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Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 12:50:57 PM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		Last night as i was pathetically rolling around in bed, squirming, pathetically trying to convince him that he REALLY does want to say " go ahead" i thought about collarme = ) You should of SEEN the rant i was typing off in my head! i thought about the whole mind over matter and it wasnt working. i thought about the whole "myths of submission" and i was soooooooo believing in it. Not that i didnt. But i was like THIS is a perfect example! i was pathetic and making a fool of myself. LOL And i soooooooo didnt care. i knew that it was for the better and i really wanted to please him... but i sooooo didnt care. i wanted to masterbate and i wanted to RIGHT THEN. And i was soooo not getting my way. i tried every approach to man to convince my man that saying yes was what he really wanted to do. i even told him i was addicted to masterbation and i was going through withdrawl and having hot flashes. And if i didnt get my fix, i was going to turn into this horrible person. And i tried almost every trick in the book. i tried manipulation, i tried telling him that if he just gave me a signal we'd keep it quiet and pretend it never happened. And when i'd come up with a really good "story" on why i should be able to masterbate, he'd just IGNORE ME. Lord i'd of taken anything Whip me beat me, kiss me, touch me.. anything!! Nope. Nada, nothing, zip, zero, zilch. Nothing. He let me have my cell phone and i called myself about 15 times last night and all it did was drive me more insane.

the sky could of fallen and i wouldnt of cared about anything except getting into his lock box where all my vibes were. <sigh> and i even tried talking to myself. It didnt not work. Cos i didnt care.

So erm anyone else want to commiserate with me? Cos misery loves company? Anyone have any really good techniques? Anyone else here on restrictions? Anyone else wanna have a good laugh with at me, with me? Anyone else want to share a story of how desperate they were so i dont feel like a total nimrod?

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 1:00:03 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Looking at the larger picture, how does this play into the lack of sex overall in the relationship? What about the emotional connecticvity and stability between you two?

It really looks like you're just going through another manic phase.

Are you fulfilled with the relationship as a whole? Do you see things being positive in the long term? Obviously manipulation and masturbation denial isn't the end of the world and we've all had frustrated nights. But to act out in such a way as this might just be one piece of a very complex puzzle. If there's something else going on, your reaction here might be more understandable.

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 1:49:39 PM   
veronicaofML


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Status: offline 		Anyone else here on restrictions?
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yeah but once a month is okay for me.
ain't like i have much libido left to care.

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 1:53:10 PM   
la90066


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On a similar note... I was instant messaging with one yesterday. She was on her computer in a public place, so obviously she couldn't do anything.

Of course, being the rat-bastard that I am, I started typing away all these ever so NASTY little tid bits for her to read. She kept BEGGING me to allow her to go into the restroom to get herself off cause she was soaking wet.

Nope... Sorry hun... Uh uhhh... I made her endure this for around 30 to 45 minutes and then she had a good 30 minute drive home.

<--- Evil Fucker, I know... hee hee hee

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 3:04:40 PM   
Slipstreme


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Status: offline 		Sorry, but that is my kindof evilness too. The mental pain and frustration from not being allowed to climax, or worse, peaking over and over again! Ive made a couple submissives I talked to deal with that. One Switch submissive had to peak until he got to see his lover again. Gads he was having a rough time (open relationship, I may end up in their poly group).

Of course, I like the same type of torture, and thus have done that to myself quite a few times for extended periods.

So yeah, although I would love to sympathize, I cant.

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Nope... Sorry hun... Uh uhhh... I made her endure this for around 30 to 45 minutes and then she had a good 30 minute drive home.


On a bumpy road? Hehe.

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 3:18:44 PM   
sweetpettjenny


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Status: offline 		I just need to ask permission..its up to Master to say yes or no.

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 3:27:27 PM   
Rayne58


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Status: offline 		I'm encouraged to masturbate, just not allowed to cum until I get permission - sooooo frustrating at the time but it's worth it in the end

In fact He has to tell me to do it, I just don't otherwise. I can go a couple of weeks without an orgasm quite easily. I think I have "trained" myself out of it during my nilla marriage when I switched off from all things sexual During play I get aroused easily, but if we're not doing anything sexual that part of me isn't "online" for want of a better way of explaining it!

