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Dominant Aspects of Submissives in Everyday Life - 4/7/2009 11:37:24 PM

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I was wondering, after reading another post, how does your submissiveness come out in your everyday activities. For example, I manage people almost all day, yet I do it from a somewhat different prospective, in a nurturing type of way. I am caring, helpful, and always trying to make their lives easier at work. I make sure we get what we need for exemplarily work, but do it with a nurturing slant. My submissiveness follows me into a dominant job, and is experienced by most as nurturing and caring. Does this ring a bell with anyone?

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RE: Dominant Aspects of Submissives in Everyday Life - 4/7/2009 11:51:04 PM

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A big part of my job is dealing with customers and their demands which I give into easily and often. This has worked out well for me at times though as it has resulted in them sending my office an e-mail saying how impressed they were with my work and attitude. Every time this happens my boss buys me a crate of beer.

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RE: Dominant Aspects of Submissives in Everyday Life - 4/8/2009 4:29:24 AM

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Stephen Covey and others have written volumes on the Servant Leader as an effective managment style in the workplace. When I was in a supervisory role, it was the most natural for me.

Each of us deal with situations where assertive or passive or at least non-assertive conditions apply. It doesn't change our core. A Dominant is still Dominant even if he or she answers to a boss, supervisor, chairman, or valued customer. Being a leader is not specific to orientation, it is specific to task. Not all leaders are dominant and not all Dominants are leaders.

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RE: Dominant Aspects of Submissives in Everyday Life - 4/8/2009 5:19:50 AM

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im self employed and dont employ anyone - its just me. but i guess that i need to be in control of my business and my customers at all times or it would all quickly get into a muddle.

keeping the upper hand with many of the characters i deal with is always a balance of doing my best but not allowing myself to get run ragged. because my job is termed 'health care proffessional' all day is about nurturing and caring and the submissive i am has a tendency to do way more than time permits. often my customers are old, housebound and lonely - getting in, doing my job and leaving in time to reach my next call whilst giving them the time they need is always a balancing act. but i have perfected the method of walking to the front door whilst still keeping my concentration on them

- its a balance and i often leave feeling uncomfortable that i couldnt stop and have a cup of tea with them. sometimes its a bit tough to keep to timetable and keep everyone happy.

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RE: Dominant Aspects of Submissives in Everyday Life - 4/8/2009 6:57:33 AM

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i work in retail and as such i get a lot of customers. I also work in a photo lab processing digital and film orders. I have customers especially elderly ones who come in and need help on the kiosk machines. I never begrudge them the time and love teaching them how to work the machine. I have three regular customers who come in when they know i'll be there. They tend to spoil me because they like how i work how patient i am and how i'll try to go out of my way to help them.

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RE: Dominant Aspects of Submissives in Everyday Life - 4/8/2009 8:27:28 AM

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I have it a little eaiser than some of you i teacher in a pre/nursery school. I am not submissive to the 3 and 4 years olds, i am expected to be nurtuing and caring. If i was not i would not have a job. In that way my submisive nature comes out in work.

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RE: Dominant Aspects of Submissives in Everyday Life - 4/8/2009 9:18:01 AM

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how does your submissiveness come out in your everyday activities

by following His instructions.

this slave doesn't have any responsibilities outside of her "job" of pleasing Him...if it pleases Him for her to "act" dominant with others, passively or assertively, she does it.

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RE: Dominant Aspects of Submissives in Everyday Life - 4/8/2009 1:09:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

Each of us deal with situations where assertive or passive or at least non-assertive conditions apply. It doesn't change our core. A Dominant is still Dominant even if he or she answers to a boss, supervisor, chairman, or valued customer. Being a leader is not specific to orientation, it is specific to task. Not all leaders are dominant and not all Dominants are leaders.

Very well said. I've been in a few high management positions and I'm a collared slave. In aspects of my job, I'm quite authoritative. It is who I am. I'm just very comfortable in a leadership role even though I'm submissive. Plus, I don't need Mistress to micromanage me. I know my role and what she expects of me.

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RE: Dominant Aspects of Submissives in Everyday Life - 4/8/2009 5:35:41 PM

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Stephen Covey and others have written volumes on the Servant Leader as an effective managment style in the workplace. When I was in a supervisory role, it was the most natural for me.

Yes I understand it's the same way in my leadership role.

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RE: Dominant Aspects of Submissives in Everyday Life - 4/8/2009 5:42:21 PM

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I don’t consider what I do at work as dominant or submissive. I get the job done and I do it well.

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RE: Dominant Aspects of Submissives in Everyday Life - 4/8/2009 6:56:42 PM

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There are times in my life when I'm dominant
There are times in my life when I am submissive

It just all depends on who I'm dealing with and when.

I'm human and most humans are like this.

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RE: Dominant Aspects of Submissives in Everyday Life - 4/8/2009 7:35:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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how does your submissiveness come out in your everyday activities

by following His instructions.

this slave doesn't have any responsibilities outside of her "job" of pleasing Him...if it pleases Him for her to "act" dominant with others, passively or assertively, she does it.

I know in the past we haven't always seen eye to eye on things, but reading this makes me so fricking envious. I never get to just please Him, I am the VP of a general contracting firm, dealing with men all day, and rude clients, and bankers, and trying to get money and not give in to the people that want something for nothing all the time and oh hell you get it. Beth I love what you just said. I'm jealous and not one bit ashamed to admit it. I am so tired of being a ball breaker sometimes that I just want to cry. Someday I will get there, and when I read things like this it just makes me want to hurry my ass up

. Thanks beth.

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RE: Dominant Aspects of Submissives in Everyday Life - 4/11/2009 10:27:48 AM

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I work in customer care, on a call center.

My submissive nature does come out to women, because I am that way.

BUT...and this is a big but: If the person I speak to isn't able to process the information I give, which I do so in a very easy, simple and accomodating way for him, or a retard, to understand with ease, if the person truly doesn't want to listen and be helepd, I just act cold and yes, snideful, you could say pushy and even sarcastic at times in my tone and phrasing, very subtly and I do get infuriated for having to waste time and effort.

My submissive nature in the outside life comes out as a strong protectiveness towards women. I don't just pick up a paper, hold a door open or let a lady pass me or help her to a seat that i give up to her. I have been told I tend to pamper and spil my female friends just as much as females I interact with on the everyday life, total strangers, by being overly accomodating, patient and simply too nice even when they are not.

But then again, it's me. And I like it....

As for the original title of the poster's forum...I would fool anyone into thinking I am dominant to an extreme by watching my behavior in my everyday life's events and hours. Besides my respect to women, I am imposing, harsh, cold, stark and very dry towards other men when need be, and I can sort of bully or push people into bending to my will much like a captain orders the sailors on deck on his ship.

Not rudely, not vulgar and definetly not in an insulting way, but I do impose myself in the same way a General does to a Colonel with a soft, or harsh tone and mannerism to get his way, and I guess to my defense, I only do it to help myself and the group, I don't give orders because I want the ship to turn just because, I do it because it will favor me and us all, so we all benefit by doing so, and that's my view on it.

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RE: Dominant Aspects of Submissives in Everyday Life - 4/11/2009 10:39:13 AM

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*thinks* ...it doesn't. but littlewonder nailed it.
I act according to the situation..usually I probably just balance myself between being submissive and dominant I'm nothing more submissive or more dominant than the person standing besides me.

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

There are times in my life when I'm dominant
There are times in my life when I am submissive

It just all depends on who I'm dealing with and when.

I'm human and most humans are like this.