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doll -> kinda confused (1/26/2006 4:11:52 PM)
I have a question concerning emails. This isnt a flame question or anything. I was wondering why it seems that some of the Dominants on here email you and immediately begin asking sexual questions. Is it that hard to try to get to know a person first before worrying about the sexual side? I would like to know the best way to respond to those types of emails. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

RavenMuse -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 4:24:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: doll I have a question concerning emails. This isnt a flame question or anything. I was wondering why it seems that some of the Dominants on here email you and immediately begin asking sexual questions. Is it that hard to try to get to know a person first before worrying about the sexual side? I would like to know the best way to respond to those types of emails. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. The best way to respond to those types of emails.... hit delete and forget about them. For some it appears to be just sex oriented whilst others are looking for a D/s 'relationship' of which sex is only a part and the important thing is the person. They are obviously the former, you obviously (From your question) the latter. You seem to know what you are looking for, stick to it and don't waste your time on mails that are so blatently not it.

counthigh -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 4:33:48 PM)
for security reasons.. i recommend you update your profile and list your requirements , guidlines and rules of introduction that you will be happy to respond to. State clearly you will not accept sex talk on first communications.. this way your setting and making your rules quite clear.. hope this helps you..

doll -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 4:40:14 PM)
Actually, a Domina friend of mine wrote my profile. She knows me very well as She is my best friend in real life. She made it certain to describe me and what I was seeking. And the mailers don't seem to post the sexual aspects until after I have responded to them and in some cases the initial email was very intelligent and well written. I understand that for some the sexual side is very important and I think that it should be addressed at some point, just not in the first few times of chatting.

RavenMuse -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 4:52:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: doll Actually, a Domina friend of mine wrote my profile. She knows me very well as She is my best friend in real life. She made it certain to describe me and what I was seeking. And the mailers don't seem to post the sexual aspects until after I have responded to them and in some cases the initial email was very intelligent and well written. I understand that for some the sexual side is very important and I think that it should be addressed at some point, just not in the first few times of chatting. Ah now that is slightly diffrent than 'immediatly' launching into sex talk. Have you tried saying what you just said there, namely "I understand that for some the sexual side is very important and I think that it should be addressed at some point, just not in the first few times of chatting."? If they are reasonable rational adults who may have a chance of being what you are looking for then they shouldn't have a problem respecting that. If you gat a negative reaction then you know to halt the conversation, say goodbye and move on.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 4:59:06 PM)
Never expect anyone online to act mature, or share the same values and expectations that you do. Be happily surprised when someone does.

RavenMuse -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 5:04:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Never expect anyone online to act mature, or share the same values and expectations that you do. Be happily surprised when someone does. Deja vu Must be a glitch in the matrix, it happens when they change something! I seem to remember those words from somewhere else today[:D]

MHOO314 -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 5:27:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: doll I have a question concerning emails. This isnt a flame question or anything. I was wondering why it seems that some of the Dominants on here email you and immediately begin asking sexual questions. Is it that hard to try to get to know a person first before worrying about the sexual side? I would like to know the best way to respond to those types of emails. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. ooohh gawd, not another thread about emails....

mnottertail -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 5:41:45 PM)
Because it is a fuckin' sex site, I don't care what your mother said or you secret ganglion, or your deep deep feelings without requite......... guys see sex, you see .........other issues................. you may want, but this is what you can have, anything else is red hand (if you don't get that look it up or send the hate mail directly to me, I like the red stuff) LOL, Ron

doll -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 5:41:53 PM)
Mistress Hathor, I dont mean to be rude or anything, but if You are unhappy with this post about "yet another email thread" You do not have to respond. I am sorry my post upsets You, but I do have the right to post what I would like to without the fear of someone responding exactly how You just did. Like You have said in other posts, if something bothers you, move on to the next thread. I normally find Your comments intelligent and responsive, I am surprised at Your comment over my post.

doll -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 5:48:43 PM)
OMG!! This is a SEX SITE? And here all this time I thought I was visiting Catholic Nuns R Us! No wonder I get these sexual comments slaps forehead NOW I get it! Silly me. Thank you Ron for clearing that up. Whew!

