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Classification - 3/24/2009 12:28:34 PM

kabayo

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I don't consider myself a dominant but I could never imagine being a slave. I have no problems following someone else's lead in bed but I have no interest in pain. I prefer to co-exist and I like a woman to be forward and honest in our loving. Does this sort of thinking preclude me from these dominant submissive relationships or am I just not understanding how to represent myself title wise?

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RE: Classification - 3/24/2009 1:13:33 PM

RCdc

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Sadist + masochism = pain
Dominants and submissives do not have to be sadist or masochist.

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RE: Classification - 3/24/2009 1:25:42 PM

strangedesire

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What are you? What do you like? What brings you here?

I don't think that labels are all that important, but I do think the positive facets of your personality will tell us far more about you than a list of what you don't like and don't need.

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RE: Classification - 3/24/2009 2:31:14 PM

Vanityfull

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lables are not important at all, i change mine all the time.

just take your time and look around you may find yourself start identifying as something or just relating to people, w/e you want to call yourself or dont want to is cool, welcome to the forums!

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RE: Classification - 3/24/2009 3:20:01 PM

JadedSin

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Never Lable Yourself, It makes it to hard to accept sexual growth

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RE: Classification - 3/24/2009 4:45:08 PM

chamberqueen

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I don't care for pain at all but I enjoy very much being able to please someone. Slave is the far end of the spectrum. If you enjoy following someone else's lead in the bedroom but not at any other time you would be more of a "session sub", a sub who is basically only submissive during sessions. If sometimes you want to be in the lead then you are a true switch. : )

The label isn't nearly as important as knowing yourself and finding someone who you are compatible with. There is someone out there for all of us - it may just take some searching.

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RE: Classification - 3/24/2009 5:27:32 PM

TranceTara

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You've gotten some great tips in this thread.

I especially love what chamberqueen wrote.

Be true to yourself and enjoy the process. It'a a blast. And, if you are true to yourself, you'll shine and attract someone who appreciates you as you are. And, it may take some time, but the journey is quite enjoyable.

Welcome!

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The label isn't nearly as important as knowing yourself and finding someone who you are compatible with. There is someone out there for all of us - it may just take some searching.

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RE: Classification - 3/25/2009 11:09:10 AM

kabayo

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I truly do appreciate the response I guess my greatest fear was that in coming here I would be viewed as a fraud. I was stationed in the phillipines for 3 yrs where having sex is like ordering a beer. After 3 mos. My fantasies had been fulfilled and my dreams started to fade out. I found that the best part of intimacy was the possibility of rejection or disappointment. I am looking for some to go forward with someone who isn't trapped by the way most society feels a need to sugar coat things. I have almost died several times throughout my life and have no fear of death. I seem to have more fear of life. I guess i'm trying to find someone to take the edge of the fear away

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