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dreamerdreaming -> RE: RETRACTION (4/10/2009 2:51:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

Well , hell.  I thought from the two postings that the OP was about 18!

You are an adult - act like it!   If you don't want poly - say so!  And while you are at it, tell him that asking about renegotiating is a polite nicety that he should investigate.
If he is hell bent on bring in another woman, then you need to decide how badly you want this relationship.  You don't have to put up with anything you don't want to. You have the power to put yourself into a relationship, and you have the power to take yourself right out!


Me too, kiwisub12. When I perved her profile I was shocked to see she's in her late 30's. We all hafta learn sometime, but gawd.

Better late than never I suppose, but it sure seems to me that some people played it a little too safe in their youth and are paying for it now, in terms of a lack of experience and self-esteem.

Francesca, just be glad if you're learning some hard lessons now, instead of bringing the same set of issues into your 40's or 50's. 



DavanKael -> RE: RETRACTION (4/10/2009 10:25:29 PM)

Important thing to learn when you're posting to the boards: you're going to get all sorts of input and perhaps not exactly what you want.  Generally, though, most folks don't speak with ill intent.  I found your other thread to be rather confusing and I said so, in addition, too, to making a suggestion.  < shrug >
I think this whole new thread on the point is excessively dramatic. 
  Davan



kazzaslave -> RE: RETRACTION (4/11/2009 4:08:30 AM)

Your profile says the second woman is for you to meet your needs, how could it possibly lead to losing him? kazza thinks you're simply posting this to create drama and call attention to yourself, what a waste of time this is.

kazza



catize -> RE: RETRACTION (4/12/2009 9:54:23 AM)

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The question was genuine! 

The validity of your original question is cancelled out by the falsehoods in your profile.

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  He started this.

 Does this absolve you of being accountable for your own choices/actions? 



Aylee -> RE: RETRACTION (4/12/2009 3:59:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: francesca77

My boyfriend started this whole idea of bringing in another woman...not me.


It wasn't me. . . it was the one-armed man!  Okay, he may have started it, but why didn't YOU end it?

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I have had a profile on collar me for awhile, but recently sat down with my boyfriend and he had me change it to help me find a girlfriend, as it was set up before to find a master...which i already found in him!


I am going to assume that you had been ignoring the profile and/or any responses gathered from it.  BUT all of a sudden he sits you down and forces your hands to the keys to make you type out a new one.  One that will be more fulfilling to him under the guise of doing something for you.  This is starting to get confusing.

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Teach me to ask a question!


First you raise your hand.  Then you begin your sentence with a questioning word.  Let the other person know what information you are seeking.  End with a question mark.

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The question was genuine!


Are you even sure what the question actually was? 

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He started this.


Wow!  It is like listening to a toddler.

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I was fine with just him and I alone. Bringing in another woman scares the hell out of me!


Then why was he and/or were you (I am still confused on this part) looking for a girlfriend? 

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I don't want to lose this man, even to a woman!


*Yawn*  Would it be better if you "lost" him to a man?  I seriously think that you need to spend some one-on-one time with yourself, learn to enjoy your own company, and figure out what it is that you want.

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I retract my question.


I am getting bored with this lack of personal responsibility and drama-fest.  This is really just a cry for attention, isn't it? 

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You guys saw that i needed stoning,


Finally SOMETHING interesting!  You were stoned.  Being stoned can explain so much. 

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and you stoned me to death.


You are typing this from beyond the grave?  Drama class was last semester, sweetheart.  It is time and past time for you to pull your big-girl panties on. 


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There! feel better!!


I was not feeling bad, thank you for asking (by the way, you should have had a question-mark after 'better'.)  Although it seems that you feel better after having your little snit, sticking your tongue out, and stomping out of the room.  Highly amusing.

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Frankie


Aylee



girlygurl -> RE: RETRACTION (4/12/2009 6:52:16 PM)

I'm confused, but hey, it's Sunday and I'm running on few brain cells so oh well. [8|]


OK, I'm not brain dead! Your profile states you are a Dominant and in your journal it says your an experience submissive. I guess one could have been one and become the other? How's about a switch????



angelikaJ -> RE: RETRACTION (4/12/2009 10:40:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: girlygurl

I'm confused, but hey, it's Sunday and I'm running on few brain cells so oh well. [8|]


OK, I'm not brain dead! Your profile states you are a Dominant and in your journal it says your an experience submissive. I guess one could have been one and become the other? How's about a switch????


To the OP

This is not meant as an attack. The picture painted by your posts and profile is confusing.
If you aren't certain what you want then you should be discussing same with your dominant.
If your questions were related to feeling insecure over bringing in a third for any reason, then try to understand that people will generally only reply to the questions you actually post.





SailingBum -> RE: RETRACTION (4/12/2009 10:47:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: hopeful68

I agree with francesca.. the mood last night on collarme was of intolerance and harsh judgement.  She wanted some advice and what she got was people kicking her while she is down.


Hell yea we are all bad asses that night.  I peeked at her profile says gay looking for a girl and she is a dom.  Will someone make up her mind for her???

BadOne



thishereboi -> RE: RETRACTION (4/15/2009 8:50:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly

except for her profile which contradicts that statement ("I currently with a dominant man and love him very much, but he cannot meet my needs as a lesbian woman.") [8|]


Well yea, but from what I got reading the OP...her profile is something HE cooked up to find women. I have to say if I contacted her thinking she was really looking and found out it was some bullshit ploy to get her masters dick sucked, I would be really ticked off.

OP...you don't start a relationship based on lies and if you are not into poly you need to tell you master that and quit playing games.



DeViLiVeD -> RE: RETRACTION (5/4/2009 6:52:09 PM)

Don't understand... Ask and retract? Confused...



army101 -> RE: RETRACTION (5/5/2009 10:20:03 AM)

Hey? any one need more Stones? Anyone at all?[;)]



DeViLiVeD -> RE: RETRACTION (5/5/2009 5:55:55 PM)

Oh ya... I forgotten to throw the stone... *THROW*... There, 1 stone from me.



NihilusZero -> RE: RETRACTION (5/5/2009 9:43:27 PM)

*walks in*

Oh. Well, I'm glad that's settled.

*walks out*



sweetsub1957 -> RE: RETRACTION (5/5/2009 10:08:48 PM)

Oh man.   The party's over and i'm too late.



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