mnottertail -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 5:52:35 PM)
Yeah, i'm with you pal, did you see the way she flipped out? YOU WITH 20 POSTS AND VAST AND PONDERABLE ADVICE, me.......? I am an asshole, I am confused just like you............ WTF is with the e-mail, anyways? If I told you I had a master and I spend 24/7 on this site, is that a reason to fuck with me (is that the question)? Cause I will fuck with you for a lot less........nd you will do what?.... oh, Disclaimer, Warning.Asshole....whatever; most of my really really real people friends have been made by ingnoring the statement that you just read and put on your profile as you thought that you knew what the fuck was up........LOL Either hold your umbrage in abeyance, or explain your abilities, or chill..... all the same to me............... Ron give me rossignol or give me head........if you ski...........

MHOO314 -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 5:52:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: doll Mistress Hathor, I dont mean to be rude or anything, but if You are unhappy with this post about "yet another email thread" You do not have to respond. I am sorry my post upsets You, but I do have the right to post what I would like to without the fear of someone responding exactly how You just did. Like You have said in other posts, if something bothers you, move on to the next thread. I normally find Your comments intelligent and responsive, I am surprised at Your comment over my post. My comment simply meant that at times if one uses the search option, they can often find a new way to word their question or responses from a myriad of people to their question, we have as late had many many threads about emails and email responses--and you are right, it was thoughtless on My part-- I apologize.

MHOO314 -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 6:07:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: doll I have a question concerning emails. This isnt a flame question or anything. I was wondering why it seems that some of the Dominants on here email you and immediately begin asking sexual questions. Is it that hard to try to get to know a person first before worrying about the sexual side? I would like to know the best way to respond to those types of emails. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Usually these are wannabes or wankers--they cut to the chase, stand strong, drop them and keep searching--you will find what you seek--

mnottertail -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 6:27:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MHOO314 quote: ORIGINAL: doll I have a question concerning emails. This isnt a flame question or anything. I was wondering why it seems that some of the Dominants on here email you and immediately begin asking sexual questions. Is it that hard to try to get to know a person first before worrying about the sexual side? I would like to know the best way to respond to those types of emails. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Usually these are wannabes or wankers--they cut to the chase, stand strong, drop them and keep searching--you will find what you seek-- Reasonably so.........after the games. I concur. Don't matter except what you want. Ron

xxblushesxx -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 6:37:57 PM)
Some are just testing you. If you tell them what you will/will not put up with, some are v happy to be respectful. Others, eh, not so much... I have only had to block a couple though

mnottertail -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 6:43:54 PM)
is it wrong to push limits? funny girl? you beHAVE! LOL, Ron

Leonidas -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 7:35:32 PM)
There are a certain percentage of members on any site like this that are just looking for cheap thrills. Sad as it might sound, they're out there right now, hitting the refresh button, waiting for the next new woman to join the site so that they can try to be the first one to send her a chat request or a mail. Yes, they're mostly men. The membership of this site is overwhelmingly male too. So is the general population of the internet (around 70% male). As someone else suggested, just delete them.

mnottertail -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 7:42:06 PM)
leo, you may not or may agree......... It's computers...........I (or anyone else) can look at new users........ after a while you don't show up...............that's kinda important too..... ron it does slow down, let's see what you can withstand........ lol, me

Lordandmaster -> RE: kinda confused (1/26/2006 7:51:11 PM)
Come on. If you make a post in a public forum, people are free to respond to it--as free as you are to post in the first place. If you don't want to take the risk that someone might say something you don't like, don't post in a public forum. You also have to be aware that there have been dozens and dozens of threads like this, and regular users sometimes get impatient. Perhaps he could have stated his point with a little more forbearance. But you're hardly the first person to have asked this question. You're on an anonymous internet sex site. Some people are going to be crass. quote: ORIGINAL: doll Mistress Hathor, I dont mean to be rude or anything, but if You are unhappy with this post about "yet another email thread" You do not have to respond. I am sorry my post upsets You, but I do have the right to post what I would like to without the fear of someone responding exactly how You just did. Like You have said in other posts, if something bothers you, move on to the next thread. I normally find Your comments intelligent and responsive, I am surprised at Your comment over my post.

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