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Be Nice or I Won't Hurt You... - 3/29/2009 8:04:36 PM

SelenaAndRaja

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In the BDSM world, I might be a little bit of a freak for this...I am the dominant in my relationship, however, it takes a gentle hand sometimes to make me truly evil...Here is the account of what I call "parlor tricks"...

I have often heard of deferred pain, but never had I experienced deferred arousal until the day I met Raja. Since the first time he touched me, I knew he was truly gifted. As we kissed, he would run his fingers across the nape of my neck very slowly sending complete waves of intensity through my entire body. It was the simplest thing and it amazed me how absolutely crazy it made me. It seemed almost like magic...hence, I started calling these actions "parlor tricks". He has the same gift as he lays his hands flat against my stomach or gently caresses the curve of my hips.

Here is the lesson in all of this young men...grabbing, groping, humping...yeah, that doesn’t really work for all of us nor is it the hottest thing you can do. The subtlety, respect, and attention can often be the ticket to truly turning a woman on...

Now with that said, my reactions are a different story...When I have these experiences, I generally end up tying him up, torturing him in a variety of ways, and then expecting him to thoughtfully hold me afterwards.

Doesn't sound like a cruel domme's fantasy, does it? It certainly doesn't seem fair to my perfect pet, Raja...
But wait... I AM the Goddess...I get what I want how I want it.

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RE: Be Nice or I Won't Hurt You... - 3/29/2009 8:42:32 PM

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When I have these experiences, I generally end up tying him up, torturing him in a variety of ways, and then expecting him to thoughtfully hold me afterwards.

yes, i've done that too...

especially the bratty boy...it does definitely modify behavior

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RE: Be Nice or I Won't Hurt You... - 3/30/2009 7:47:06 AM

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I like that kind of subtle flirting/contact, especially right at the beginning of play. Someone who goes from 0 to 60 isn't nearly as much fun!

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RE: Be Nice or I Won't Hurt You... - 3/30/2009 8:51:32 AM

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I often tease, "I promise I don't bite... unless you beg very nicely, then I might."

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RE: Be Nice or I Won't Hurt You... - 3/30/2009 3:11:30 PM

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Why is this not fair? He is getting his needs sated or he would surely voice some sort of protest. Just because he is gentle with you in lovemaking, does not mean that is what pushes his buttons in the same context. What you describe likely gives him the same warm fuzzies that what he does gives you. Further, who says all sexual contact in a D/s relationship need be rough all the time? Gentle has its place too.

It is something I very seriously considered doing with a friend who did not seem very motivated to serve. I was perfectly willing to refuse to play with the person. It is amazing how effective that was in getting my mandatory drink fetching, foot massages, and much more. It has been made clear I will not reprieve next time. This was a warning shot because it is a new partnership. There will not be a next time without consequences.

Seems fair enough to me!

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RE: Be Nice or I Won't Hurt You... - 3/31/2009 12:40:23 PM

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The power of abandonmentI works extremely well on me. I both dread and adore the day she learns its effect . Timing/mood is is critical, otherwise its just as easy to say "bye bye". If I become "speelbound"/collared"/"locked" (she always wins)! What I become is weird to me, I simply melt into all her whims.
In contrast, A domme that frequently calls, email, texts is a major turnoff for me.

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Why is this not fair? He is getting his needs sated or he would surely voice some sort of protest. Just because he is gentle with you in lovemaking, does not mean that is what pushes his buttons in the same context. What you describe likely gives him the same warm fuzzies that what he does gives you. Further, who says all sexual contact in a D/s relationship need be rough all the time? Gentle has its place too.

It is something I very seriously considered doing with a friend who did not seem very motivated to serve. I was perfectly willing to refuse to play with the person. It is amazing how effective that was in getting my mandatory drink fetching, foot massages, and much more. It has been made clear I will not reprieve next time. This was a warning shot because it is a new partnership. There will not be a next time without consequences.

Seems fair enough to me!

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RE: Be Nice or I Won't Hurt You... - 3/31/2009 1:16:29 PM

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I am not sure... if I am missing something here or not.

My submissive darn well better touch me gently, tenderly and in love. The day he gropes... is rough or anything other than a loving touch is the day he is no longer with me. His gentle does bring out my not so gentle. That is the way it works for me with a submissive. He likes the rough stuff.. I do not. His feelings for me, feed me. His need for the rough stuff, feeds me. The more he gives.. the more I am fed and feast. Therefore... he is fed and can feast.

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