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 4:56:15 PM   
Sirandlittle1


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Status: offline 		Im a squirter, and ensure, that im always on his side, for the final release. then roll over to my nice dry area and sleep, revenge is best served cold, and wet!
little1

seriously though, its a weird kinda game to play denial. Why cant people just say, im a lazy git, and too tired to fuck? lol

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 6:22:53 PM   
wolffeathers


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sirandlittle1

Im a squirter, and ensure, that im always on his side, for the final release. then roll over to my nice dry area and sleep, revenge is best served cold, and wet!
little1

seriously though, its a weird kinda game to play denial. Why cant people just say, im a lazy git, and too tired to fuck? lol


because it can be a great punishment.

It also serves to hieghten the next time that the person that isn't being allowed to orgasim is finally allowed to.

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 6:42:12 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: wolffeathers

It also serves to hieghten the next time that the person that isn't being allowed to orgasim is finally allowed to.

Depending on the person. I'm very difficult to orgasm. When denied it actually makes it much harder to orgasm the next time it is denial. And it does not feel more intense once it happens.

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 7:08:50 PM   
1wildwolf


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Status: offline 		im the oppostite to lucky, in that i'm hard to make cum by other people, but it gets easier the longer i go between orgasms...

and my Domme chooses when i cum or not merely because its another way for Her to control me

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 7:14:15 PM   
Mastermozilla


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Status: offline 		I think a way to have restrictions that I have read about in porn stories is to have a chasity belt.

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 8:06:24 PM   
MHOO314


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mastermozilla

I think a way to have restrictions that I have read about in porn stories is to have a chasity belt.




????? WTH?

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 8:13:39 PM   
MTslave


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Status: offline 		With Master overseas until the end of Feb. one of the ways he enjoys keeping or feeling like he is keeping control is by doing and having such restrictions. I've been given many different sexual activites to do some allowing release some not. He loves hearing about it. Once again though this goes on the long term relationship building trust factor. He trusts that I am doing what he is asking of me and I trust that he has a plan in mind. Oh and what a sweet wonderful plan that is to.

You're not alone.

MTs slave

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/23/2006 8:40:42 PM   
NeedToUseYou


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

Last night as i was pathetically rolling around in bed, squirming, pathetically trying to convince him that he REALLY does want to say " go ahead" i thought about collarme = ) You should of SEEN the rant i was typing off in my head! i thought about the whole mind over matter and it wasnt working. i thought about the whole "myths of submission" and i was soooooooo believing in it. Not that i didnt. But i was like THIS is a perfect example! i was pathetic and making a fool of myself. LOL And i soooooooo didnt care. i knew that it was for the better and i really wanted to please him... but i sooooo didnt care. i wanted to masterbate and i wanted to RIGHT THEN. And i was soooo not getting my way. i tried every approach to man to convince my man that saying yes was what he really wanted to do. i even told him i was addicted to masterbation and i was going through withdrawl and having hot flashes. And if i didnt get my fix, i was going to turn into this horrible person. And i tried almost every trick in the book. i tried manipulation, i tried telling him that if he just gave me a signal we'd keep it quiet and pretend it never happened. And when i'd come up with a really good "story" on why i should be able to masterbate, he'd just IGNORE ME. Lord i'd of taken anything Whip me beat me, kiss me, touch me.. anything!! Nope. Nada, nothing, zip, zero, zilch. Nothing. He let me have my cell phone and i called myself about 15 times last night and all it did was drive me more insane.

the sky could of fallen and i wouldnt of cared about anything except getting into his lock box where all my vibes were. <sigh> and i even tried talking to myself. It didnt not work. Cos i didnt care.

So erm anyone else want to commiserate with me? Cos misery loves company? Anyone have any really good techniques? Anyone else here on restrictions? Anyone else wanna have a good laugh with at me, with me? Anyone else want to share a story of how desperate they were so i dont feel like a total nimrod?




Would comment, but I have to go masturbate after reading that. Do you have anymore stories

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/26/2006 8:44:37 PM   
Sirandlittle1


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Status: offline 		Well wolffeathers, it no punishment or supposedly that not the motivator.

His endurance is far better than mine, and being strengthened by this damn aussie heat. So here i am, sexually really frustrated, ratty as fuck, not good company, getting into trouble left right and centre, now being punished in earnest. Yeah, great game!

I dont want a orgasm, i want a fight now.

And he breezes out the door to work, asking me to consider why i am a little 'short' today. ffs. I hate it.

