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RE: Dom Flipping - 3/24/2009 5:27:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: IndigoMystry
There are plenty of resources available for people who want to explore and learn, so this kind of behavior is unacceptable. The Doms? Yeah, collaring that quickly and easily is foolish. What kind of mentoring, training can she have received from these males? Sounds to me like they're all just about hooking up for the sex or whatever is currently floating their boats.

Where I came from there were no resources to explore and learn there were only resources to watch and learn and it's not the same as doing. But I agree with you that this sounds like a bunch of people who are hooking upr for the sex or the bdsm. It's the part where she agreed to be monogomous that bothers me. Does she own a dictionary? Does she know the definition of that word?

The playing with or serving 3 Doms doesn't distress me at all. As long as everyone plays safely what's the problem? The problem is, she agreed to be monogomous and she isn't and that doesn't make her a player it makes her a liar. I can't stand liars!

Question: Would we be having this discussion if it were a newly minted male Dominant playing with and collaring 3 different female submissives?

< Message edited by eyesopened -- 3/24/2009 5:30:18 AM >

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RE: Dom Flipping - 3/24/2009 5:35:52 AM

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It sounds like allot of deceit and dishonesty on her part. She is lying to everyone and potentially hurting everyone including herself. It is not fair to the doms that think she is being monogamous to them and instead she is being dishonest. Since she stated "what they don't know won't hurt them" , I don't buy the sub frenzy excuse. She knows it is wrong and knowingly does it anyway.

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RE: Dom Flipping - 3/24/2009 8:51:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: domiguy
Is there a worse terminology ever to be constructed than "collaring?" Too fucking funny.

Perhaps. A few days ago I saw a profile with the name "collard" (it appears to be gone now).

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RE: Dom Flipping - 3/24/2009 3:27:28 PM

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Wise words, Angelika. It's easy to write someone off, call them whatever derogatory term comes to mind, but the seeming reality of this situation is that we have a lady who simply doesn't comprehend WIITWD, let alone being collared and it would seem that she has played with three persons who are in the same league. She's found a new toy and is not thinking beyond the immediate excitement they are providing for her, she's enjoying the moment as is. The internet provides us with the greatest of playgrounds, there's often little thought given to what lays beyond the flirtations and immediate sating period and that's largely due to the constraint of consequences despite having met someone a couple of times.

I once chatted with a guy (not the only person either) who laughed at having not one, not two, not even three, but four people running hoops around him. He was cock of the hoop, so to speak. I asked him why he was toying with people's emotions like that and he just couldn't make that connection, "What the fuck are you talking about, I'm not hurting them, we're having fun, don't piss on my parade." I then asked him if he met a girl that lived locally, one he saw on a few occasions, took to dinner, went for walks with, etc... whether he would then behave in the same way towards. "It must be my lucky night to have started chatting with such a funny cunt like you, of course I wouldn't." Some people just don't make that emotional connection with people they meet from the internet - until it bites them in the ass.

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RE: Dom Flipping - 3/25/2009 3:37:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

I have a question for the submissives. I have an acquaintance that recently announced that she believes herself to be submissive. I gave her some books to read, advised her to join a local BDSM club and to take her time and be safe. I then directed her to a site to go to in which to gather more information.

Upon putting up a profile she received several replies from male Doms. She in turn replied to all of these emails and began meeting the ones that lived near her. She immediately allowed herself to be collared after only two meetings with one. After a month she began to complain about this Dom and even though she wore his collar, she began talking to another Dom.

Eventually Dom #2 and she decided that they were a good fit (He did not know about Dom #1) so she accepted his collar, without asking for release from Dom #1. Now after 3 weeks of being collared to Dom #2, Dom #3 and she have hit it off so well that she has asked him to collar her.

She is now currently collared to 3 different Dom's who know nothing about each other. In all three relationships they agreed to be monogamous.

She and I have spoken about this. I told her I disagreed with what she was doing. That she was coming off as a "player" rather than someone who was taking their submission and relationship seriously. She disagreed with me saying "What they do not know will not hurt them".

In your opinion is she just being a player or could this be a form of sub frenzy?

Thanks for your time.

~Lashra

This makes me both sad and angry. In my opinion, honesty is so important in any relationship, but especially D/s. Even withholding information from my Master would drive me nuts. This would make me feel dirty...and not in a good or sexy way. I'm probably

hear, but unless they all know what's going on and this is openly poly, its just wrong. As for the what they don't know won't hurt them....people usually figure these things out! Then what? As pointed out before, they might not be the only ones hurting.

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RE: Dom Flipping - 3/25/2009 3:43:36 AM

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quote:

Question: Would we be having this discussion if it were a newly minted male Dominant playing with and collaring 3 different female submissives?

As far as I'm concerned, if he were lying to them, YES.

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RE: Dom Flipping - 3/25/2009 4:23:35 AM

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I believe that a man should be allowed to own as many slaves as he can afford,the running of circles around here doesn't happen but all strive to please..One must be able to make sure that all have their personal time with their owner,no jealous women running around here..I don't like the term 'collared',I have started to use the old Biblical ways of ear piercing with an awl and hanging a ring there..bounty

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RE: Dom Flipping - 3/25/2009 8:25:31 AM

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Constriction, I've seen "collard," too. I guess it means they're still green at BDSM, or that it turns them into a vegetable.

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RE: Dom Flipping - 3/25/2009 2:44:15 PM

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simply put PLAYER!

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RE: Dom Flipping - 3/25/2009 2:53:59 PM

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I would have to wonder about a Dom who slapped a collar on a girl after 2 meetings?? Isn't D/s a two way street? Why should the sub be expected to act responsibly when the Dom is not.

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