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hairslave -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/21/2009 7:23:48 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

Most of us don't want anything to do with those types of submissive's...lol  But to say that most think with their cock... might have some truth... but there are many who don't and I think they get a bad rap when compared at least by just being male... when we toss them into the bunch.  There are wonderful submissive men who use their brain and still have fun with their cock...


Yes this is true. i Have also stated in a resent post on another thead that "Men are like apples, You don't rule that all men are bad either. Instead you have inspect each man to be sure that it ( or he ) meets your expictations.
It is good to read on here that some of You want nothing to do with above stated guys You desive far better from us and, we are out here just waitting for You.

Ladies Stay Safe!



stella41b -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/21/2009 7:29:13 PM)

If I leave here suddenly
Will Mistress still remember me?
Cos my wife and kids are travellin' home now
And they don't know I'm trolling Collarme
If I stay here with you Miss
Things just couldn't be the same
Cos I'm so stiff in my bone now
And my bone just makes me change
Ohohohoh and this bone just makes me change
And this bone just makes me change
Lords knows I just change

Bye bye Mistress and send me a c-mail
Because it's my bone which makes me change
Please just lock me in total chastity
Because I know I'm to blame
But if I stay here with you Miss
Things just couldn't be the same
Because I know I'm your ideal submissive now
But this bone it makes me change
Oh oh oh oh and the bone it makes me change
And this bone just makes me change
Lord knows the bone makes me change
Miss help me, it makes me change

My bone makes me change
Won't Miss please castrate me?


original Lynyrd Skynyrd



GoddessTeaze -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/22/2009 3:50:10 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

Why in the hell is every other post about some man who can't keep his hands off his cylinder? Why are we constantly bombarded with men screaming, "oh help me Mistress, I cannot stop touching myself, to serve you , YOU must control my dick and its will?" "ooohhh please, i can't control myself, if you will just focus on me and my penis, so i get the attention i need, i can do anything you want","you control me and then i will do you because by controlling me, it's only a matter of time before i get what I really want"???

Why are there so few about females?  Why are there so few that talk about out of control clits? Erect little bumps taking focus away from work, responsibilities, driving, commitment, etc etc etc.  We don't even see too many about female chastity?  [8|]


Simply because men do work differently then woman do !
Ain't that a fact. For some male submissives it's a true struggle
to get that clit under control, Simply because they let them b lead by it.

I've had enough male subs to have seen that happening, but when
they are truly devoted, and get conditioned to the will of their Domina,
they can get control over it, just no one gets born with such,
exceptional's are always out there of course.

I've asked many questions on this forums about denial,
and always seen the woman protest about it, and even
was stated by one, that if the woman didn't get to cum,
they would find another Dom.....

Ehm.... D/s wasn't about Sex right ...?
Is it about their orgasms?

Or do they top from the bottom to say I've to cum or else !!!!

When you own a subbygirl, just put her on denial for a month
and see how often they will talk about their throbbing clit,
and how they beg for release !

Then We will talk again.

There is still so much to learn.


GoddezzT`



FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/22/2009 6:21:42 AM)

I don't do out of control men, and I don't do chastity.   So while I get a good number of those emails, the reply is usually short because they clearly did not read my profile or interests...   
This post reminds me of a boyfriend with whom I was massively sexually frustrated, and with whom I broke up as a result...   I wasn't comfortable enough as a lady to take matters completely into my control.   Alas, I didn't know at that time, that I was born to rule my man. [:D]   M



youngsubgeoff -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/22/2009 7:40:41 AM)

This is why I hate trolls, they make it harder for the rest of us. This lifestyle is not just sex to me. It is about love, trust, and companionship. It is about growth, and the dance we do every day with our partners.

I am not just a submissive, either. I am a friend, a brother, a son, and a father. I am a writer, a musician, a fighter, and a poet.

I am more than a cock.



lilsubrt -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/22/2009 8:31:08 AM)

Hello All,     

    The first thing Goddess did with Her slave was have him ask for Her to take control of his cock. It's Hers and has been for 4 years now. She often reminds him of how he wasted so much of Her Candy before She came into his life and how much better it is for him now. Her slave now holds Any chance at having it hard a True Gift and Cherishes that time She Grants him. There is a simple rule, If "he", gets hard on his own it is acceptable, Her slave May Never Assist him getting hard, That Is Masturbation and Not Allowed. 

