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ElanSubdued -> RE: "All women are pros" (3/22/2009 1:54:52 PM)
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Strangedesire,
Upon reading your OP, it behooved me to read your profile before replying. Why is it submissive men write to you asking for professional sessions? There are probably a myriad reasons.
Some submissives don't read profiles and send introductions to *any* dominant they find. A sub-category are submissive types who read and understand a profile, but ignore it anyway. They see something in a profile that catches their attention (pictures, the personality, a specific fetish or fetishes, etc.) and even though a caveat excludes them from replying, they reply anyway. Both of these groups use the "conquer by saturation" approach - the ideology being that if one throws out enough hooks, eventually someone will bite. Sometimes a profile is too good not to reply to, even when, as the reader, you don't quite fit what the author is looking for. So people reply in the hope that perhaps they might be the one exception or that the author will be more flexible than they've stated.
I'm guessing at least a portion of these demographics fit your questions and analysis. (i.e. envisioning CM as a menu of potential dominatrices, many women doing BDSM for money and this slanting reader's viewpoints, and the presumption that perhaps every woman involved in BDSM, if given the chance, will take money in exchange for services.)
My supposition may be entirely incorrect though. What I can almost guarantee you is this: the quality of your profile and how you present yourself attracts people. Shakti summarized my thoughts very nicely when she wrote: "As for what submissive/masochistic men find appealing about your profile; I would hazard a guess that they are attracted by the unmistakable stamp of intelligence, the clearly articulated desires and expectations, and the absolutely unambivalent and unapologetic sadism that you profess". I'll expand this by adding, if you'll pardon the phrase, you seem to be a complete, intelligent, communicative, physically and emotionally attractive, sexy, and extremely well balanced package. And, you write very well, further upping your sexiness factor considerably. You'd be equally endearing to invite for tea, to the theater, to a debate, out on a walk, or to a bondage/pain session.
By the way, I loved your profile. It's brilliant in so many ways, not the least of which is you've communicated what you're looking for without coming across as overly self-focused and domineering. There's a big difference between domineering, and dominance and sadism. The prior isn't remotely attractive. The later, when combined with the right degree of humanity and seemingly innocent "hurting men turns me on; I like to hit men; I like the noises that they make, the whimpers and sobs and gasps", is sexy as hell. You're this later case this is why submissive boys are knocking on your door, even those that don't fit your criteria.
I feel compelled to quote your second last paragraph because it's so clear, simple, and well stated. You say a great deal about yourself by what you say and, as importantly, by how you choose to say it, as follows:
"My ideal submissive man is emotionally strong, intelligent, and unafraid of his own desires. Physical beauty is less important to me than mental integrity, although I'm unlikely to form bonds well with someone a great deal older than me. Basically, I want a good friend whose submission compliments my dominance and who can enjoy my sadistic side."
I dare say it'd be almost impossible for any submissive (male or female) not to be intrigued.
Elan.
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