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Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 11:01:02 AM   
Strictyetnice


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Status: offline 		Recently I have stumbled across quite a few people who are looking for this, whether to serve others, or to have a bottom help out around the house. Because this interests me as well, I am wondering how many of you are also seeking this as apart of your ideal lifestyle? I didn't think it was very common but judging on my latest findings, perhaps there are more of us out there than I thought.
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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 11:11:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would love it but haven't had any volunteers. Unless you count the guys that want to do it naked or dressed in heels and a french maids uniform.

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 11:13:16 AM   
antipode


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I didn't think it was very common


I don't know how common it is - you might just read dominant's postings to get a feel for it, or take the trouble to search listings on the various keywords. I do think you are referring to full service slaves rather than a bottom "who helps out around the house". I am interested more in how many sub/slaves are offering, I don't know that there are that many out there, other than those looking to serve in a 1950's household.

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 11:35:55 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Strictyetnice

Recently I have stumbled across quite a few people who are looking for this, whether to serve others, or to have a bottom help out around the house. Because this interests me as well, I am wondering how many of you are also seeking this as apart of your ideal lifestyle? I didn't think it was very common but judging on my latest findings, perhaps there are more of us out there than I thought.



Are you speaking of domestic servitude as exclusive? If so, I don't see why anyone wishing to be served would balk at this form of service, though in my mind the liberties inherent in keeping a personal slave—which include domestic servitude, among other things—trumps having a transient house boy or girl over from time to time.


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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 11:39:58 AM   
Strictyetnice


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Status: offline 		What I have noticed is that you seem to have more submissive guys into it than girls (when you do searches on various sites). I did a couple of keyword searches on here but it was difficult to sort through all the fake profiles from Nigeria! But yes I am mainly referring to full service here, though I find the lines can be a bit blurred at times. 

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 12:00:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I would love it but haven't had any volunteers. Unless you count the guys that want to do it naked or dressed in heels and a french maids uniform.




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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 12:04:01 PM   
subtlebutterfly


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Status: offline 		I clean my shit..you clean yours dominant or not..I wouldn't want anybody to do those things for me...it's just my thing..can even be fun but nah I don't like cleaning up the mess after other people. When it comes to my partner, nah I don't mind but heck they can do it once in a while too!

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 12:10:22 PM   
WarKirby


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Status: offline 		Having someone who would be a live in maid, would be very nice indeed. It's not specifically what I'm looking for in a partner, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't really like the idea of a sub who cleans the house.

But it's a fairly low priority thing, and there are plenty of other qualities I look for first. It would just sort of be icing on the cake, so to speak.

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 12:15:35 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		I agree with LaT.  I have had many offer's throughout the years and so far... not one that actually takes place.  I first started out saying... I wasn't going to use someone offering becasue it wasn't the type of relationship I wanted as a whole.  I then learned it really didn't matter my view on it because most didn't know what they were saying or had no intentions to really clean... just to look cute after an hour or so of getting cute and then of course they don't want to mess up the cute and want to be punished or something during or after. 

I asked what people meant by no strings housework or service and so far got one answer that was anything close to what service or housework actually are... in a general sense.  If it requires my service to dress up the maid... coo and compliment... and watch, punish, spank... play... I can save myself a lot of time and simply do it myself.  Those that didn't want to dress up and offered service said service and admitted to saying it... and said they said it because they thought that was what was expected of them.

I would almost kill for some service around the house... within the range of what I want as a whole... but finding a good service submissive/slave... it like finding a four leaf clover... and I have never found one of those!  So... somebody... make me a believer! hehe

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 12:28:02 PM   
StormsSlave


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Status: offline 		My Lord and I would absolutely love to find a third, male or female, who wants to keep our house clean.  I don't think we'd much like it if it wasn't someone with whom we could have a personal/sexual relationship with as well.  We'll keep looking.  In the meantime, I think, for us at least, it's just a pretty fantasy that will most likely neve rhappen.  Pity.

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 12:58:15 PM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		Is it so wrong for a sub to want to do the work in a maid's outfit or naked?  Why not infuse the mundane with sexual energy?  I have no love of housework, but I often clean Ms. Mlicious' house, especially before she entertains.  For big jobs, she enlists the help of a few other subs who she knows.

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 1:00:41 PM   
Lockit


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavekal

Is it so wrong for a sub to want to do the work in a maid's outfit or naked?  Why not infuse the mundane with sexual energy?  I have no love of housework, but I often clean Ms. Mlicious' house, especially before she entertains.  For big jobs, she enlists the help of a few other subs who she knows.


Only if it over rides the service.  I love to listen to music and dance as I clean.  But the cleaning gets done.  Nothing wrong with making it enjoyable unless the work doesn't get done and an addition... if it takes too long!

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 3:42:29 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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ORIGINAL: Strictyetnice

Recently I have stumbled across quite a few people who are looking for this, whether to serve others, or to have a bottom help out around the house. Because this interests me as well, I am wondering how many of you are also seeking this as apart of your ideal lifestyle? I didn't think it was very common but judging on my latest findings, perhaps there are more of us out there than I thought.


My ideal woman is one who would enjoy this type of service to me.  I'd love to have a girl who would enjoy acting as a Lady's companion -- including light housekeeping.  Sadly, they are few and far between, in my experience. 

