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RE: Confused and curious about Dom/Dom couples - 1/27/2006 12:38:31 AM

misssubmisse

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RM - For years, I have had the habit of saying things like, "Yes, Master" "Yes, Daddy" "As you wish, Oh Great One" sarcastically, or playfully too, and never knew there was such a thing as "age play"...This site is quickly changing the way I do things

It's been funny to see things I used to say, or even picking up things others say IRL and it makes me giggle in a new way now because of the double entendre effect. You, experienced people, have probably been laughing at the 'nillas for years, eh? lol

LOL @ the quote, fantastic is nice, I'll try

Petr - Thanks for that, good analogy since I've studied business...what an obscure way to have what i learned apply to my life though, eh? lol

Slaveless - Thanks for your story, now I've read of more couples that are having a similar relationship, so I'm actuall able to understand how it works, thank God for all the replies and the fact the information's stuck for the most part lol

Btw, wish you both the best of luck finding the right slave for you, hope you find the right one soon

Iron - Thanks for your own story too, that helps also. I have no idea yet about Gor and from what I'm told it's pretty intricate just in it's own right, so I'll have to learn the basics thoroughly first, then move on to the next challenge lest i fry my braincell

lol I do know what poly means though and didn't have to ask, I'm proud of myself for the moment

Thanks to everyone who has replied, you're all wonderful to offer your knowlege and I appreciate your time

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RE: Confused and curious about Dom/Dom couples - 1/27/2006 1:00:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: misssubmisse
RM - For years, I have had the habit of saying things like, "Yes, Master" "Yes, Daddy" "As you wish, Oh Great One" sarcastically, or playfully too, and never knew there was such a thing as "age play"...This site is quickly changing the way I do things It's been funny to see things I used to say, or even picking up things others say IRL and it makes me giggle in a new way now because of the double entendre effect. You, experienced people, have probably been laughing at the 'nillas for years, eh? lol

Given how new the whole online community is to me I don't feel like an 'experienced people'

But yes, vanilla friends are used to me suddenly chuckling at some seemingly innocent comment "Oh Raven is off again, what this time?..... no on second thoughts, we probably don't want to know!"

Of course some know more than they let on and 'accidentaly' say such things to catch me out.... a couple are prone to doing so just as I take a mouthfull of coffee.... caffiene sinus wash is NOT recomended.

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RE: Confused and curious about Dom/Dom couples - 1/27/2006 1:29:59 AM

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LOL @ caffeine sinus wash

I haven't told anyone in my RL about what I enjoy with a partner at this point, so for me when they make comments, it's much harder not to have a fit of school girl laughter because I know they're blissfully unaware.

I've had more "moments" like those with complete strangers, and I prefer them actually, because then I know even if I looked like a goofball, I'll likely never face them again lol

Had a bank teller in her golden years once make about 3 consecutive comments about whips, something tells me she very well may have a profile here somewhere lol I should pay her a visit again sometime soon, it was fun to both pretend we didn't mean it "that way"

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RE: Confused and curious about Dom/Dom couples - 1/30/2006 3:06:29 PM

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I know a Dom/Domina couple. Yes, they each have submissives but are one another's primary lovers. It's a good example of how you need to be ready to set aside any past concepts of relationship in this community. This works for them, so it's OK with me.

Just to complicate things, their adult child came out to them as a Domina and she has a submissive.

Kinda makes you want to ask who takes out the trash...

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RE: Confused and curious about Dom/Dom couples - 2/1/2006 8:03:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: misssubmisse

i've been messaged by a few Dom/Dom couples (i'll just use the Dom/Dom even though there's also been Domme/Dom and Domme/Domme but it's too much to type them all every time :S lol)

So it got me thinking, how would two Doms be a couple?

good question ..i didnt think Doms or sub/slaves went together as a couple, kind of like opposites attract, but then just me in thought

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RE: Confused and curious about Dom/Dom couples - 3/30/2006 4:49:49 PM

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My fiance and I are in that exact situation - I am a Pure Dom, she is my sub, and never would be a dom to me, but we both are looking for a sub for both of us.

So, it could also be a situation where they both ARE dom, but one is dom to the other, and they are looking for a sub for both of them, but there is one Dom that is in charge overall....

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RE: Confused and curious about Dom/Dom couples - 3/30/2006 8:26:18 PM

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I am part of a D/D couple. When we met I was supposed to be the submissive.(hahahahahahaha) That didn't work for us for 2 reasons. First, I am not submissive, but I didn't know that until I tried. Second, I am far more Dominant than he is. Things didn't work out as we had thought they would, but we couldn't have hoped or dreamed that they would turn out as wonderfully as they have.

In our relationship it's a really good thing that we are both poly and have very dull jealousy/envy emotions. I have a few subs that I call mine as well as a few casual play partners. Tim has a few casual play partners and will at some point begin looking for a female sub for himself. And We are currently developing a relationship with a very special female sub that could well be the first third to Our Family.

