igor2003
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I've been at CM for almost two years and have a number of submissive men who consistantly look at my profile, but have never made contact. I have wondered from time to time, what they were there for and what might be going on. This isn't a complaint because I am not getting enough email! lol I just wondered if there are reasons that a submissive male might be afriad or too shy to make contact with a dominant and sometimes if they are continuing to visit a profile in hopes that the dominant will contact them.
What are red flags to you besides the financial demands you might find on a profile? What do you like to see in a profile? What do you look for and what attract's you? What makes you decide to contact a dominant? What are you looking for in life and with a dominant? Are you just viewing profiles just to look at pictures or for other reasons?
Please speak your mind and give a view into the way you see things.
I am not looking for evaluation on my profile or for anything other than to understand what some of you might be thinking and feeling.
I'm one that often does revisit various profiles on different occasions mostly because my memory is about as short as my...New Years resolutions. Why do I visit in the first place? Often they will say something in the message boards...sometimes rediculous, sometimes profound...and I want to know more about the person behind the statement or belief. If and when I have a desire to contact a dominant woman I have no qualms about doing so. I'm definitely not too shy or afraid to make first contact.
If I contact someone on this side of CollarMe (the message boards) I'm probably not contacting them about a relationship. In fact the only time I can remember contacting a dominant woman from the message boards via c-mail was simply to talk to her about some music since she seemed to be knowledgable about a certain type of music that I some questions about.
Red flags, other than the financial, tribute, money-Domme thing aren't many. If I am looking at someone from the message boards and see that the picture they have on their profile is of a different person than what is on the message board I would definitely see that as a red flag. If they want to see me on cam to be sure I am who I say I am, but then refuse to do the same in return, that is a red flag. There are other things that I look at with a grain of salt, but will let them slide until more information is known.
Information in a profile should give a good all-around picture of the person and their likes and dislikes, both in every-day life as well as in their BDSM interests. If a woman says she is dominant or a Mistress, but won't (or don't) list any of her BDSM interests makes me wonder just how dominant she really is. This is, after all, a BDSM site, and looking at BDSM compatability is every bit as important as compatability in any of the other areas of a relationship.
What attracts me? Difficult to define since there are an infinate number of combinations of things that I would find attractive. Intelligence and a good attitude are at the top of the list. What makes me decide to contact a dominant? I assume that is in hopes of estabishing a relationship? I need to feel that there is at least a possibility of compatability....a sharing of interests, etc. What I would look for in a life with a dominant would depend on the dominant in question. There are things I might like, look forward to, and enjoy with one dominant that could very well be pure hell with a different dominant. Each case is different.
Am I going to the profiles just to look at the pictures? LOL...there are much better places to view pictures than going through the profiles.
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