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But I have noticed that when I an truly hurt..I tend to get loud,violent, and defensive as hell...so no..I don't make much of a safe bottom to be around...shugs..But I have noticed real subs do laugh..quite a lot of them when its too much to process...

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Many a time in a restaurant or wherever when i will have had an inappropriate thought run through my head ... Master always sees that on my face, i'm just too transparent! So then He insists i tell Him what i was thinking ... i squirm ... and giggle. The more i laugh, the more i realise that it wasn't really that big a deal so why am i laughing ... at which i laugh more! He just sits there with this great big grin on His face saying "you know you're going to have to tell Me so you may as well get on with it".

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ORIGINAL: TranceTara

Hi MoGa,

Thanks for the topic.

There were many times in the past, during a scene, in which I felt like laughing and consciously tried to control it for fear of offending my top. As a result, I focused more on stopping the laugh and did not focus on the sensation play. Then I learned to let it out.

I remember one of the last scenes I did, a few years ago. She had placed candles on my back and if I overreacted to the caning by moving too much, I'd cause the wax to pour onto my skin, thus, I was causing myself much of the pain. lol And, I began to see the humour in it all for the scene was quite metaphorical for me. I have the choice on how I react to any given situation. If I resist and over-react, then I cause myself much pain.

When she turned me over, the tears began flowing and I got the catharsis we both knew I needed. She would not allow me to go into the "la la subspace land". The minute I looked as though I were drifting off she'd bring me back; the minute I'd close my eyes to go into my own world, she'd request that I look at her. Then, after several minutes of sobbing I broke out into uncontrollable laughter. The more I laughed, the more pain she would inflict. lol

I was laughing at how silly I must have looked. I was laughing at how attached I was to so many things in my life; my body, my ego, pleasure, pain. I saw how I had not let go of my mother, who had died a couple of years earlier. I was laughing at how I could not say, "OUCH! That hurts," because I was laughing so hard. lol

And, it was a grand lesson for me, because nowadays, even on one of those "dark night of the soul" days, when I feel hope is lost, when my body is not doing as I wish and is in severe pain, I will burst out into laughter, not as avoidance, but as a form of self love. I can see a part of me is suffering and my 'higher self' comes in with such love and acceptance and laughs "with" me, not "at" me. When my judge comes in to berate me, the laughter short circuits her and gives me some respite.

TT

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ORIGINAL: doll

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Librarysub and Doll,
Is it uncontrollable or do you laugh deliberately to keep the tears from flowing?

 
For me, it is usually deliberate to stop the tears from flowing, I try to hide that one weakness for some reason.  Sometimes it is uncontrollable, it just happens cause I don't know whether to laugh or cry or both.

Thank you roomie

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ORIGINAL: LovingMistress45

This is an interesting topic.  I have done many scenes which have resulted in laughter. I love the pic of you (MoGa) chasing your sub with a paddle because that is the type of thing that has happened in my own relationship with playful subs.  However, recently I have played with a relatively new femsub to our group doing breast torture and she laughs, which in turns makes me laugh.  We have scened twice at play parties and I have enjoyed it very much.  Laughter is good for you.  I hadn't actually played with someone that laughed from pain before but it was a very enjoyable scene.

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ORIGINAL: MoGa

lol and now I have the same image of you with your playful subs! It is a great work out, is it not? <s>

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ORIGINAL: hotandlonelynFTW

being fairly new to lifestyle, i thought i was the only one that did this.(i am submissive) I was at a play party and a gentleman whom i believe is a submissive had amde a comment that he would love to see me in action because he thought by my personality i would be very animated and comical to watch..he was right. i do not tolerate very much pain but recieving a flogging or whip or riding crop and i start laughing..not hysterically but kind of a nice easy comfortable laugh. doesnt helpp that im tickelish and i think that the whip tickles most the time. some one earlier had mentioned about a medical senario where they were laughing..when i had my daughter i ripped and as the dr is sewing me up (episiotomy?) i was squirming and laughing and i told him i couldnt help it b/c it tickled so much..he said in his 25 yr career hes never had any one tell him it tickled

First of all, welcome to CM

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I just thought of time with a former sub when we were at the beach and he was in a particularly playful/fiesty mood and had done several things to me including pulling me under the water. When he came and put his hands on my waist I knew he was going to do something and I thought it was pull me under the water again - so I order in a quite dominant matter that he better not pull me under the water again, he didn't he threw me over his head into the water

How odd! I had the same thing happen to me and my former! Although in our case, a giant wave came and knocked me down. I hit my head on his knee and I was laughing so hard, I didn't even notice I could have had a concussion! To this day the poor guy thinks he caused my aneurysm

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Tara, This is so beautifully written. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I suppose we all are responsible in some way to the amount of pain we accept. I didn't break my toe on purpose, or lose my sight on purpose, both have caused me great pain, but how we learn to live with it, is the important thing. It is nice to be reminded of that every now and then.   <Hugs>   MoGa

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Fey,
I have to admit that total "silence" makes me a bit nervous. It never used to before I lost my sight, but now, it does. I have always used my instinct and eyes to judge how my sub was feeling, if he were quiet. Now, I have to use my instincts and my ears. If Geoff is very quiet and not making a sound, I know where his head is and I can almost guarantee that he is "gone". But in Deb's case, in a dimly lit dungeon, I liked that she continuously made noises, which enabled me to do two things;
One: To know where she was, exactly. Because that girl can dance!
Two: To be able to "see" how she was doing.
It helped alot that BlkPhoenix was in front of her at all times, as he was wearing all black and Deb was naked (Light skin).
I also enjoy when my sub giggles. But it does make me want to do a little tickle torture