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RE: being enough...... - 1/28/2006 4:20:23 PM   
Arpig


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Status: offline 		I think it is a relatively common, however, I want to present a slightly different perspective. There are subs who actively want to be shared, and Doms who share more for that reason than because it is a particular desire on their part.

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RE: being enough...... - 1/28/2006 4:54:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Arpig

I think it is a relatively common, however, I want to present a slightly different perspective. There are subs who actively want to be shared, and Doms who share more for that reason than because it is a particular desire on their part.


Yep thats one of the reasons I would.

I'm Poly and its therefore likely anyone getting into a relationship with me will be also (Mainly because a lot of mono's need their Master to be mono also). So likely she will ask (Begging works better with me though) to be shared with people of her choise.

Likewise if she wanted to explore some kind of edgy play where I didn't have any interest in it. If I found someone I was confident about their ability to do so safely and I was sure was 'safe' in other aspects (Like respecting MY limits or restrictions as well as hers) then again I might consider sharing her with them. (One such would be needle play, given I'm phobic about needles!)

Or if she found any Dom tendencys and wanted to explore those... I don't switch so again the same thing would apply.

And those are just the ones that spring to mind where she might be the one raising the matter and where it wouldn't really bother me as to the gender of the person she'd be being shared with.

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RE: being enough...... - 1/28/2006 4:58:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Arpig

I think it is a relatively common, however, I want to present a slightly different perspective. There are subs who actively want to be shared, and Doms who share more for that reason than because it is a particular desire on their part.


Ahhh, the 'whore complex' lol. And that is said with much affection :) I am one who enjoys the degradation and objectification of being treated like that...and if that meant being shared at his whim...then so be it. But...I never WANTED it myself, it was always what HE wanted to do at any particular time.

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RE: being enough...... - 1/28/2006 5:14:36 PM   
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How commom is it for a Master to want his submisive/slave take on other men or women? My desire is to belong to one Master.owned completely and that be enough for Him.



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RE: being enough...... - 1/28/2006 8:58:02 PM   
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LOL why did that send a chill down my spine?

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RE: being enough...... - 1/29/2006 7:28:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well it would take alot to push that limit .especially if he wanted me to be with another woman.....no disrepect to you ladies but I love men! But I do know that I have to be willing to bend .........

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RE: being enough...... - 1/29/2006 7:43:42 AM   
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Well it would take alot to push that limit .especially if he wanted me to be with another woman.....no disrepect to you ladies but I love men! But I do know that I have to be willing to bend .........


Ahh but see hun...I love men also, I have no attraction for women whatsoever...but that does not mean that I would not go down on a women if requested.

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RE: being enough...... - 1/29/2006 7:46:12 AM   
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You have to know what you want. You know what you have to offer. You have to be able to articulate both, clearly and politely. You have to make the right connection.
Trying to fit a square peg into a round hole can def be an interesting exercise, but, it does get frustrating after a while. (that's when the hammer and/or the saw comes out, and things tend to get messy)


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RE: being enough...... - 1/29/2006 7:57:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: submissivemiss38

How commom is it for a Master to want his submisive/slave take on other men or women? My desire is to belong to one Master.owned completely and that be enough for Him.



Your question is not out of line--a bit--none are, its just we all have passionate opinions--

It is dependent upon the Dom/me, find one that prefers a monagamous D/s relationship---make it a hard limit for you and stick to it---

Welcome and best of luck in your search.

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RE: being enough...... - 1/29/2006 8:38:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: IrishMist
Ahhh, the 'whore complex' lol. And that is said with much affection :) I am one who enjoys the degradation and objectification of being treated like that...and if that meant being shared at his whim...then so be it. But...I never WANTED it myself, it was always what HE wanted to do at any particular time.

Being a whore is one possible side of it, but not for everyone.

I enjoy being shared on multiple levels and for multiple reasons. Sometimes it's just to be used as a fuck toy. Sometimes however it's a very emotional sharing of myself and being a conduit between or for something else.

In the end- the answer is always "Will making a commitment to this serve me and make me more ME? Or will it take away from myself?"

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RE: being enough...... - 1/30/2006 7:15:59 AM   
typesgirl


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Status: offline 		Ahh Lucky..you are so wise. I agree. You have to consider what it will give you, or take away from you.

All the advice here is "do what's right for you" etc which I totally agree with, it's all subjective, and dependant on how well you know yourself and how well your Dom/me knows you.

However *stepping up onto my soap box hahah* I would risk it to say that there is one rule that will always be true. No matter how much you're into being shared, or He/She is into sharing you...being used in this way is something that must only happen AFTER the relationship between Dom and sub is fairly solid and well established. There must be a strong level of trust and understanding there. A Dom who "shares" you on a first "date" is a bad cookie, as far as I'm concerned. How can He push you to limits before He knows you well enough to understand why you have them.

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RE: being enough...... - 1/30/2006 7:28:25 AM   
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A Dom who "shares" you on a first "date" is a bad cookie, as far as I'm concerned. How can He push you to limits before He knows you well enough to understand why you have them.

Again, not necessarily.

The first date I had with my ex-owner was to the Fetish Warehouse in NYC after it just opened (is that still open?) A couple came in who were old friends of the ex and the four of us ended up at the bar all playing together, my pussy and breasts and body completely being touched and used by him. I had a truly awesome time.

Granted, at the time I had been around the scene block a few times, was an active slut, and was just having a fun first date. YMMV.

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RE: being enough...... - 1/30/2006 7:48:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		In my case this was not an issue. I told my late Master that i wanted to be the only one he was with and he agreed and one of my limits was not to be shared except if it was discussed and agreed with beforhand.

I understand how you feel i did not want anyone touching him but me.

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RE: being enough...... - 1/30/2006 9:45:51 AM   
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i love Master so much that i don't want anyone else touching me, or anyone else touching him.


this slave is devoted to Master's pleasure. Is it a function of "love" that causes her to wish for Him a line out the door of beautiful, interesting, sexy people on their knees to Him, ready to perform any task, night or day~for His pleasure, His amusement, His joy? If it just so happens that line doesn't form behind this slave on any given day, this slave is still just as focused and devoted as if there were 100 standing behind her.

a long time ago, this slave was told once that she was "loved" so much by someone that he was going to "ruin" this slave for anyone else, that if she ever left him/kicked him out, no man would ever want her. kind of a twisty version of love, isn't it?

even farther back into the past, this slave was told that because she was "loved", her spouse would never actually have sexual intercourse with the woman he was spending the night in a motel room with, nevermind what they were really doing, while she waited at home for him with the unmentionables (no, it wasn't his job...) is monogamous sex the only thing "forsaking all others" is intended to mean as a wedding vow or similarly worded declaration of love?

"love" is often trotted out and paraded around as a reason for all sorts of "un"-loving behavior, attitudes and emotions.

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RE: being enough...... - 1/31/2006 3:09:15 PM   
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LOL why did that send a chill down my spine?


Possibly has something to do with that newly bricked-over wall in her cellar.


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RE: being enough...... - 1/31/2006 3:41:54 PM   
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RE: being enough...... - 1/31/2006 4:10:36 PM   
MistressOfGa


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Status: offline 		and dont forget..these dommes come halloween get out those big big huge boiling pots too........
bubble bubble toil n trouble....(cackle cackle)
the boys in the pot with oil will be double


Hey! I resent this! I always have my big big huge boiling pot out! One never knows when it may come in handy...



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