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antipode -> RE: is weight an obsession? (4/11/2009 10:49:24 AM)
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Is weight really an issue for so many? or does so many think its funny going after something they dislike or well just hear what he said. is that fun?
There are a lot of people that simply use internet forums to vent their frustration, as they can do so anonymously. Read the research on cyberbullying, it is just about the first thing kids get up to after they learn to use Yahoo.
As to weight being an issue, I'll give you the same answer I gave you in the other thread you started about weight - note that you seem to give this a lot of thought.
Weight isn't, as far as I am concerned, an issue. But weight can be indicative of a nutritional disorder. And if the person isn't working on the disorder - I had a bulimic sub who insisted it is not a treatable condition, as many bulimics and anorexics do - then there is a problem. There is a future where they weighty person can no longer fly with me, as she does not fit in a regulation airline seat, and has to fly standby. There is a future where knees have to be replaced, foot joints repaired, and the dreaded diabetes can occur. I can't deal with a girl with a medical condition, unless she is open and up front about it, and working on getting better. I have an immune condition, and I get treatment and get therapy and take my medication - I can't get better, but I make sure I take care of my problems.
Whoever invented the BBW did everybody a huge disfavour, by legitimizing obesity. There is no such thing as a BBW - in general, there is only the big woman with a medical problem - or, indeed, the big man with a medical problem.
So, to answer you in a nutshell, yes, weight is an issue. A medical and psychological issue. Somebody weighing 200 lbs may weigh 300 lbs in ten years from now, and if they aren't working on preventing that, it is not fair to expect to be able to let me cope with the consequences. My secretary, a lovely woman that I hold in high regard and work very well with, can no longer handle the 12 minute walk to my favourite Asian restaurant close to the office, especially in summer. It may be her life, but what she does affects others. I and my close colleague will not take a car and drive to lunch, so she can be with us - for one thing, she does not ask, which is part of the syndrome "weighty" people have. If I can't walk there, because I have a joint infection, as has happened, I ask somebody to drive me. Or I leave early so I can get there on crutches, which I occasionally use when an injury occurs. Obese folk don't, by and large, seem able to take care of these things in an acceptable self-help manner.
Weight is simply an indicator of an underlying problem, and I do believe it is that most folks respond to. Some are rude, but you must understand that very many people have a hard trime dealing with illness. Just go to Wal-Mart or Target and drive around in one of those handicapped carts, and see how hostile it makes folks. It does, really, I've had to use them after surgery, and it was an eye opener for me.
And the next time you start a weight thread I will probably write the above up again.
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