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InTonguesslave -> RE: Submissives self motivated? (3/12/2009 4:10:48 PM)
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ORIGINAL: lovingpet
May I first just say that I hate fitting into boxes, especially those made by someone else that I am expected to enter without my input or consent. Okay so I'm grumpy.....
I don't think it has anything to do with orientation, but in my own experience, there was a specific time in my life that brought me to a realization of what I needed and desired. I needed to have someone take control of a world that was spinning out of control with little I really could do about it. I needed the feeling of inward control since the outside world was not playing by the rules. I am not talking about self control, as I have that in spades, but of some area of placidity in the midst of chaos. Further, it was a weak time in my life when I did not feel of use to anyone. Think about how that would feel to a submissive who wants nothing more than to make others' lives easier and do for people. I needed to be desired in my weakest moments. I needed to know there was someone who could gain contribution from my being in their lives. My point is, it may be because of the way submissive needs become glaringly exposed that such an attitude exists. It was when I was weak and my world turned upside down that I could not ignore who and what I was.
Did this help at all, or is it the ramblings of someone who really should just go to bed? LOL
lovingpet
nothing to add:
except this put in my head that wonderful parable, is it, im not sure, called footsteps. everyone knows it, its truely beautiful and basically means the same thing. that when we are at our weakest that is when we need to be carried. doesnt mean we are weak all of the time, simply that sometimes the seeking of a Master or even a good friend is all part of needing to be supported and then other times we do the supporting.
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