    She caught him using it himself once since and Trust him when he says, the Punishment Was an Incredible Deterrent. She had him lay on his back on the bed and stoke it until he came, Over and Over, while She Mocked and Humiliated him Over and Over. Her slave was in tears crying and Could Not Wait for Her to Finish with him.  That Punishment took something that gives one the Ultimate in Pleasure and made it a Horrendous Experience.

     In closing, It was Her Idea to control his sexuality but his Decision to Ask Her to take it.

    Hope All Are Well,
    lilsubrt



ElanSubdued -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/22/2009 4:14:06 PM)

GoddessTeaze,

quote:

For some male submissives it's a true struggle to get that clit under control, Simply because they let them b lead by it.  I've had enough male subs to have seen that happening, but when they are truly devoted, and get conditioned to the will of their Domina, they can get control over it, just no one gets born with such, exceptional's are always out there of course.


Precursor:  I'm assuming your use of "clit" is a gender-fuck euphemism for "cock".

I disagree with you.  I've met many male submissives who have control over their sexual impulses.  Myself, I don't run my life with my cock and gee... I don't think this makes me exceptional in any particular way.  People are sexual creatures.  Some have higher sex drives than others.  But, as to a general rule about male submissives, in real life (i.e. not on the Internet), I don't think your analysis holds quantitative, statistical validity.

quote:

When you own a subbygirl, just put her on denial for a month and see how often they will talk about their throbbing clit, and how they beg for release!


Okay, by adding women into the picture, you're expressing a more gender neutral viewpoint and one that may be closer to actuality.  As I said above, people are sexual creatures with varying levels of drive.  Some will have more control over their sexual desires than others.  It would be interesting to examine, statistically, whether kinky people, as a group,  have any more or less trouble controlling their sexual desires than vanilla people.

quote:

There is still so much to learn.


Indeed there is. :-)

Elan.



ElanSubdued -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/22/2009 4:16:13 PM)

lilsubrt,

quote:

The first thing Goddess did with Her slave was have him ask for Her to take control of his cock.  It's Hers and has been for 4 years now.  She often reminds him of how he wasted so much of Her Candy before She came into his life and how much better it is for him now.  (snip)  There is a simple rule, If "he", gets hard on his own it is acceptable, Her slave May Never Assist him getting hard, That Is Masturbation and Not Allowed.  She caught him using it himself once since and Trust him when he says, the Punishment Was an Incredible Deterrent.  (snip)  In closing, It was Her Idea to control his sexuality but his Decision to Ask Her to take it.


So... hmmm... where do *you* fit into all this?  You just happen to know this exemplary couple? [;)]

(Yes, I'm being a twit.  I know full well you're using third person speech.)

Elan.



lilsubrt -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/22/2009 9:19:55 PM)

 Elan,

    It's cool, perhaps over-doing it or just a bad habit on my part. However third person writing is something that took a lot of effort to learn, not wanting to Pound on Ones Chest and all. It is amusing to this one on CM to read posts from self proclaimed, "sub's" and "slaves", that are Just Littered with First Person Singular,  Ya know Nothing But I's  all over, detailing for all Every Want and Wish, Codicil and Requirement, of Their Submission. Oh well guess we all detail it differently.

Best to you Elan,

Hope All Are Well,

lilsubrt.         



ElanSubdued -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/22/2009 10:03:21 PM)

lilsubrt,

--- Best to you Elan

And to you too.

I hope you didn't feel I was taking a shot at you personally (and if this is the case).  It's just that I loathe third person BDSM-speak.  You've given me a new perspective though.  It never occurred to me how hard this would be to learn.  And hey, if it works for you and your partner, and makes you both happy, that's all that really matters.  Thank you for your most gracious reply.

Elan.



weldedcollar -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/23/2009 6:41:48 AM)

Dear CatdeMedici,
Unfortunately, the male penis has led to probally more social destruction .
Then Alcoholism, drugs combined.
Love+Peace  weldedcollar.



FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/23/2009 6:48:39 AM)

Awh, come on now!   Let us not get carried away and start hating on the penis, such useful and fun toy it can be. [8D]   M



GoddessTeaze -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/23/2009 6:59:38 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddezzT`
First of all
Elansubdued, why can't I see you what you're a sub or a Dom or female or male or whatever, since your add is hidden. So from what backround are you speaking?
Second of all,
these are My experiences in D/s so you can happily disagree with Me, but I know what I've seen, talked about and experienced with My own subs.
On the third account,
why does it seem all offa sudden, that men and their clits, because that's what a sub do have, are so out of it. Is it a desease they want pleasure?
Is it wrong to have feelings, is it just YUCK for them even to have a clit???

That's how it seems to Me in this thread. As if sex aint an issue for anyone here, or do We still live in the Stone Ages, where one can't talk about anything. We all have a sexdrive, and mostly they aren't on the same level, and just enjoy it, in your own happy way!

Or torture, teaze it but enjoy which is, instead of putting your nose in the high air.

cmon bring it on, lets have some fun !

I wish you enough.

GoddezzT`







ElanSubdued -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/23/2009 11:38:58 AM)

lilsubrt,

--- I hope you didn't feel I was taking
--- a shot at you personally (and if this
--- is the case).

Let's try this one more time.  I'm not sure how my sentence got cut off (my error, perhaps), but here's what I intended to write:

"I hope you didn't feel I was taking a shot at you personally (and if this is the case I apologize).  It's just that I loathe third person BDSM-speak.  You've given me a new perspective though.  It never occurred to me how hard this would be to learn.  And hey, if it works for you and your partner, and makes you both happy, that's all that really matters.  Thank you for your most gracious reply."

Elan.



ElanSubdued -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/23/2009 11:43:34 AM)

GoddessTeaze,

--- First of all Elansubdued, why can't I
--- see you what you're a sub or a Dom
--- or female or male or whatever, since
--- your add is hidden. So from what
--- background are you speaking?

Fair enough question (on both parts).  I'm a male submissive who was previously a dominant.  Actually, I'll correct myself.  I'm a submissive who has always been a submissive, however, this didn't stop me from trying dominance (at a time in my life when I wanted to explore the other side).  As to why my profile is hidden, hmmm.  A while back I hid my profile because I was busy with other things in life (and consequently took a hiatus from Collar Me).  When the mood strikes, I'll write another profile and put it up.

--- ...these are My experiences in D/s so you
--- can happily disagree with Me, but I know
--- what I've seen, talked about and experienced
--- with My own subs.

Perhaps, if I may suggest politely and respectfully, this has to do with the type of partner you enjoy and choose.  I truly don't think the majority of men are so led by their cocks as to be totally dysfunctional in life without intercedence from a mitigator.  True enough, sex addiction exists (for men and women), but I don't think *all* men are born with a serious case of sex addiction.

--- ...why does it seem all offa sudden, that
--- men and their clits, because that's what a
--- sub do have, are so out of it.  Is it a
--- desease they want pleasure?  Is it wrong
--- to have feelings, is it just YUCK for them
--- even to have a clit???

Given that the clitoris and penis (excepting the penis' urethra and urethral functions) serve roughly the same function, I understand why you've used the word "clit" in place of "cock".  Hey!  I just did a bit of research.  You're right!  The penis is indeed referred to as a "clitoral structure".  I learned something today.  Thank You! :-)

Now, about your question.  I don't think it's wrong to want and enjoy sexual pleasure in the right balance with other things in life.  When ones desire for sexual pleasure becomes so great that this causes problems for the obsessed or others around the obsessed, then there is indeed a problem in Houston.  (i.e.  Houston = mission control centre = mind and psychology of the obsessed.)

--- That's how it seems to Me in this thread.
--- As if sex aint an issue for anyone here, or
--- do We still live in the Stone Ages, where
--- one can't talk about anything.  We all have
--- a sexdrive, and mostly they aren't on the
--- same level, and just enjoy it, in your own
--- happy way!

