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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/18/2009 7:59:06 AM

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Do you give them 'impossible' tasks and judge them on their effort?

I find it pointless to set my boy up for failure and then judge him on how hard he worked knowing he was going to fail. Undermining his confidence that way is counter productive.

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Do you give them simple ones and reward them accordingly?

Not necessarily simple, but useful. Fox makes my coffee, vacuums, does dishes and things like that. Occasionally he will be asked to set out my clothes for me, or take things out of the freezer to defrost for dinner. Rewards are not given unless a job is above and beyond what is expected, we live together all the time and I dont see a point in rewarding everyday behavior as if it was ground breaking accomplishments every time. Rewards hold more merit when they are actually warned and not just handed out like candy.

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Are the best tasks BDSM related or otherwise?

Otherwise. I dont know of any BDSM related tasks I would be interested in having him complete that I wouldnt be part of.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/18/2009 10:49:00 AM

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I do have to argue about the journal, it is truly helping the dom/me, because they are getting to know you more and how you think, which could help later, with anything of how to assign tasks, to what fun to have.

I think you missed my point of addressing it in context of the OP. It is (well for me anyway) not a task that will fulfill in me the desire to please. It is a relationship task. Completing a journal entry, and hearing "good girl" just won't give me the same warm fuzzies that doing a chore will, such as ironing or mending or cooking or massage, or any specific chore that needs to be done. When the journal entry is done, the floor is still dirty, the clothes are still wrinkled, the carpet still needs vacuuming, etc.

So for subs that love to please, I would not recommend it for that purpose. For other purposes, yes absolutely, but not for the purpose of the OP.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/18/2009 11:11:30 AM

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Cali, could you change your name to KYchick? 'cause, here in KY, the floor needs mopping and the shirts need ironing.... oo... gotta go iron now. sorry.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/18/2009 2:44:49 PM

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No setting people up to fail because the person who really is failing is you. You fail to be a trustworthy dominant when you do that.
Beyond that, no make work. Don't dream up stuff that doesn't really need doing or that you don't care about. Because if she spends an hour alphabetizing your spice cabinet and you mess it all up during one meal, then she will think less of you.

Basically, just because we're submissive doesn't mean we aren't smart people. We can tell when you care about something versus when you're patting us on the head as though we were less than bright. If it's important to you, then it will be important to her. And if it isn't, your relationship has more problems than assigning a few tasks can fix.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/23/2009 7:48:33 PM

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It is my pleasure to do anything for Him that makes His life easier and it makes me happy to cook, clean, do laundry, or any task that He asks of me. It comes from my heart because He is good to me and meets all of my needs so completely that I willingly return to Him full circle what I receive.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/24/2009 5:05:51 AM

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When I get in the mood for a task I give her the same one every time. a blow job whether I need it or not.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/24/2009 3:58:20 PM

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I usually connect tasks with something she is learning or needs to improve on. I have also used tasks as punishment with a related lesson at hand, like opening and closing a door 100 times because I hate when she doesn't turn the knob first but lets it close on its own. I tend not to gives tasks for tasks sake beyond my defined expectations. I like to take advantage of every opportunity to allow her to please me.

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/24/2009 7:42:55 PM

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/24/2009 7:45:24 PM

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/25/2009 6:33:25 PM

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Sexual tasks are good..but lets face it normal everyday tasks are both necessary & well within any subs ability to do so why stay away from it..Your thinking only to use her sexually....Buddy that gets old fast for you both..wait and see if it doesn't

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/26/2009 9:42:49 AM

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Sexual tasks are good..but lets face it normal everyday tasks are both necessary & well within any subs ability to do so why stay away from it..Your thinking only to use her sexually....Buddy that gets old fast for you both..wait and see if it doesn't

Uh No. Been doing it now hell I dont know 30 years, not gotten old yet. Over the years same task different girl. Why would you want to give her a "everyday task"<that presumably have to get done anyway> When you can put her on her knees and give her some man goo?

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/29/2009 12:02:02 PM

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What about a set-up-for-failure that is all in good humor and SSC as everything? Is there such a thing as an "impossible" task or game if you will in which an interested and consenting sub enters into it knowing he/she will ultimately fail in the concrete goal of the task, but as a safe and loving way to explore the struggle against a no-win scenario?

For a random example; I would have my pet bound by the wrists and ankles, and have her carry chocolates with her mouth from a plate by me on the couch into the kitchen to place on a plate on the table; the "catch" is my supply never runs out;) and she is able to safely and laughingly enjoy the struggle against insurmountable odds AND the clicking timer. Consequences of course would ensue, and again, always agreed upon before hand. Usually a "reward-punishment" in a light humored case like this.

More a question to the subs out there; can any of you relate to the feeling of fighting the clock or struggling against something you know you can't overcome, in a strictly SSC context designed specifically for the exploration of such emotions? I will agree with the overwhelming responses that maliciously setting anyone up for failure for the sake of degredation has no place in a loving SSC relationship; but something like this may provide a different angle from which to view the idea.

Just some thoughts:)

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RE: Tasks for Subs who want to please - 3/29/2009 12:22:37 PM

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if she wants to please then it really doesnt matter what you ask her to do - she'll be happy to do it.

we dont know you or her so its a tricky one to answer. but what i think is nice sometimes is to give her a task that will show youre thinking of her needs sometimes and not just youres. so if she likes her nails painted, tell her to get something really fun and funky done or if she loves clothes, makeup, hair - find a pic in a mag of a model that looks about her image and send her off to emulate that look.

tasks for you are easy

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