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Ok i cant understand this - 3/31/2009 4:54:22 PM

Msnaughtykitten

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I have made a new profile and this is what it says
I am Part of a couple and this is my singles profile the couples profile is DomM&SubK. I am Sub K.
I am Owned and Collared by Dom M
Hello i was told to rejoin this site to help Me the Submissive learn more about being the submissive i so want to let out. You see i keep my self very guarded at times and at other times i put my foot in my mouth. I am actually very shy but try to be the life of the party. I also want to learn to be submissive around other Dom's as well but not to be a slave or door mat to them. I will only give my self and the power to control me to my Master and Lover and he says that heahas found that to be the biggest gift of all since i have never given that gift to another person in my life. I am always willing to meet with others as friends since right now i am not actively seeking any thing more at this time.
Thanks K

Why after it says in my profile i am in a couple i keep getting guys asking me if i want to hook up or if i need a new man? I have gotten more junk in the last two days than i ever got when i started my couples profile.

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 3/31/2009 5:05:19 PM

Lynnxz

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You have tittahs.

Boys want tittahs.

End of story.

It's not like they're actually reading the profile.

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 3/31/2009 5:06:52 PM

ExKat

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Hell, I've had men e-mail me ON MY COUPLES PROFILE telling me they're a way better dominant than Ex, based on no information. Some men just suck. End of story.

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 3/31/2009 5:07:37 PM

kuriouswitch

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i get more mail now that i'm collared than i ever did before. some have started out as friends and then a few messages later tell me i need a new Master. they seem to think that once i tell them some things about us that they're the better choice. it's just a game really. when it gets to that point i usually stop talking to them

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 3/31/2009 5:21:03 PM

DavanKael

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New sub profile...they see fresh meat and don't take the time to read.
Davan

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 3/31/2009 5:31:55 PM

Lashra

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quote:

You have tittahs.

Boys want tittahs.

End of story.

It's not like they're actually reading the profile.

Herein lies the wisdom. Men cannot see your profile because they are too busy drooling over the tittahs and poontang. Just delete and block if need be.

Good luck,
~Lashra

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 3/31/2009 5:36:21 PM

littlewonder

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They most likely don't read the profile....but this part in your profile:

"I also want to learn to be submissive around other Dom's as well but not to be a slave or door mat to them."

....is going to attract them like flies to honey. If you don't want men to msg you then make your profile and photos as sparse as possible. My profile says very little and I rarely ever get emails anymore...maybe a handful a week.

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 3/31/2009 5:50:39 PM

DesFIP

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Any new sub profile is fresh meat and gets all the come ons. The way I got around it when I joined was to declare I was 89 years old. Now that lessened the mail a lot. Once I had been here for a month or so, I changed it to my real age.

But anybody who is collared is more desirable. My best guess is that it proves you really do want a power relationship. Either that or just chest beating, he wins more if he takes you away from someone else. As though we aren't people but baseball trophies, or two tigers fighting over a sheep.

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 3/31/2009 7:15:05 PM

peppermint

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They used to write me and tell me they loved my picture and we had a lot in common....at a time when I had no picture and the profile was blank.
Hm....on the other hand, we did have a lot in common...nothingness.

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 4/1/2009 2:44:54 AM

ranja

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Use your filters or hide your profile, what ever comes through you don't like : delete

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 4/1/2009 2:44:59 AM

CollaredLisa

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I've gotten a lot of those emails already, even though my profile states that I am already collared (first line)... yesterday someone actually asked if I was owned or not... Well, guys...

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 4/1/2009 4:07:12 AM

RCdc

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The above paragraph from your profile encourages or leads to the impression that you want to hook up with other dominants. Change it or deal with it.

That and like Lynn said. Tittahs.

the.dark.

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 4/1/2009 4:26:36 AM

eyesopened

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

The above paragraph from your profile encourages or leads to the impression that you want to hook up with other dominants. Change it or deal with it.

That and like Lynn said. Tittahs.

the.dark.

Exactly! You say you want to learn how to be submissive around other Dominants and then are upset that other Dominants contact you? I might need more coffee but based on what you wrote here and your quoted paragraph, I don't have a clue what you are actually wanting by having the "singles" profile.

If you don't want to be contacted, change your "seeking" filter to nothing at all, that helps a LOT and be warned, every change to your profile puts you in the "new profile" list and you'll get mail anyway but it will taper off after a week or so.

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 4/1/2009 4:31:22 AM

InTonguesslave

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ive come to the conclusion that there are peeps out there that are interested in 'proven' subs and slaves. this might be because theyre inexperienced and want to learn and an experienced s'type is the obvious choice or, they see someone who has been in a real life relationship and feels there is more chance of something happening. or...,

they want to think that they are actively in pursuit and choose the ones who are already taken so that theres no actual risk of anyone taking them up on their offer. or...,

they just dont bother to read the profiles. i keep getting emails from people who clearly havent bothered to read that im owned and i dont have my tittahs hanging out anywhere and i have a pic of Sir amongst my pics and that STILL doesnt put them off.

so in amongst those are maybe the ones who think we're all on some fantasy trip and when the B all and End all of Dominance swaggers up we'll throw our 'owned' status up in the air and fling ourselves into their arms. or....,

theyre number crunching and eventually someone will, by shere force of numbers, turn out to be up for it.

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 4/1/2009 4:41:04 AM

eyesopened

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quote:

ORIGINAL: InTonguesslave
or....,

theyre number crunching and eventually someone will, by shere force of numbers, turn out to be up for it.

Spot on!

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 4/1/2009 5:37:18 AM

SassySarijane

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It's the fresh meat syndrome basically. Doubt many of the ones who contact you have bothered to do more than see your name in pink showing you are female and sub. Those who have read may be seeing what you wrote and getting the wrong idea. Might adjust what you wrote in it to cover that and then just delete the trolls and move on.

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 4/1/2009 7:15:40 AM

Rainfire

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Like the others have said, consider rephrasing your profile. Personally, my "searching" is left blank and I clearly state that I am owned, collared and married to my Master/Daddy and here strictly for friends (who know who they are) and the forums. However, that doesn't stop the occasional idiot from writing me saying they're my "new Master". If they hit the jackpot, I might respond "get a reality check and read my profile, asshole". That's on a nice day and if I want to be bothered. Mostly, I ignore them since they've obviously NOT read my profile.

Other than that, I'd suggest growing a thick skin and realize there's a lot of wankers out there...... "Block and delete" can be your best friend here!

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 4/1/2009 8:08:17 AM

porcelaine

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they don't read and earnestly believe that their three seconds will offer a life altering revelation for you and bring you to them. your choices are simple, ignore the posts or simply reply and tell them you're not seeking anyone.

porcelaine

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 4/1/2009 9:09:28 AM

akisha

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

You have tittahs.

Boys want tittahs.

End of story.

It's not like they're actually reading the profile.

What Lynnxz said

Mine says "owned and living with ...."

I still get lots of email asking stupid questions.

Ignore and delete. No problem

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RE: Ok i cant understand this - 4/1/2009 9:11:49 AM

littleone35

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I think it is th basic i want what i can't have , but let me try anyway. Or like othes said they just don't read the profile. I am one of the lucky ones, they actually read my profile and see that master sees all my mail and if they want to tak with me ask Masters premission first. it also says i can talk to female subs with out askng master first. Master is not insecure he just does not want me bothered.

Matt's litttleone

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