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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/26/2009 3:19:42 AM

pixidustpet

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oh i dunno. the OP's whining that a WHOLE THREE WIMMENS blew him off isnt any worse than the gracious gentlemen who fail to read a profile then get all bent out of shape when they're told "not interested."

ditto the ones who message you back after failing AGAIN to read the profile....still wanting your Y!M name and when you're going to be online.

you can lead a kid to education, but you sure as hell cant make them read for comprehension.

kitten, who still isnt looking for companionship other than the lovely people who post on the message boards.

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/26/2009 3:25:40 AM

VanessaChaland

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So you wanna hook up then or what, lol. :)

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ORIGINAL: pixidustpet

oh i dunno. the OP's whining that a WHOLE THREE WIMMENS blew him off isnt any worse than the gracious gentlemen who fail to read a profile then get all bent out of shape when they're told "not interested."

ditto the ones who message you back after failing AGAIN to read the profile....still wanting your Y!M name and when you're going to be online.

you can lead a kid to education, but you sure as hell cant make them read for comprehension.

kitten, who still isnt looking for companionship other than the lovely people who post on the message boards.

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/26/2009 3:44:35 AM

pixidustpet

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ORIGINAL: VanessaChaland

So you wanna hook up then or what, lol. :)

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ORIGINAL: pixidustpet

oh i dunno. the OP's whining that a WHOLE THREE WIMMENS blew him off isnt any worse than the gracious gentlemen who fail to read a profile then get all bent out of shape when they're told "not interested."

ditto the ones who message you back after failing AGAIN to read the profile....still wanting your Y!M name and when you're going to be online.

you can lead a kid to education, but you sure as hell cant make them read for comprehension.

kitten, who still isnt looking for companionship other than the lovely people who post on the message boards.

oh that definitely got me a good laugh this morning! thank you, and i hope the rest of your day goes wonderfully too!

kitten, still giggling

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/26/2009 4:01:44 AM

sambamanslilgirl

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Being a fellow Chicagoan, I thought I would lend a hand...if you root for the Sox go fuck yourself.

nope, i think he's a disgruntle Cubs fan like you, domi

...and the curse lives on for another 100yrs

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/26/2009 4:27:37 AM

robertolapiedra

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ORIGINAL: WantAPetgirl

Hi everyone. I am new to the site and the lifestyle. I have done My research and am ready to take My first step. However, I am really disappointed with this site so far. I joined, searched through all the profiles, and emailed three women. ...............
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So why are these women on here? Obviously they have no intention of doing anything but telling people off for no reason. Anyone have any theories?
The only thing I can think of is that they have no interest in the lifestyle, but they had abusive or controlling relationships in the past and are seeking revenge on anyone they think is like their previous partners. How am I supposed to meet anyone on here when the only people who respond to me are bitter and unapproachable?

Hello Wantapetgirl. So you are not into ''smart ass mind fucking narcissistic female cyber-personae''? That's ok, a lot of very nice people here also. They want to really get to know you! How will you make yourself known? How will you distinguish yourself from the ''smart ass mind fucking uber obsessed male cyber-personae''? With a nice profile? All the nice petgirls will respond and find you, instantly?

I find that there are three basic motivations for frequenting this site. One may be to socialize with people who are more or less on the same wavelength: kinksters, Ds relationships, moral support, to ask for and give advice on the lifestyle. Another maybe just to make contact with one's eventual but elusive complementary partner. The last is to get a fantasy fix to spice things up in one's daily life (may not even be in the lifestyle).

You have to deal with this mixed group's subjective perceptions. You are looking for gold, a diamond, a pearl. You are looking for that ''special person'' to whom you would also be that ''special person'', right? Would you not agree that this would be a rare occurence in a cyber context?

For gold you have to dig up and sift through tons and tons of non-gold to find this rare metal. For pearls, you have to dive thousands of times in the sea and open and process a lot of material to find that pearl.

Like everybody you have ''expectations''. If you expect to find someone fast, it will seem impossible. If you expect to find someone that fits 100% your conception of an ideal pet, it will seem impossible (especially if you have to be ''ideal'' yourself for that person). But if you participate with the motivation of being part of this mixed group of similars and non similars, if you participate being yourself and give people time to get to know you? this will happen: You will get a lot of insights, knowledge, experiences from this kinky community. After sometime it will help hone your skills in finding gold. You will find and be found, but not necessarely on this site. This is not a people store which you choose a ''pearl'' in a bucket.

