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IndigoMystry -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 12:43:18 PM)

I agree with so much that's been said here.  Absolutely, it sounds like all 4 people involved are immature or players.  Frankly any Dom/Domme that doesn't check enough -- ask the right questions and verifies the answers one way or another -- is setting themselves up for a fall.  I mean, there's trust and then there's being so gullible it's scary.  As for the sub, sounds like she's using the game plan of any vanilla girl playing the field, certainly not even a lifestyle novice.  There are plenty of resources available for people who want to explore and learn, so this kind of behavior is unacceptable.  The Doms?  Yeah, collaring that quickly and easily is foolish.  What kind of mentoring, training can she have received from these males?  Sounds to me like they're all just about hooking up for the sex or whatever is currently floating their boats.



goodpet -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 2:50:36 PM)


I wonder about these "doms" who so quickly give a collar without really knowing the person, or taking time to see how it develops..

I think they deserve each other actually.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 2:58:21 PM)

What an extraordinarily busy woman she must be!

There are many false and dishonourable people in the world, and the gullible are their prey. 



littlewonder -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 3:03:45 PM)

Just childish, immature behaviour.

I say let her go and one day she'll accidently schedule to meet them all at the same time.

She's an adult. Let her learn her own lessons.



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 3:06:08 PM)

I personally don't care enough to form an opinion, what some lady on the internet is doing and who she is stringing along, as long as it's not me and my Daddy she's stringing along.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra


In your opinion is she just being a player or could this be a form of sub frenzy?

Thanks for your time.

~Lashra




kiwisub12 -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 3:33:39 PM)

From the given scenerio, i would say this woman doesn't have a submissive bone in her body.

On the other hand, she certainly isn't lacking in balls or a social life.     ....   hope no-one has a "social disease".

Just because she indulges her appetites in a bdsm way, doesn't make her a part of the community/groupthatdoeswhatwedoinwaysthatweagreeto.  She will get her comeuppenses. [:D]  Sooner or later.



windchymes -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 3:44:43 PM)

I don't know whether to be disgusted, appalled or....envious [;)]



ranja -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 3:59:03 PM)

Does she actually wear all these collars? she might want even more...to strech her neck like...and if she falls into disgrace and all the Dims take their collars back her head will flop around.



HeavansKeeper -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 4:04:49 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

quote:

...In your opinion is she just being a player or could this be a form of sub frenzy?...


if a complete lack of integrity is included in either definition of "player" or "a form of sub frenzy", then, most definitely.


Has anyone explained to her what it means to be collared?  Some equate it to a wedding ring, while for others is a mark of temporary monogamy.  Maybe to her it's a symbol that says "ok, now we can fuck."  Her definition is not nearly as important as a mutual understanding between her doms.

New submissives that I've met have always (not "will always" but "have always") jumped into this with both feet, usually finding themselves in over their heads until they learn to tread D/s water.  Breaking up is hard to do... But its important and fair.  There is, however, no defense for some in three different "monogamous" relationships.  That's cheating.  Is cheating wrong? Yes.  Does it have perks? Yes.  Does it have dangers? Yes.

Maybe she doesn't know it, but prefers service tops.  As she learns more combintations exist, she might find one that satisfies her.  Right now, being a collared monogamous submissive does not suit her ferver, interest, intrigue, naivity, and  hunger.



Huntertn -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 4:14:49 PM)

she is going to crash and burn...I remember my younger sister doing this with mormal dates..till all three showed up with 5 mintues of each other..I about died laughing at her..



Lashra -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 4:39:06 PM)

quote:

Has anyone explained to her what it means to be collared? Some equate it to a wedding ring,


I did, I explained to her what a collar meant to me and my sub explained to her what it meant to him. Now this was our own personal view, so she knows but, she just does not seem to really care.

You could be right about her jumping into this with both feet, she may be so overwhelmed at the male attention that she is getting that she just cannot get her head on straight. Anyway I agree with everyone else, she will crash and burn eventually.

Thanks for the replies.

~Lashra



domiguy -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 4:43:36 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ranja

Does she actually wear all these collars? she might want even more...to strech her neck like...and if she falls into disgrace and all the Dims take their collars back her head will flop around.


Whenever I mentor a sub I recommend that she spend some time with the women of the Kayan tribe in Burma. 

It is essential and shows a strong upbringing for a sub to be able to properly display all of her collars.



Vendaval -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 4:44:45 PM)

One question, does the woman or any of the men involved know each other face to face in  real time?  They could all be players.



sublace -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 5:03:21 PM)

Hee Hee  [:D]

Well 'dating' and getting to know people and building a foundation before a making commitment isn't a [8|] bad idea...  Trouble is she's

a cold hearted, self serving no count bitc   wait, she must be hot  um   [:o]  no noooo



kallisto -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 6:03:11 PM)

Damn, I'm wondering how she's got the time and energy for all 3. 

Seriously, IMO, she's no more collared to any of them than I am.  I see her as having no integrity and no respect for herself or for others.    At the very least, be honest and upfront with all 3.   But then on the other hand, I'm wondering about the Doms who would "collar" a sub so quickly.   I see it as a game... and in all games there are winners and losers.  I'm betting she will be at least one of the losers.

Who knows, could be a match (or matches) made in heaven. 



greeneyedreamer -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 6:25:27 PM)

Well I agree with everyone. Her collar meant little more than "going steady" and had a very JR. High reminiscence, in my opinion. I don't disagree she needed to find what she liked but she trivialized the collars.



slaveluci -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 6:46:58 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra
In your opinion is she just being a player or could this be a form of sub frenzy?

If "sub frenzy" makes one a total liar and fraud, I guess that's what it is.  Gawd, I hate that frickin' excuse for asinine behavior[image]http://www.collarchat.com/upfiles/smiley/anger.gif[/image].............luci



DavanKael -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/23/2009 8:37:31 PM)

They sound like a bunch of impulsive people who need a few swats upside the head. 
  Davan



ranja -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/24/2009 3:19:17 AM)

Thank you Sir domiguy...beautiful picture, we understand each other



Lashra -> RE: Dom Flipping (3/24/2009 4:57:43 AM)

domiguy you may have hit the nail on the head. Perhaps that is what she is going for, the giraffe look. At this rate of collar collecting she will have to drive her car with her head sticking out of the sunroof.

~Lashra



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