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Sirandlittle1 -> RE: Lifestyle Personnas and how they are expressed (1/24/2006 1:28:20 PM)
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There is a system of viewing others called a Jahari window. The 'Jahari Window' is made up of four panes of glass thus:
what you see and others see (public self shown on boards such as this)
what only you see but others cannot (private conscious self, the superego)
what others see but you yourself cannot (unintentionally public self, ego)
What neither you nor others see (your unconcious self, your id)
People portray the image that they wish to be portrayed publicly, the window you and others can see through.
The more the member posts, the more we glimpse through a window, that we can see, yet you perhaps cannot. LIttle titbits of emotion and cognition that you let slip unintentionally. Some self aware people, have learned to view through this window somewhat. Personally, it is this window that i am learning about my need to submit through.
It is a narcissistic desire of humans, to want to be able to see what others can see that your not aware of yourself. [;)]
As a dominant sadist with SNPD, hey, your a pussy cat MistressDread. Which for yours, is perfect im sure. You leak how much you miss yours, when absent from them. As a mother, i have shared your angst when our 'babies' have left and are in danger elsewhere, a softer side of you. I have seen you post when in a bad space, and i have seen you post when in a playful space and the miriad of posts inbetween.
We can all hide behind this screen, its easy to do so, more so than when you meet people in real life.
Personally, i find it true, that if you really wish to get to know someone, then you should be sharing your lives together, as a friend, a partner or whatever. Living together, tends to rip away any veneers put in place after a time. But over the internet, its difficult to judge another from what they have written, proof read, edited and posted. Real life does not afford us this subtefuge.
little1's tuppence worth.
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