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Question - 4/9/2009 7:01:05 PM   
francesca77


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Status: offline 		My master says i completely satisfy him...but not often enough.  He wants to bring in another woman, as I am bisexual.  I feel reluctant,but want to please my master.  Is this common?  Should I just go for it and allow him to bring in another woman?  I feel so content with my master and fear losing him to another woman??

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RE: Question - 4/9/2009 7:09:38 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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"I am gay girl looking for a girl to have some fun with, both in and outside of the bedroom!  I enjoy reading, and writing my own books.  I study old works.  I am scholarly minded, not very athletic, but good in bed.

I currently with a dominant man and love him very much, but he cannot meet my needs as a lesbian woman."

So, what? You want to get a girlfriend, but would be afraid to share her with him?


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RE: Question - 4/9/2009 7:09:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Your profile states that you are a lesbian woman who is searching for another woman because your dominant can't satisfy your lesbian needs. So I guess that makes me officially confused....which of you is really not getting their needs met?

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RE: Question - 4/9/2009 7:17:10 PM   
catize


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My master says i completely satisfy him...but not often enough.   


So he’s a master…. of double-speak! 
Just by the way you have worded the question, I don’t see this turning out well. 
Adding another woman may serve him, but will it serve your relationship? 
 
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  Your profile states that you are a lesbian woman who is searching for another woman because your dominant can't satisfy your lesbian needs.


Well, teach me to not read a profile before I respond!

< Message edited by catize -- 4/9/2009 7:20:01 PM >

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RE: Question - 4/9/2009 7:19:31 PM   
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RE: Question - 4/9/2009 7:22:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		I sense someone who was looking to be coddled and told her concerns were valid, we were not supposed to look up the profile and call her in her own double talk.



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RE: Question - 4/9/2009 7:39:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: VampiresLair

I sense someone who was looking to be coddled and told her concerns were valid, we were not supposed to look up the profile and call her in her own double talk.




Oh, I see.

Well, I don't really feel like it, but I'll try to take her seriously for a minute:

OP: How about if you agree to it as long as you get to choose the girl?

Nah, that might not work. He might be afraid that you'd leave him for her. Nevermind. Just tell him to go suck an egg, cuz you're getting your own girlfriend and you won't share!


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RE: Question - 4/9/2009 8:13:32 PM   
DavanKael


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If the only issue is you not satisfying him often enough, why not put out more often (And, if he's your Master, oughtn't he have dominion over that detailanyway?!). 
Yeah, confused. 
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RE: Question - 4/9/2009 11:11:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Based on just your post, all you can do is know who you are and what you want. If you're both wanting different things, then it looks like your relationship isn't meant to be.

Either way, I don't see you loosing your master to another woman that the two of you pick out together.

The only thing that matters is how much of your bi side would like to be with another woman and what she is and isn't allowed to do to your master. Pleasing him is apart of making yourself happy. If you can't be happy, then what's the point?   

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RE: Question - 4/9/2009 11:57:37 PM   
hopeful68


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Status: offline 		Ok, so, I thought it be appropriate to actually give the girl some advice.

Any time you bring in another person, whether it be male or female, you run certain risks.  That's just the truth of the matter.  You often times do not pick and choose the one you are attracted to, it just happens, and when two people connect, they do, and there is a real possibility of someone liking the other one. 

So, before you go into a mulitple partner adventure, you need to be secure.  That is the responsibility of both the Dom and sub, because jealousy is an emotion that can be very irrational in behavior on the subs part.  The Dominant must know his own limits and you have to trust he understand those responsibilties.

Caution is always required, but if the situation is right and you are comfortable, then have fun, and try not the let your emotions cloud your vision.  Having multiple partners can be fun if everyone is on the same page.  That takes trust and a clear understanding of the situation.

imho this can all be accomplished respectfully

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RE: Question - 4/10/2009 2:25:57 AM   
colouredin


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Not to the OP because clearly thats messed up, but for if anyone else reads this and relates to this. Im am sorry but if my partner said that I didnt 'satisfy' them often enough so they needed someone else I would probably tell them to bugger off. I know thats ironic because I am poly, but then for me its something different, its not about how often I get my leg over or vice versa, and to be honest in a D/s dynamic the dominant gets to decide how often they get satisfied. Its a pretty shocking statement really.

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RE: Question - 4/10/2009 6:28:35 AM   
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My master says i completely satisfy him...but not often enough.
ok ..now this is cute 

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RE: Question - 4/14/2009 6:10:10 PM   
dmt


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Status: offline 		The term "satisfy him but not often enough" kind of made me confused... Most men don't usually say "That was Fantastic! Let's not do that again that way!". so... For most Men (ok at least for me) just the voyeuristic qualities of two women together is a plus. and Topping Two is phenomenal. I Think that Your master might be looking to take advantage of your interests it the way that it best serves him... 

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RE: Question - 4/14/2009 6:13:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		It sounds like he just wants to fuck someone else.

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RE: Question - 4/16/2009 4:04:51 PM   
goodpet


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Status: offline 		wow, I'm with the rest of the confused crowd.. 

1- you satisfy him but not enough.. i agree with the "put out more" camp..  give him more of what he wants..
2- he wants more as in numbers,, two girls.. well that should be good for you since you want girl sex too.

Find a girl you both can share, be clear about what you each want from her.. don't stick her in the middle and then make her confused by both of your double talk.. be clear to yourself, to each other and especially to her.  maybe start with just a one night play date.



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RE: Question - 4/16/2009 6:24:43 PM   
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RE: Question - 4/16/2009 8:54:22 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		Ever thought of getting a lesbian Dominant? Because you say in this post you are bisexual but in your profile your a lesbian...Anyhooo...thats my suggestion.

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