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RE: probably over reacting but needs advice - 3/9/2009 4:43:27 PM

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dezzie ... No, you're probably not overreacting. Perhaps you're experiencing your first bout of disappearing dom syndrome. Let it strengthen you. I assume this is an online thing or that you don't know his name, which means he's probably married or otherwise in a relationship. Like most have said, he's probably not that into you, and is making you an option.

My advice, and this comes hard-earned ... take a deep breath, step away from the computer and the phone. Don't contact him again. Let yourself get over him. Don't allow him to re-enter your life. He may come back with some excuse. If he's been in the hospital, demand a doctor's note... if his mom died, ask for the name of the funeral home. In other words, become cynical.

None of this is to negate the fact that you are hurt right now. Let it be a lesson to not get so attached to someone so quickly. Take your time. We see this on the boards all the time - disappearing doms and subs. None of us know where your relationship stood or why he stopped calling and ignored your attempts at contact. But we do know what that means.

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RE: probably over reacting but needs advice - 3/9/2009 4:50:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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I guess it is difficult for me to fathom being so emotionally invested in someone I wasn't free to check on physically. Regardless of whether dominant or submissive.

I understand where you're coming from. I also get that you wouldn't be suited for a situation like Mine.

It's not exactly like I can pop over to Korea should the other half have communication restrictions due to certain liabilities. Once clip's deployed, I won't always have the same internet connections with him, either.

Actually, that would be incorrect. Lots of military experience here. In fact GD just retired after the last tour in Iraq.

Somehow I doubt that the OP is dealing with a military deployment. I could be wrong.

I didn't know that one, LaT. Maybe I did and it just didn't sink in.

Welcome home, GD. I'm glad you made it.

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RE: probably over reacting but needs advice - 3/9/2009 8:05:35 PM

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dezzie...you ok? Huntertn

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RE: probably over reacting but needs advice - 3/10/2009 4:55:42 AM

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You may want examine your own internal dialogs when it comes to relating to Dominants, Masters and yourself.

Event + Perception = Outcome. How you perceive an event determines the outcome. Let me explain: You recently met a Master who you felt brought out more in you than had been felt previously. That is the event. From that event you created an internal dialog based on a perception that He is "The One" that you could be owned by for the rest of your life. The outcome is that you "fell hard" for this guy.

A person's perception is their reality. Try looking at the above event with a different perception. Can you envision a different outcome?

Therefore if perception is reality we can either change our reality or change our perception. The choice is yours.

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RE: probably over reacting but needs advice - 3/17/2009 11:20:56 AM

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RE: probably over reacting but needs advice - 3/17/2009 11:34:56 AM

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if it smells fishy... looks fishy..and seems fishy... then thats probably what it is , a wet fish..
sorry for the negativity but been in this place myself ..
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RE: probably over reacting but needs advice - 3/17/2009 11:42:22 AM

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Just remember this: if you never hear from him again, remember that you lucked out by finding out about this side of him sooner rather than later.

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RE: probably over reacting but needs advice - 3/17/2009 7:17:55 PM

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Always go with your intuition, if something does not feel right then it probably isn't. I think he may be married or has lost interest. Consider yourself lucky that it didn't go on any longer than it already had. You would have been hurt even more than you are now. Hold your head up high, heal a while and move forward.

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RE: probably over reacting but needs advice - 3/17/2009 7:23:54 PM

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but reccently i met a Master that saw something more and brought her to the surface.

How Recently?????

If it's like a few weeks? you never know... If it's Months... or a year or so different story... Time means a lot here... really..

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RE: probably over reacting but needs advice - 3/18/2009 5:02:12 AM

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my question exactly...subangi...if he is on line..then she should know! real time is the only true verification of someones feelings and intent towards you over the long run!
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