So i for one, can really really really sympathise with RiotGirl, you poor thing. Hope the drought ends soon for you, and sooner for me.

little1


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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/26/2006 9:02:32 PM   
newflowers


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quote:

So erm anyone else want to commiserate with me? Cos misery loves company? Anyone have any really good techniques? Anyone else here on restrictions? Anyone else wanna have a good laugh with at me, with me? Anyone else want to share a story of how desperate they were so i dont feel like a total nimrod


I'd didn't read all of the replies, but I'll commiserate because the story is so darned funny. I have done my share of begging to no avail, but your description of it is so much more amusing.

newflowers

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/26/2006 9:38:54 PM   
Rayne58


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sirandlittle1

Well wolffeathers, it no punishment or supposedly that not the motivator.

His endurance is far better than mine, and being strengthened by this damn aussie heat. So here i am, sexually really frustrated, ratty as fuck, not good company, getting into trouble left right and centre, now being punished in earnest. Yeah, great game!

I dont want a orgasm, i want a fight now.

And he breezes out the door to work, asking me to consider why i am a little 'short' today. ffs. I hate it.

So i for one, can really really really sympathise with RiotGirl, you poor thing. Hope the drought ends soon for you, and sooner for me.

little1




Which makes me wonder, what is the point of the whole exercise, if this is how it ends up for you? (No offence intended, just curiosity). We only practise orgasm denial during a session, when He will bring me to the brink and back off over and over. It always ends with me being allowed to cum, though the duration of the denial can vary.

Any other time, if I feel the need, I can take myself off and masturbate alone or just tell Him and He will join in (with a little bit of denial thrown in for good measure). He loves to watch me orgasm so denying me them is also denying Himself. He also says I don't masturbate enough so sometimes I'm ordered to go get a toy and play on the couch while He watches (though as always I have to ask permission to cum for that session).


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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/26/2006 9:39:00 PM   
MistressOfGa


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

Last night as i was pathetically rolling around in bed, squirming, pathetically trying to convince him that he REALLY does want to say " go ahead" i thought about collarme = ) You should of SEEN the rant i was typing off in my head! i thought about the whole mind over matter and it wasnt working. i thought about the whole "myths of submission" and i was soooooooo believing in it. Not that i didnt. But i was like THIS is a perfect example! i was pathetic and making a fool of myself. LOL And i soooooooo didnt care. i knew that it was for the better and i really wanted to please him... but i sooooo didnt care. i wanted to masterbate and i wanted to RIGHT THEN. And i was soooo not getting my way. i tried every approach to man to convince my man that saying yes was what he really wanted to do. i even told him i was addicted to masterbation and i was going through withdrawl and having hot flashes. And if i didnt get my fix, i was going to turn into this horrible person. And i tried almost every trick in the book. i tried manipulation, i tried telling him that if he just gave me a signal we'd keep it quiet and pretend it never happened. And when i'd come up with a really good "story" on why i should be able to masterbate, he'd just IGNORE ME. Lord i'd of taken anything Whip me beat me, kiss me, touch me.. anything!! Nope. Nada, nothing, zip, zero, zilch. Nothing. He let me have my cell phone and i called myself about 15 times last night and all it did was drive me more insane.

the sky could of fallen and i wouldnt of cared about anything except getting into his lock box where all my vibes were. <sigh> and i even tried talking to myself. It didnt not work. Cos i didnt care.

So erm anyone else want to commiserate with me? Cos misery loves company? Anyone have any really good techniques? Anyone else here on restrictions? Anyone else wanna have a good laugh with at me, with me? Anyone else want to share a story of how desperate they were so i dont feel like a total nimrod?


Actually the only time I really do not allow my pet to climax is on Thursdays. He comes to me on Fridays (No pun intended) and leaves on Sundays, so by Thursday he is pretty much sqirming. Tonight I got myself off while he watched but he was not allowed to touch himself at all. That was fun <s>
But I do use orgasm control while we are together. I will tell him before we have intercourse that he is not to cum until I tell him he can. I will also tell him that he is not to slow down his movements when he does feel like climaxing, or he will be severely punished. There is nothing like watching his face as he concentrates on not climaxing. I time it just right, when I know he can hold out not one more second, I tell him he can cum and he does instantly. I love it :)

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RE: Masterbation Restriction - 1/26/2006 11:10:34 PM   
seaturtle50


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I will tell him before we have intercourse that he is not to cum until I tell him he can. I will also tell him that he is not to slow down his movements when he does feel like climaxing, or he will be severely punished. There is nothing like watching his face as he concentrates on not climaxing. I time it just right, when I know he can hold out not one more second, I tell him he can cum and he does instantly. I love it :)


Well, that just about sums it up
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