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RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 6:18:00 AM

francesca77

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My boyfriend started this whole idea of bringing in another woman...not me. I have had a profile on collar me for awhile, but recently sat down with my boyfriend and he had me change it to help me find a girlfriend, as it was set up before to find a master...which i already found in him!

Teach me to ask a question!

The question was genuine! He started this. I was fine with just him and I alone. Bringing in another woman scares the hell out of me! I don't want to lose this man, even to a woman!

I retract my question. You guys saw that i needed stoning, and you stoned me to death. There! feel better!!

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 6:19:31 AM

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 6:21:19 AM

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......and to stone you a bit more...
you needed to make a new thread for this...your point being???

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 6:24:24 AM

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Toss the final stone on the pile, There comes a time when a slave JUST must say no, Even I have had it happen to me, granted we aren't here to make a slave or sub happy that not the purpose after all it is all about me but you need a backbone and tell him this was not the prior agreement and I won't stand for it,if he really wants you he will take you feeling into consideration , if he doesn't then its time to get your little ass on down the road..B

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 6:25:58 AM

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......and to stone you a bit more...
you needed to make a new thread for this...your point being???

Her point is loud and clear,SHE DOESN'T WANT TO BECOME PART OF A THREESOME..bounty

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 6:28:34 AM

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except for her profile which contradicts that statement ("I currently with a dominant man and love him very much, but he cannot meet my needs as a lesbian woman.")

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 6:35:45 AM

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I agree with BountyHunter. You need to communicate with him about this issue. You said that you sat down with him to change the profile, certainly that would have been a good time to discuss that you were not onboard with the idea. You said bringing in another woman would scare you....but is it a hard limit for you? Talk to him and if it is a hard limit for you then just move on.

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 6:36:56 AM

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<.....thinking i should read the profiles first before i respond lol.

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 6:42:35 AM

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Its related to the other thread she started where people questioned her um question

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 6:55:15 AM

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I agree with francesca.. the mood last night on collarme was of intolerance and harsh judgement. She wanted some advice and what she got was people kicking her while she is down.

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 7:03:00 AM

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This ain't no day care unit with koolaide and teddy bears.

If she wanted different answers she should have had all her rubber duckies lined up in a row instead, they contradicted one another. She got called on it. I read the other thread, no blood drawn. Truth be told, they were gentle.

The girl needs to grow up and get her shit together instead of whining about people being mean to her.

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 7:10:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

This ain't no day care unit with koolaide and teddy bears.

If she wanted different answers she should have had all her rubber duckies lined up in a row instead, they contradicted one another. She got called on it. I read the other thread, no blood drawn. Truth be told, they were gentle.

The girl needs to grow up and get her shit together instead of whining about people being mean to her.

n they say tigers are all meant to be cute n fluffy

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 7:15:16 AM

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I am cute and kinda fluffy in places.

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 7:45:03 AM

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rawr! sexay

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 8:33:10 AM

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quote:

Bringing in another woman scares the hell out of me! I don't want to lose this man, even to a woman!

I retract my question. You guys saw that i needed stoning,

Whatchatalkingabout? From experience, if he wants to bring in another woman, and is using you to do it, you lost him already.

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 10:17:52 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: francesca77

, but recently sat down with my boyfriend and he had me change it to help me find a girlfriend, as it was set up before to find a master...which i already found in him!

As a poly person, i find the whole 'im a lesbian and need another woman' thing to be a right put off, why would you be with the bloke anyways, I have met someone in that situation and she was a self destructive type, hardly a turn on. Starting a relationship with a blatant lie is a terrible idea, your boyfriend is silly to think it will work and you are silly for saying yeah lets give it a go.

if you arent poly, tell the bloke, if he doesnt care, dont be with him. Simple really. To be honest the mix of this post and your other one purely shows me that you 'dominant' is a prat. But then we cant help who we love

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 10:43:01 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

This ain't no day care unit with koolaide and teddy bears.

If she wanted different answers she should have had all her rubber duckies lined up in a row instead, they contradicted one another. She got called on it. I read the other thread, no blood drawn. Truth be told, they were gentle.

The girl needs to grow up and get her shit together instead of whining about people being mean to her.

oooooooh kazza loves it when you get all tough and no-nonsense LaT *squirms happily*

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 10:50:49 AM

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quote:

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Bringing in another woman scares the hell out of me! I don't want to lose this man, even to a woman!

I retract my question. You guys saw that i needed stoning,

Whatchatalkingabout? From experience, if he wants to bring in another woman, and is using you to do it, you lost him already.

Antipode is spot on, as usual.

If this dom wanted poly he should have made it clear at the outset. If you did not agree to poly in the beginning, you do not have to change your mind now about it just because he wants it. If it wasn't an agreed-upon construct in the beginning, then he's giving you a bait-and-switch.

If it was me, I'd be pissed.

I agree with antipode that you've already lost him- or maybe you just never had him to begin with.

Don't settle for him.

Lose the loser.

You can do much better.

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 12:57:20 PM

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Standing up and speaking for yourself is one of the most important things you can learn to do. Not throwing stones, just giving some advice.

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RE: RETRACTION - 4/10/2009 2:42:04 PM

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Well , hell. I thought from the two postings that the OP was about 18!

You are an adult - act like it! If you don't want poly - say so! And while you are at it, tell him that asking about renegotiating is a polite nicety that he should investigate.
If he is hell bent on bring in another woman, then you need to decide how badly you want this relationship. You don't have to put up with anything you don't want to. You have the power to put yourself into a relationship, and you have the power to take yourself right out!

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