You may find or not find a person to play with, but making friends that do not hesitate to take you down a peg or two is also ''gold'' one should consider and appreciate. Hope this helped in the patience department. RL.

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/26/2009 4:31:36 AM

VanessaChaland

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My "day" starts around noon. I am just now getting ready to turn in for the night. I am happy though to make the start of your day begin with a smile. :)

(P.S., was that a yes or a no on the "hook up" lmao.) :)

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ORIGINAL: VanessaChaland

So you wanna hook up then or what, lol. :)

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oh that definitely got me a good laugh this morning! thank you, and i hope the rest of your day goes wonderfully too!

kitten, still giggling

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/26/2009 4:59:10 AM

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The funny thing is that men get shot down all the time in bars and clubs. Are the negative/positive response ratios any worse here?

I expect that they are. Back in my (much) younger days when I hung our in bars and clubs with my girlfriends, fellows who approached me asked if I wanted to dance or if they could buy me a drink or if they could join us at our table. They didn't start the conversation by asking if I'd have sex with them, even if that was really all they were looking for. I expect that's still pretty much the way it works when a fellow approaches a girl at a bar. Here on CM, the vast majority the fellows who approach me start the conversation by asking for sex (in some form or another). Most don't even bother to say hello - they launch right into what they want done to them. It seems that in the online world, many fellows forget that getting laid comes after getting acquainted.

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/26/2009 5:07:11 AM

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ORIGINAL: VanessaChaland

My "day" starts around noon. I am just now getting ready to turn in for the night. I am happy though to make the start of your day begin with a smile. :)

(P.S., was that a yes or a no on the "hook up" lmao.) :)

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ORIGINAL: pixidustpet

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ORIGINAL: VanessaChaland

So you wanna hook up then or what, lol. :)

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ORIGINAL: pixidustpet

oh that definitely got me a good laugh this morning! thank you, and i hope the rest of your day goes wonderfully too!

kitten, still giggling

Daddy said for me to "behave myself" when i told him about this. he's all about keeping me to himself!

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/26/2009 5:38:48 AM

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My experience has been to not bother finding people via online. If you really want to get somewhere in meeting real BDSM folk, you need to look into joining local groups. In your "research" you should have Googled "BDSM groups" and added whatever the closest major city to you is. You should then be able to assemble a list of groups near you. Attend a munch or two, let people get to know you a bit. Then they'll allow you to attend a play party. Network. Make connections. Maybe play a bit.

You stand a better chance of meeting someone worthwhile in a F2F situation rather than plugging away online. Sad, but I've found it to be true.

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/26/2009 6:54:38 AM

popeye1250

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Don't worry Ladies, I'm not like "Wantapetgirl."
No pushing and shoving now. :)

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/26/2009 11:54:55 AM

MsSpankhardSk

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To Mars:
Hmm...not necessarily so. I have found all of my subs online. The community where I live is fractured and conservative.
I finally had to import the "keeper" from ON. I am blessed in having found the one that is accepting of my poly-ness.
But I can see that being online introduces human fickleness concerning that lack of human interaction, constant need for growth, affection and attention, and more.

As for Wantapetgirl:
You've openly proved in your profile that all you want is a fantasy evening, not a growing relationship.
The open misogyny that happens to women online gives a lot of us ladies a knee-jerk reaction when you have not "done your homework."
Just write "looking to experiment with someone first who has submissive unfulfilled desires." Jumping into the frying pan and not looking before...uh yeah...expect to get burned/blasphemed by people and submissives who have more experience than you.

Newbie-itis ice cream- its not just for subs...it also comes in the extra flavour "Top Syndrome."

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/26/2009 6:33:21 PM

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Lookie, were you a school teacher in a previous life? You know if you wanted to, I who is atroshus at spelln and grammar
would be more than willing to allow your violent red pen to bleed all over my profile. Actually i dont suck at grammar but my spelling really is semi atrocious. At least I can kick mucho ass in calculous.
Oh, and no that was not a shameless attempt to get myself publicly ridiculed for jacking a thread.

I sense, with the pejoratives....that you want me.

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