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 4:01:13 PM   
Andalusite


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ORIGINAL: Lockit
I would almost kill for some service around the house... within the range of what I want as a whole... but finding a good service submissive/slave... it like finding a four leaf clover... and I have never found one of those! 

I have a four-leaf clover, it was only a couple of dollars at a local store. Here are a couple online: http://www.amazon.com/Four-Leaf-Clover-Mega-Mini/dp/0762414731 http://www.iwantoneofthose.com/four-leaf-clover/index.html (they are real plants)

Strictyetnice, I've had several people e-mail me with that type of offer, but none of them have seemed sincere about it. Also, I don't feel comfortable actually dominating someone in a D/s interaction unless we have a sexual and emotional connection. I can give orders, I can even thwack them and tie them up, but domination is very much a mindset/headspace/interaction for me, that I can't do with someone I don't care about.

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 4:01:43 PM   
LovingMistress45


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Status: offline 		If I could find a true service sub/slave that would be great.  Most seem to want to have their "on" button pushed before they work.  My home life is not set up to have naked or femmed malesub doing house work.  And frankly it doesn't really interest me.  Also my having to monitor it or punish for a poor job doesn't interest me.

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 4:06:04 PM   
stella41b


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Status: offline 		I've done this sort of thing for a number of years but retired not long back simply because if someone isn't expecting you to do something with their genitalia then you tend to be either hindered or obstructed by some Dominant.

I clean to a standard, for example I'll take a toothpick soaked in olive oil and dip it in lemon juice to get the marks out of the screw threads which hold legs to a table or are fixed on hinges holding doors to cupboards and for the straightforward cleaning and chores I don't need a dynamic, not interested in D/s, play or whatever but in getting things clean and in order. This is service, I enjoy what I do, I hate being watched and observed, and it's best for the Dominant to either take a walk, go for a sleep, just stay out of my way.

There's also another reason, because if anyone is going to find the fossilized roast chicken from last November lurking at the bottom of the stove, tagnuts and skid marks down the side of the porcelain, used condoms or dried in sweat odd socks then it's me. Not that it bothers me, I do this professionally every so often and sometimes clean the apartments of bright young professionals and end of tenancy flats and I'm not fazed by grabbing handfuls of maggots and tossing them in a bin liner or chiselling last year's 'Wheatos' packet off the worktop so you can see the toaster.

Domestic work centres me emotionally, I see and organize in fine detail but I also drift off and think of other things.

The only time I need input is when I encounter a desk (that's your job, I'm not touching it), garden sheds, kitchen cupboards and women's wardrobes (a complete mystery as to what happens inside them, is this where you hide bodies? Practice dance steps? Organize dogfights?)

But as a guide 'no strings' means exactly that - no strings, some will do a certain number of hours in exchange for a beating or punishment, some in exchange for play, or some other barter and if you're good and you have references you might evern get paid.

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 5:14:43 PM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: slavekal

Is it so wrong for a sub to want to do the work in a maid's outfit or naked?  Why not infuse the mundane with sexual energy? 


There is nothing wrong with a sub/slave, MY sub/slave doing work around the house dressed in costume or naked. If they are mine, then I have a relationship with them that makes the naked part sexually interesting. That isn't what I was writing about.

I was writing about the guys I don't know AT ALL, that contact me wanting to do work around the place, but have a whole list of requirements they need to do it. "And oh yeah, by the way, I would need to be able to walk around with a hard on while you poke me, prod me, humiliate me, etc...and then be allowed sexual release before it's all said and done..."

As others have said, it really is much easier to just do it myself. I don't need to see some guy's hairy ass prancing around my house pretending to actually do something constructive, wasting my time, just for his thrills.

All of that, after acknowledging that I have zero interest in men sexually. They just assume I would enjoy "using them and humiliating them" for a little bit of dusting.

I enjoy explaining to them that it's not housework they would be doing. I've got a shovel and a wheel barrow just waiting for them. They will definitely want some clothes on to clean the barn. And high heels are never a good idea.

Usually I don't get another email.

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 5:39:22 PM   
MsDDom


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Status: offline 		i like it---is it more an added task, not exclusive. i have had offers for a house boy and cook...


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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 5:43:15 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		And those who expect you to stand there and bark orders at them every second and tell them what a worthless job they're doing, and turn it into a play session.


Which totally defeats the purpose of having them come to the house to clean, because usually you have them to come so you can attend to other things than the cleaning not, boss them about while they PRETEND to do their best.
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I would love it but haven't had any volunteers. Unless you count the guys that want to do it naked or dressed in heels and a french maids uniform.

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RE: Domestic Servitude - 3/28/2009 5:48:18 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		When I had a domme friend with fibromyalgia, I came over and cleaned house for her and cat sat when she needed it and stuff, and all with out any expectations of play or sex or reward. I did it to help out a friend. Course  I was her friend so her company even if she was just in the living room sitting down while I was in the kitchen and we talked on l unch break was fun.


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ORIGINAL: Lockit


I would almost kill for some service around the house... within the range of what I want as a whole... but finding a good service submissive/slave... it like finding a four leaf clover... and I have never found one of those!  So... somebody... make me a believer! hehe

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