Seemingly, I don't think anyone on Collar Me has a problem discussing sex or their sex drive.  I agree with your suggestion that sex drives commonly aren't always on the same level.  I've had female partners who had much higher sex drives than I.  We found our own "constructive" ways of handling this. :-)

--- cmon bring it on, lets have some fun!

I'm with you here.  Thanks for replying GoddessTeaze,

Elan.



Andalusite -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/23/2009 10:13:26 PM)

Cat, for the same reason that you almost never hear about women doing humiliation play based on their tits being too small, their pussy being ugly, or their sexual skills being unsatisfying - "chastity/denial" play tends to have a lot of men who are interested and who fantasise about it, while women are rarely interested. Also, a lot of men want to stop play/lose interest after they come, whereas that usually isn't a problem for women. [;)]

I haven't dated any men who had sex addiction/complete lack of self-control issues like some people here have described, and I didn't feel I needed to deny them in order for them to be submissive.

Subrt, I don't think it takes much effort at all to learn how to speak in the third person (although doing so in a way that flows seamlessly instead of being stilted is far more difficult). Personally, it reminds me of Bob Dole. [:'(] I also dislike S/slashy s/Speak and Pronoun CaPitaliSatiOn In The Middle Of Sentences (other than I), which I consider to be poor usage of English.



beeble -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/24/2009 5:19:33 AM)

quote:

lilsubrt wrote:
It is amusing to this one on CM to read posts from self proclaimed, "sub's" and "slaves", that are Just Littered with First Person Singular,  Ya know Nothing But I's  all over, detailing for all Every Want and Wish, Codicil and Requirement, of Their Submission.

The annoyance there is the self-centredness, not the use of conventional English.  `This sub wants X, Y and Z' is no less obnoxious than `I want X, Y and Z.'

beeble.



TexasMaam -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/24/2009 7:59:10 AM)

The old adage is true, men are like coke machines. 

Input some quarters, push a button, out pops a soda.

Input some visual, or imagined visual, or memory of a visual, that usually involves tits, the button gets pushed, and out pops some jism.

My little man in the boat works much the same way.  He's standing up rocking for the better part of the day while I remember the fun we had last night or think about manthing in anticipation of what's in store.

The only difference is I don't clamor about it much.

Well, on second thought, perhaps manthing thinks I clamor.......

; )

TM



chezzy71 -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/24/2009 8:18:36 AM)

at the risk of being placed in Mistress Cat's Hummer/John Deere tractor CBT experiment or having to look over my shoulder to see if she indeed is carrying the red scarf...i submit the following....I thought on this long and hard(sorry about the play on words)and decided on taking a different tact...first there is the "are we not men? we are Devo" excuse..but then i thought of the hideous visual and ramifications for all our lovely Dominas of a naked man wanking with a flower pot on his head.Of course i am fortunate in a way..i am a recovering wankaholic having did most of it in my teens,twenties,and thirties..note the three decades of self-service.And then one day you wake up and the coffee smells better for some reason and it just isn't important anymore..now ya'll know me and i do enjoy humor and also a tad bit of jocularity..but in this case..it may be considered jackularity...that's all from chezz central.



lilsubrt -> RE: Taking away attention IS attention, isn't it? (3/24/2009 7:50:38 PM)

lilsubrt,

--- Best to you Elan

And to you too.

I hope you didn't feel I was taking a shot at you personally (and if this is the case).  It's just that I loathe third person BDSM-speak.  You've given me a new perspective though.  It never occurred to me how hard this would be to learn.  And hey, if it works for you and your partner, and makes you both happy, that's all that really matters.  Thank you for your most gracious reply.

Elan.

Elan,

     Thank You for the Kindness, Respect, and Tolerance and of course due apologies if there has been an offense. Oh and sorry the reply wasn't a quick one, been very busy here. There is nothing like moving 2 rooms of furniture around and cleaning everywhere everything USED to be that tires one out. Plus Goddess is sick and that can cause A Lot of Stress, not to mention that the Schedule Goes Right Out the Window.....  

    Take Care and Best to You,

    Hope All Are Well,

    lilsubrt



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