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Long Distance Chastity - 4/5/2009 5:06:53 AM

agnostic

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So, my Dom also happens to be my sub. There are 402 miles of painful separation between us, although we hope to remedy that within a few months. We recently discussed the possibility of putting a lock on him while I'm there visiting the first week of May, and it would remain on until he comes to visit me the third week of June. 6 weeks of chastity.

The problem is, I feel badly about not being able to physically be there with him to help him through those 6 weeks. I want to be able to take care of him and see to it that his needs are met, and that's very difficult to do when I can't milk him every few days myself. I don't really want him playing without me (because that's the point), but I also don't want him to have the issues that would arise from going too long without ejaculating. And I'm just not sure about the best way to balance the two.

Does anyone have suggestions for doing 6-weeks of chastity long-distance?

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RE: Long Distance Chastity - 4/5/2009 5:12:56 AM

shorn

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Other than the obvious one of him locked for six weeks with no safety key, go for it. Our husband is kept locked except when she wants him out, i simply can't top him, i tried. She can and he has gone 6 weeks or more on occasion.

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RE: Long Distance Chastity - 4/5/2009 6:11:54 AM

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There is a chastity belt internet radio show that you can call into or write in on there forum http://www.lockedinsteel.com/?Cat=117&CatName=Chastity%20Chat%20-%20Internet%20Radio The host (Jillian from lockedinsteel) says that only older men, I think it was 50+ need milking. Of course opinions on that seem to vary wildly but talking to the groups specifically devoted to chastity will probably get you more good information.

p.s. The obvious question is: has he been in whatever device your using for that long before. If for instance he's only worn it for a day or two before going right to six weeks might not go so well....

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RE: Long Distance Chastity - 4/5/2009 10:09:42 AM

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quote:

the issues that would arise from going too long without ejaculating

There are no such issues. Ejaculation can be triggered by sexual intercourse, but the body will get rid of stored sperm by itself, it is a simple autonomous biological function that no male has control over, any more than that anyone can keep their bladder from emptying. The only issue would be psychological, which I thought the point of chastity was.

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RE: Long Distance Chastity - 4/5/2009 11:13:32 AM

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That's not necessarily true.

"Results were striking: Men having the most orgasms reduced their prostate cancer risk by a full third compared with those men reporting the fewest orgasms." http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?file=/c/a/2004/04/07/MNGS161ML91.DTL

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RE: Long Distance Chastity - 4/6/2009 7:51:19 AM

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Agnostic, one or two months without orgasms are not the same as an extended lifestyle without so I would not worry about cancer risk. As far as not cumming is concerned, what you propose is very tough psychologically but not so much physically. If he 'must' cum, the body will find a way.

The physical challenge might not be very fun if you try to start a long session in chastity without a 'warm up'... the comfort of the device you choose may be a big barrier at first. From experience, I can assure you that he will need time to adjust to the device no matter what type of device it is you choose to use. It may take a week or two of trial and testing to both get the device to fit comfortably and to learn how to stay clean and comfortable in the device. If any skin chaffing occurs and the device cannot be removed for some time to heal, it will become torture instead of play and can cause real health issues. With that much time in chastity, it is a safe bet he will try to wiggle the device around to get himself off and that will cause chaffing whether the device is metal or plastic, a waist belt or a ball trap.

Having both a belt and a genital trap device to switch now and then lets the body have a break. A safety key is a must unless you are willing to lose a device by having it cut off. Either a person you trust to hold his spare key or a locking combination key box (like Real Estate agents use) will let you have the peace of mind he can get out if he really needs to but only with your permission.

I have worn ball traps, a steel belt, and a tube using a piercing. None are the "best and only" answer, it is not easy to wear something locked tightly on your body for more than a day unless you practice. Get started on this right away and don't be disappointed if you cannot make it work the first time. It is possible to be in chastity for over a month and still keep a job but don't risk an infection by not having a safety plan. My personal experience is that a tube locked with a piercing is the best choice for long term wear, but unless he is already pierced you don't have that option. Even a custom made belt has to be bent to fit the wearer's body for the first few days until it is just right. My least favorite is the plastic ball trap (like the CB-XXXX) because they often chaff the sack and the prisoner can be pulled out when flaccid.

Good luck and have fun!

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