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LadyPact -> Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 4:13:02 AM)
A question from another site has My mind wandering. I hope to put those thoughts into words. It was asked, by that other source, if one could live without sex. I believe that answer to be yes. Yet, it prompted another question. That being, can a sadist live without sadism? I'm sure there are those that can, for their particular reasons. I am no stranger to the circumstances of love or of life. Still, I sat here today in these predawn hours and asked Myself the same. Can I live without it? The question seems so easy on the surface, doesn't it? But as I thought in the inner resources of My mind, the answer might not be so simple. Play to me is not necessarily sexual, although it can be. I have no problem living a celibate life, but I can not live one without play. While it can grow to that at times, I find my sadism a completely different animal. I am perfectly content not to have the carnal pleasures of sex. Yet the proposition of depriving myself of S/m play is unspeakable to me. Should I cut that away from myself, it would be like cutting off a limb. That my bloodlust would never again be satisfied. That I would never delight is creating pain. That the ability to torture a willing recipient would escape my fingertips. I have no words for this. Imagining myself so only leads me to think of such a future lived by a shell of a woman. One who merely exists. Who continues to breathe in and breathe out, but the embodiment of life has left her. One who's heart no longer soars and who's soul is clouded. While the body continues to live, is this not also death? I hope I will never be condemned as such.

DemonKia -> RE: Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 4:21:53 AM)
Yee-haw! Excellent question . . . . . I've gone years without partnered sex, & months without wanking, but there is no way I could get thru life without at least a little bit of schadenfreude, at a bare minimum . . . . . I can only beat a very few humans, but I can mind-fuck anyone who gives me opportunity & motive (telemarketers & etc . .. . .) Bwa-fucking-ha!

DarkFury -> RE: Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 5:03:00 AM)
Yet Lady Pact, after all this time you had gotten to know yourself and gotten to understand the sadist inside and how that makes you feel more alive; can you really walk away from feeling and being that much more?

persephonee -> RE: Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 5:07:28 AM)
i think that sadists who are not able to inflict physical pain, definitely switch over to emotional aspect. i know that if i dont get the kind of play i need, i create painful situations for myself...it has to be the same for the other end of the whip...

DesFIP -> RE: Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 6:10:16 AM)
But if it starts to come out in nonconsensual realms, then how do you remain an ethical human being?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 9:38:17 AM)
I can go long periods of time without biting down hard. How long without starting to work the dark side? That remains to be seen... I couldn't go over into the nonconsensual or emotional zone. Except in my mind.

MsFlutter -> RE: Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 10:28:10 AM)
<wild applause> very well said - and VERY reassuring to find I am not alone in my thinking. :)

Dnomyar -> RE: Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 10:39:06 AM)
I cant do without. If I could I would not tease LH the way that I do.

votiveguitar -> RE: Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 10:41:28 AM)
That's mildly reassuring. As one who is newly acquanted to recieving pain. i guess my question would be what happens after the line crossed? Do You kiss and make it better or just bite again?

Vendaval -> RE: Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 10:55:08 AM)
Awesome post, Lady Pact! [sm=applause.gif]

DemonKia -> RE: Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 12:34:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP But if it starts to come out in nonconsensual realms, then how do you remain an ethical human being? I get plenty of ethical opportunities to be mean all the time -- someone who's rude or mean to me first, telemarketers, clueless cmailers who don't read profiles, that sorta thing . . . As long as the mean is appropriately scaled to the offense, I sleep just fine . . . . . & then there's the opportunities schadenfreude presents -- if I really need it, I do what I call 'sadistic media consumption', reading about the trials & tribulations of others . . . . shrugs shoulders . . . But then I'm twuly evil . . . . . Bwa-ha-ha-ha . . . ..

PanthersMom -> RE: Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 4:09:25 PM)
in a word, yes. [;)] PM

DemonKia -> RE: Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 5:11:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PanthersMom in a word, yes. [;)] PM Sisters Of Sadism? We offer SOS to the deserving sub . . . . . Mwa-ha-ha-ha . . . . . .

BlackPhx -> RE: Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 6:04:47 PM)
Sadist or masochist, we all find ways of getting the fix we need. We may not have an ass to beat or someone to beat it, but that need for pain can be fulfilled in many ways. The masochist begins to have accidents, or to needle someone into coming down on them emotionally, and there are some who have gone so far as to make disasters of their lives so they can find the pain/struggle/misery they need to continue onwards. The Sadist is like a Dominant, even without someone to inflict pain on they will still manage to draw satisfaction from the control of the littlest things. Getting the better part of a deal, negotiating a contract a little more in their favor, cutting someone out of a parking space, immersing themselves in sadistic movies, hell even boiling a lobster can feed that need a bit. Rarely, I would think is our masochism or sadism tied solely to our sexual needs. It permeates every part of our lives in some way. Our jobs, our choices in books and movies, entertainment, familial relations, even our driving patterns. That need for pain can be fed even on our own bodies, both sides of the coin, in exercising to excess, in the jobs we choose, in control of our diets or lack of that control, in the paths we choose every day, the easy ones or the hard. Sublimination..Not just for advertising any more. poenkitten

DemonKia -> RE: Musings from a Sadist (4/6/2009 6:10:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlackPhx Sublimination..Not just for advertising any more. poenkitten Awesome. All of what she said, & eloquently & beautifully put . . .. Another example: I'm a buddhist, so eating meat is automatically both taboo & sadistic, especially if I dwell on it . . . . & veggies & fruits & such got ever so much tastier for me when I started to think about them as sex organs of plants & such -- especially when they're raw . . . . Sometimes I pretend that I can hear them screaming & crying as I crunch them 'tween my teeth . . . . .

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