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Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 4:58:39 AM

slavekal

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There are a few guys from collarme in my local area who correspond with me from time to time. Sometimes they ask advice on meeting a Mistress. Sometimes they ask about serving Ms. Mlicious in particular. I told these guys about a party going on in our area tonight. Anyone willing to take bets on any of them actually showing up?

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 5:04:22 AM

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Um I wouldnt take bets seeing as I have no clue about the people you are talking about, also dont really know why you bought it to the forum

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 5:08:55 AM

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Take it easy. I didn't mean literally laying money down. Just bringing up the topic that a lot of us might actually find apples if we visited an orchard once in a while. Wondered if others have had the same experience as me with advice seekers.

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 5:10:04 AM

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I think you have ruled them out before giving them a chance, maybe they will turn up? Maybe they are nervous? Who knows

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 5:11:00 AM

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I don't know. Seems I have a lot more going on in my life then to be judging people on what they will or wont do. Grateful that I do.

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 5:17:23 AM

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Wow, folks seem awfully sensitive today. It's not like I called anyone out by name or made accusations about any specific person. Just commenting about a general trend I have noticed in submissive males.

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 5:19:36 AM

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Its not a case of being sensitive, just seems that you are encouraging us all to judge people that none of us know. You arent asking a question you are simply being holier than thou

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 5:22:12 AM

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awe not sensitive today. just appreciative that i have other things to think about. people are people, to group them into a 'trend' seems to mitigate the fact that each is an individual, with their own hurdles to cross. Some people can show up without a problem, but this just says they can show up, doesnt mean anything about the 'battle'.:)

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 5:22:19 AM

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an invitation from a slave/sub to meet his/her Master/Mistress would not be taken seriously by me. I would just blow it off to poor protocol

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 5:23:48 AM

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Who knows if they'll really show up or not...but i see what you are getting at in this thread. Talk is cheap online...infact it's free here, so there ya go! If i'm talking to someone local, giving them info on munches and dungeons in the area, offering to be their hostess and introduce them around and they keep coming up with reasons they can't..then i'll stop inviting them to join.

Sometimes people even have a hard time meeting for coffee and it makes me wonder if they'd rather stay online, where it's safe and easy or are they really wanting to move to real time. I think the internet age has made us a bit lazy....it's much easier to sit at home in your ratty PJ's and slippers and chat, than to actually make the effort to dress and show up somewhere <laugh> I admit i've felt that way a few times....it's not worth the effort, or i didn't feel any draw to the person.

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 5:31:51 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavekal

...a lot of us might actually find apples if we visited an orchard once in a while.

That's a cute way of putting it...I'll have to remember that one.

Do I think these men will make an appearence? I tend to approach meetings cautiously optimistic. They may be nervous and shy...doing the "two steps forward, four steps back" dance at the front door. They may also be nervously curious and just walk right in, looking for you to guide them through the party. Will you be up for playing host?

I understand what you're getting at...so much talk and so little action. I'm not a gambling woman, but I would suggest being prepared for anything. Some people enjoy the online gig...they can imagine how it would be to meet, imagine how it would feel to touch, just plain imagine. It's easier for some people to live in the world of make believe instead of taking chances...big or little...to find a connection.

Personally...I like strolling thru orchards looking for a juicy piece of fruit to enjoy

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 5:34:17 AM

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Sirsholly, I am not sure you understand what I am saying. I am not contacting anyone about meeting my Mistress. These guys contact me. I tell them that if they want to get involved, there are great parties in our area.
Silkncarol, you are right. And it's especially telling when the same people do it repeatedly.

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 5:36:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: silkncarol

Sometimes people even have a hard time meeting for coffee and it makes me wonder if they'd rather stay online, where it's safe and easy or are they really wanting to move to real time. I think the internet age has made us a bit lazy....it's much easier to sit at home in your ratty PJ's and slippers and chat, than to actually make the effort to dress and show up somewhere

I dont think there is anything wrong with wanting to keep it online, though of course I think its better to admit that it is all that you want. Sometimes people dont want involvement in the scene or whatever for their own reasons which is totally cool

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 5:36:38 AM

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sorry, its a glorious weekend and I'm far too busy to worry about other people's concerns about other people.

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 6:06:31 AM

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quote:

Sirsholly, I am not sure you understand what I am saying. I am not contacting anyone about meeting my Mistress. These guys contact me. I tell them that if they want to get involved, there are great parties in our area.

i did misunderstand. You have my apologies.

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 6:09:07 AM

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I'd be there Kal, but my dog ate my harness.

People will always disappoint you.

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 7:06:13 AM

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Sirsholly, I am not sure you understand what I am saying. I am not contacting anyone about meeting my Mistress. These guys contact me. I tell them that if they want to get involved, there are great parties in our area.
Silkncarol, you are right. And it's especially telling when the same people do it repeatedly.

So. kal, if I read you correctly, you;re addressing online people being given a chance to actually turn off the computer and meet others in the flesh? In a social context, leading to possible relationships, as opposed to scening?

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 9:24:55 AM

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You got it. I don't care if some people want to live in fantasy as opposed to real life. That's their right. It's just when they waste my time with a bunch of correspondence when they edon't intend to follow through.

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 6:32:08 PM

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I am SO with you, Kal! That's why I don't waste my time with most of the men that contact me, I just tell them what event I will be at. They can show up, or not.

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RE: Showing up is half the battle - 4/11/2009 6:39:55 PM

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There's a difference between telling them to go to a party, and offering to meet them first for coffee, and then bring them with you and introduce them.

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