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looking for a submissive mentor - 4/8/2009 8:47:51 PM   
sirslittleredass


Posts: 13
Joined: 11/2/2008
Status: offline 		i'm looking for another submissive to mentor me, someone with experience who can help guide me through a rocky spot of confusion i am having.  i'm a 39 year old woman in her first real-life kinky relationship, after a couple years of online play.  i feel very isolated and would really love to have some insight from someone who has been through the ups and downs a few times.

i'd prefer to do this privately rather than on the forums.  if you are willing, please send me a private message.

thanks.
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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/8/2009 8:59:58 PM   
sirslittleredass


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Status: offline 		hmmm... do these forums not have private messaging?

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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/8/2009 9:18:12 PM   
greeneyedreamer


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Status: offline 		You can message me on the CM email, if you'd like.

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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/8/2009 11:21:37 PM   
CollaredLisa


Posts: 135
Joined: 3/28/2009
From: Germany
Status: offline 		Hmmm... not sure if I should post that in this thread, but actually I am searching for something like a mentor too. There are some things I'd like to talk to someone about that I don't really want to post here in the forums...

Edited: I am 18, almost 19.


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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/9/2009 12:50:21 PM   
MarcEsadrian


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Joined: 8/24/2008
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sirslittleredass

i'm looking for another submissive to mentor me, someone with experience who can help guide me through a rocky spot of confusion i am having.  i'm a 39 year old woman in her first real-life kinky relationship, after a couple years of online play.  i feel very isolated and would really love to have some insight from someone who has been through the ups and downs a few times.

i'd prefer to do this privately rather than on the forums.  if you are willing, please send me a private message.


Advice can be good to have. I would advise caution treading in the area of "mentor", however; sometimes the advice others would give, while having all the best intentions in the world, doesn't mesh well with your own tastes and needs—things that are seldom ever the same in any two people. There's value in learning things by your own mettle as well, and it goes without saying that if you have an actual Master or Mistress, much of the learning process and underpinning support for that process should be provided by Him or Her, not a third party.

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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/9/2009 12:53:01 PM   
subtlebutterfly


Posts: 2230
Joined: 6/15/2008
From: Not your hood
Status: offline 		I'll mentor you.
As soon as you hear the word dominant (be it female/male) you strip naked, drop down to your knees and offer foot worship.
As soon as you hear the word worship you strip naked, drop down to your knees and worship the dominants private parts.
As soon as you hear the word dismissed you take your clothes and move on in search for the next one.

Voila, the 3 step guide to submission



I always wanted to do that


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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/9/2009 1:25:58 PM   
CollaredLisa


Posts: 135
Joined: 3/28/2009
From: Germany
Status: offline 		lol, subtlebuttefly... Thank you for the great laugh ;)

Besides that, I agree that advice others give might not mix with your own... well "needs", but talking to the actual Master is (in my case) something I am doing already, but for some things he just doesn't have all the answers because he is not the submissive... so it would be nice to have someone uninvolved who actually is submissive to talk to.... that is my reason I guess.

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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/9/2009 1:40:34 PM   
Aly055


Posts: 34
Joined: 2/23/2009
Status: offline 		I'm finding myself in the same situation.  I know I can talk to my dom however it's nice to have another female to talk to about stuff.  The hardest thing I'm finding is I'm used to telling my friends everything however I can't talk to them about the stuff I'm doing now.  One of them is somewhat open but not about the age thing and there are 20 years between my dom and I.  So I've mentioned my interste in stuff to her but that's about it.  There are just some girl things that I don't want to talk to my dom about so. 

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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/10/2009 6:33:44 AM   
CollaredLisa


Posts: 135
Joined: 3/28/2009
From: Germany
Status: offline 		I know what you mean, Aly055, my best friends are very religious, I tried to hint at some stuff but she just turned all red and stuff, so I don't think I should talk to her about it.

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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/10/2009 1:19:52 PM   
dreamerdreaming


Posts: 2839
Status: offline 		You can PM me with specific questions. I've only recently come over to the dom side.

It would be more fun and more edifying for you and others if you'd be brave enough to post questions here, though IMHO. Because that way you'll have the benefit of being a part of this community and garner a wealth of responses from different perspectives.

You are quite welcome here. Make yourself at home!

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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/10/2009 6:25:32 PM   
julietsierra


Posts: 1841
Joined: 9/26/2004
Status: offline 		If I may offer a suggestion:

Instead of posting here with the hope of finding a submissive to mentor, read what others have written. Look for posts and threads which resonate with you. Contact those people offline and ask them your questions. I guarantee, the answers you receive in this manner will more than likely be more fitting to the situations you find yourself in than what you'd find by simply advertising for a submissive mentor - any submissive mentor.

I wish you well.

All of you.

juliet

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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/10/2009 7:16:20 PM   
lusciouslips19


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quote:

ORIGINAL: julietsierra

If I may offer a suggestion:

Instead of posting here with the hope of finding a submissive to mentor, read what others have written. Look for posts and threads which resonate with you. Contact those people offline and ask them your questions. I guarantee, the answers you receive in this manner will more than likely be more fitting to the situations you find yourself in than what you'd find by simply advertising for a submissive mentor - any submissive mentor.

I wish you well.

All of you.

juliet


Juliet is so smart!

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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/10/2009 7:30:53 PM   
sirslittleredass


Posts: 13
Joined: 11/2/2008
Status: offline 		Thank you everyone, for these and the private message I have received as well.

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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/11/2009 5:14:46 AM   
slavekal


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Joined: 7/20/2004
Status: offline 		Although I am a male, if I can help you in any way, I will.

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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/11/2009 5:57:56 PM   
Zechriel


Posts: 308
Joined: 11/19/2007
Status: offline 		Good evening!
I have to agree with what someone said about contacting in private. I have had some health issues and searched posts for info. When something sounds good, I mail-very politely-if I may ask a question or contact them. More often than not, they say yes and we start talking. I have made some good friends here this way. Especially since Daddy and I have a different realtionship..well actually is not all our relationships unique? ::giggles::
the other I used to do it sit in the chat rooms for a bit, get a feel for things and then ask a question. Most people wll talk and answer you as long as you do not appear desperate, stalking, or rude. Scan profiles or their recent posts to see if their interests are the same as yours or something you might like to try..then ask. One mentor is good but many different friends gives you a diverse field to explore on. As everyone else here has said, if I can help anyone..feel free to mail. Good luck!!
Love,
Zechriel


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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/11/2009 6:25:58 PM   
Mikalsheart


Posts: 54
Joined: 3/20/2009
From: kentucky
Status: offline 		i agree with reading the posts that are of interest, i have learned so much in the few short weeks i have been here.

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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/12/2009 8:36:05 AM   
califsue


Posts: 593
Joined: 2/2/2008
Status: offline 		I find it is nice just to find another submissive to exchange ideas, the challenges and
sometimes get a different perspective on the issue or challenges that a s type
faces in their unique relationship with their D/M type.

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RE: looking for a submissive mentor - 4/13/2009 3:07:54 PM   
aaminah


Posts: 13
Joined: 1/14/2005
Status: offline 		greetings sirslittleredass,
i can totally relate to the feeling of isolation. i too have a great bunch of friends but you just can't get them (read, vanilla) to understand the issues that face a sub/slave. it's a whole different world in many ways. Master encourages me to talk with other slaves and now that we have internet at Home that will be more possible. so feel free to yap with me anytime. peace and health.............aaminah

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