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Just Starting Out - 3/30/2009 7:26:33 PM

lylagirl

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Hi All!
I am to meet my possible first Dom this week for our first, public meeting. We have emailed and spoken on the phone. He has been seemingly patient and openly addresses my fears as I move forward with this. From all I've read, he seems to be doing his best to assure me and not suggest too much too soon. What do you all think? I'm so excited to be discovering this submissiveness inside of me...I want to make sure I don't make any stupid mistakes in my hurry to please a master.

Thanks for any advice you have!

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RE: Just Starting Out - 3/30/2009 7:35:04 PM

KneelforAnne

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Congrats!

My only advice is to use your head, not your...er...um...*clears throat*

Good luck and post and let us know that it all worked out!

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RE: Just Starting Out - 3/30/2009 9:56:54 PM

bardtothebone

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Anne's words are wise counsel. This lifestyle is rife with deceit. Let
your mind be your guide and you should be fine. Good luck, and keep
us informed -- you'll have many friends here who care.

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RE: Just Starting Out - 3/31/2009 12:41:03 PM

JoePNY707

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KneelforAnne

Congrats!

My only advice is to use your head, not your...er...um...*clears throat*

Good luck and post and let us know that it all worked out!

I agree with Anne. Take your time, and be willing to be patient while the two of you get to know each other. If he is the 'real deal' he won't mind waiting...after all, anticipation makes most things taste even better in the end...

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RE: Just Starting Out - 3/31/2009 7:24:39 PM

lylagirl

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Thanks for the kind words and support! Being a part of this community and the support it offers has helped so much to make me embrace my submissiveness rather than run from it.

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RE: Just Starting Out - 3/31/2009 8:31:01 PM

BohemianGoddess

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I agree with the others, take your time and get to know this Dom. Do not rush into the things,take your time and feel comfortable, if he seems pushy then move on.

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RE: Just Starting Out - 4/2/2009 8:02:16 PM

MasterJames43

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Always have a safe call on speed dial!
Too many have the wrong motives

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RE: Just Starting Out - 4/2/2009 8:26:23 PM

lylagirl

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Hello! I met with my possible master today in person. We talked and laughed and enjoyed watching each other...i was nervous at first but calmed down pretty quickly. I kept all your advice in mind....the prospect for me is so exciting. But I feel I need more time with him before I go to the next step. He certainly says all the right things....i'm just not sure. Are you ever sure your first time out?

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RE: Just Starting Out - 4/9/2009 5:08:06 AM

Zippo1

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Listen to your gut instints, there is no need to rush, like any vanilla relationship, trust has to be developed over time, make sure that he understands your limits and will respect them. Have a 'safeword' in place so if any action becomes to intense for you, you have a way to terminate it. Prior to your 1st encounter you will have those butterflies in your stomach, a good Dom will move slowly at 1st to ensure it's not more than you can handle. The others above have given some sound advice, take it to the next step when you are ready. I wish you luck and happiness.

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RE: Just Starting Out - 4/9/2009 12:20:14 PM

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You have been given such good advice on here. Please just be careful and enjoy.

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