does he do for a living? Did he Graduate High School? Has he ever been married?" If you do not know the answers to these simple questions you have to ask yourself how much more you don't know. These are things I talk about on the first conversation. I know the answers to these things before we even know if we like each other. And Finally, you have to ask yourself this very important question. If he IS alright and not Dead in a Ditch do you believe that he handled you correctly on this? How hard is it to send you a Text Message, An E-Mail, a phone call to say, " I am Busy right now and cannot be botered" If he cannot do that then how important are you to him. It is a bad practice to make someone your priority while you simply remain an option. Steel

LadyPact -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 8:49:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse I guess it is difficult for me to fathom being so emotionally invested in someone I wasn't free to check on physically. Regardless of whether dominant or submissive. I understand where you're coming from. I also get that you wouldn't be suited for a situation like Mine. It's not exactly like I can pop over to Korea should the other half have communication restrictions due to certain liabilities. Once clip's deployed, I won't always have the same internet connections with him, either.

stella41b -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 8:55:03 AM)
How about having realistic expectations regarding the relationship and not projecting much into the relationship? A relationship is only as good as it actually is up to a given moment in time. Go by what people do over what they say. Intentions can be very beautiful in life but lives are shaped by actions, not intentions. Yes he could be married. He also might be crossdresser with a panty wearing fetish and be sat at home shitting bricks worried sick how he's going to break it to you. He might have lost your number. He might have actually encountered a Rottweiler with PTSD which sank its jaws into his cobblers and he might be holed up in some hospital nursing a painful, throbbing aubergine between his legs. He might be stuck on the John having run out of toilet roll and the cellphone is just out of his reach. I'm sure you can think up lots of other scenarios. The only way to find out is to get in touch with him and say 'Hey look squire, what's the deal here?'. If you can't get in touch with him for some reason why not get a few of the girlfriends together and have a decent girl's night out, and at least have a break away from the comp?

LaTigresse -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 9:01:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse I guess it is difficult for me to fathom being so emotionally invested in someone I wasn't free to check on physically. Regardless of whether dominant or submissive. I understand where you're coming from. I also get that you wouldn't be suited for a situation like Mine. It's not exactly like I can pop over to Korea should the other half have communication restrictions due to certain liabilities. Once clip's deployed, I won't always have the same internet connections with him, either. Actually, that would be incorrect. Lots of military experience here. In fact GD just retired after the last tour in Iraq. Somehow I doubt that the OP is dealing with a military deployment. I could be wrong.

plainjoe7 -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 10:10:21 AM)
stella 41b Yes he could be married. He also might be crossdresser with a panty wearing fetish and be sat at home shitting bricks worried sick how he's going to break it to you. He might have lost your number. He might have actually encountered a Rottweiler with PTSD which sank its jaws into his cobblers and he might be holed up in some hospital nursing a painful, throbbing aubergine between his legs. He might be stuck on the John having run out of toilet roll and the cellphone is just out of his reach. nice post. lol.

DeviantlyD -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 10:18:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah I remember the days of mIRC Steel Perhaps you were referring to your own personal experiences....'cause IRC is still around. :D Sorry for the mini-hijack. As to the OP's question - I can't really add anything more to the comments already said. I just recently came out of an online/phone communication with a dominant that lasted a few months. The intention was to take it to real life, but it fizzled before we got to that point. He just stopped calling. I tried contacting him one time, expressing concern - not wanting to appear to be an entirely careless bitch. I've since seen him online. Fortunately for both of us, my interest waned, just as his did, so I was able to chalk it up as another experience - albeit with a slightly bruised ego, but an intact heart.

SteelofUtah -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 10:25:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah I remember the days of mIRC Steel Perhaps you were referring to your own personal experiences....'cause IRC is still around. :D Yes I was refering to my own days, I have since lost most interest of the irc.bondage.com server and use it now to chit chat with random people and start crap with the High and Mighty who live thier lives around it. The point is still valid however. mIRC showed me alot about the world of internet romance. I have seen how they gain momentum and then fizzzle as if they were never really there to begin with. I also discovered a whole sub-group of people for whom that WAS what kink was all about. I wanted to point out to the OP how sometimes what we want something to be isn't what it really is. Steel

SailingBum -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 11:27:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavedezzie i am new to being a slave, i have been a submissive for about 3 years, but reccently i met a Master that saw something more and brought her to the surface. Since that time i have fallen hard for Him, i can see living my whole life as His. But the past few days there has been no contact from Him, which is very unsual. i have tried to call but He does not answer or call back. it is becoming unbearable and i dont know where to go from here. please give me some advice, some shread of hope...i am losing mine. i might be over reacting but i just cant help but feel something isnt right. its so unlike Him... Thinking drama queen... recently met spending rest of your life with? HUH get a grip on reality. It's pretty obvious he is not that into you... BadOne

CatdeMedici -> RE: probably over reacting but needs advice (3/9/2009 4:03:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: slavedezzie i am new to being a slave, i have been a submissive for about 3 years, but reccently i met a Master that saw something more and brought her to the surface. Since that time i have fallen hard for Him, i can see living my whole life as His. But the past few days there has been no contact from Him, which is very unsual. i have tried to call but He does not answer or call back. it is becoming unbearable and i dont know where to go from here. please give me some advice, some shread of hope...i am losing mine. i might be over reacting but i just cant help but feel something isnt right. its so unlike Him... Stop over to his place. Make sure he is okay. Ya know, I never have heard your voice and yet I heard the deadpan comment as clear as day.

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