I love you, you love me, we're a happy family, with 3 in the bed and 2 more on the floor, who ever said that less is more.

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RE: Confused and curious about Dom/Dom couples - 3/30/2006 8:32:36 PM

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I love you, you love me, we're a happy family, with 3 in the bed and 2 more on the floor, who ever said that less is more.

Just be careful where you tread when you get out of bed ....

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RE: Confused and curious about Dom/Dom couples - 3/30/2006 8:37:28 PM

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hi, Maam

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RE: Confused and curious about Dom/Dom couples - 3/31/2006 5:25:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: misssubmisse

So it got me thinking, how would two Doms be a couple?

The only way i can think of it working with what i know would be that they are Doms who have a romantic relationship and they bring in submissives, is that how it works? Or are Doms those together but more in a friendship way, not really a couple in the romantic/in love kinda sense?

Why not a couple in the romantic/in love kinda sense? Is a "real and true" relationship between kinksters, defined as one between a Dominant and a submissive (these terms ase used as generic labeling to avoid a laundry list of different terms)? Making everyone else a faker, a wannabe or jessyka?

I've gone out with Dominant males, done scenes with them, learned from them, been friends with them, and been involved in a D/D relationship and although it didn't work out in the long term due to other reasons, love was not our problem.

Most of the people I have hung out with in the scene are dominants, and Dominant males can be very interesting people, good friends, great lovers, fun people, etc.. I think of them as amazing people, enjoy their posts, respect them for their own achievements and learning, find them attractive, etc., without handing in my Domina hat and offering them submission.

As long as both partners are happy, and free to get what they need out of life (i.e.their own subs), and both work together to keep the power struggles to a minimum, they have as much of a chance of having a successful relationship as anyone else.

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RE: Confused and curious about Dom/Dom couples - 3/31/2006 5:35:27 AM

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I am married to My submissive. I have dated Dominants in the past, but it has never worked out because there has always been a power struggle (not fun). I married My slave January 2005 and in February 2006 I changed his status to submissive husband (it was difficult for him to be a slave and be married to Me at the same time). Since I have a great Vanilla love forMy sub-hub, I did this for him. Now W/we live a Female-Led Lifestyle. It works well.

These days I am searching for a new slave (will eventually be the 3rd in O/our relationship), but he (the slave) will only serve Me. I set the guidelines about a poly marriage from My side only before W/we ever married. My sub-hub has no desire to Dominate anyone, so this works well for Me and the (eventual) new slave.

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RE: Confused and curious about Dom/Dom couples - 3/31/2006 8:48:39 PM

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We're a married Dom/Domme couple and we have a mixture of both being IN-LOVE and "someone to share their Sadistic ideas with and act them out" kinda thing going on. We are very happy as best friends, lovers, spouses, and Partners in Sadism. As with yourMissTress, I (the Female) was suppose to be the submissive, but again, it didn't work out that way, and found that we really do work better as a couple when we're playing on the same team. We have a great time together, along with a willing bottom/sub/slave.

We have had one slave we called our own in the past, and it worked out well for everyone up until the time we all decided to dissolve the trial contract due to logistical reasons. We come as a package deal, though we do scene casually when the opportunity presents itself. Our plans are to own our sub(s)?/slave(s)? jointly.

Something that may, or may not, separate us from other Dom/Dom couples is that we have no desire to have sex with anyone but each other. We also shy away from the term polyamorous because we both feel as though we could not love a submissive or slave as we love each other. In a very close friend sort of way, but not as a spouse or lover.

Not saying our way is the right or only way, it's just our way. As always, YMMV.

I hope this explanation of what we do has shed some light on your questions. Feel free to contact us on the other side if you'd like more information.

Take care!

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RE: Confused and curious about Dom/Dom couples - 3/31/2006 9:12:06 PM

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I love you, you love me, we're a happy family, with 3 in the bed and 2 more on the floor, who ever said that less is more.

Just be careful where you tread when you get out of bed ....

Three in the bed (Including a ninja kitten ~ feline not human) and one malamut sleeping alongside the bed on the floor on Neet's side...... I sleep near the door .... Slaves??? not sure probably find space in the work room and loung or dining room for a few...... Not the top of the priority at the moment unless we find a kajirus for Neets..... Just give me my computors, Library of books, calligraphy gear and heaps of parchment and my workshop and I'm happy....

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RE: Confused and curious about Dom/Dom couples - 4/1/2006 11:26:46 AM

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For us it is more of a "category" to check off so that searches bring us up in the right place..... We are D/s within our relationship, but she is clearly Top or even Domme to other women, so the slave we are looking for will be slave to both of us, hence a listing that indicates Dom/Dom....

Does that make sense?

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