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RE: Does this sound as cold to you as it does me - 3/23/2009 2:04:42 PM

akisha

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I don't think you are cold at all. The relationship was already dead and like you said his dieing was just bad timing in line with everything else.

I would probably be kinda sad, maybe, because someone I spent a part of my life with had died but then again maybe not. Not really sure there.

If my ex husband fell off the face of the earth tomorrow I would feel sad for my daughters loss but I'd feel no personal loss at his going.

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RE: Does this sound as cold to you as it does me - 3/23/2009 5:03:35 PM

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after they bought the winning loto ticket

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RE: Does this sound as cold to you as it does me - 3/23/2009 5:21:27 PM

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I wouldn't say you were cold at all either. He pretty much cut you out of his life anyway, and you had to deal with all of that. Seems like he was the cold one.

Hopefully, you will find someone who makes you happy and vice-versa, and I wouldn't waste any more of my time dwelling on the past, if I were you.

Good luck!

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RE: Does this sound as cold to you as it does me - 3/23/2009 10:40:11 PM

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Thank you all, for your great answers and thoughts.
I laughed at some and had to think about some. Perfect mix
I did marry for wrong reason, and we both knew it, but it was only way for me to ride on the truck legally with him and not worry about DOT rules and the company rules. Huge fines if caught.
As far as him being gone all the time, that's why I was with him. As I used to work fishing boats for 10 years and lived with navy men or other men that fished, and they where gone all the time. So for me it was a comfort zone.
By the way he did not have life insurance or a will, but after probate, I was able to sell his motorcycle, his truck and get my past bills paid and also bartered for work on my home for the 5th wheel.
It was one of those live and learn situations for me and I sure did learn. LOL
Will I take this into next relationship? You can bet your ass, I will. If not, then I would not have learned.
I asked the original question cause at times, not very often, mind you! I do feel cold when I say he died but at the same time I wished the same for him that he wished for me. He wanted me dead, he is the one that got dead.

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RE: Does this sound as cold to you as it does me - 3/24/2009 8:27:00 AM

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Can't day that I think it was cold either. Looks to me that part of your life was already over and not everyone needs to grieve. Were it me who carked it, I'd be wanting my Lady to get on with her life as a salute to me and for her own happiness..

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RE: Does this sound as cold to you as it does me - 3/25/2009 6:29:10 PM

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No not cold..that part of your life died of natural causes months before his death..he changed it seems..while you didn't...or maybe he tried to fill a role he wasn't really able to fill..point is you both knew it was over..his death wasn't your fault...just was his time to go..as for selling his stuff..better you get something out of it..rather than the state or government as far as I am concerned

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RE: Does this sound as cold to you as it does me - 3/25/2009 6:44:11 PM

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cold... no I dont believe your heart is cold... just afraid... to be broken again... let someone... with a deep love to give.... give that deep love to you.... and what magic you'll see....

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RE: Does this sound as cold to you as it does me - 3/25/2009 9:23:31 PM

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If you were cold you wouldn't care about if it sounded cold. You shouldn't think you have to feel something if you don't. Societies pressure to make us feel things and looking down on us if we don't is a load of bull. People react to things in different ways and some don't react at all. No big deal.

Besides if you are looking for confirmation of your coldness I'll doubt you'll get any here, since calling people cold is cold itself without full knowledge of the facts which no one here could ever have.

I like these points (above).
People are complicated.
My sister and my mother haven't spoken to one another in over 12 years.
What can you say?

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