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vield -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 12:37:19 PM)

It has been my experience that orgasm need not have any connection with ejaculation for males and for females. I also learned that women are not the only ones who can have multiple orgasms. Yes many people have learned to consider the spurt as THE orgasm, but if the Kinseys had you all wired up with sensors, you could see some interesting charts of your reactions to other different things.
A dear friend "knew" that her sex life was never going to have orgasms included after she had her gender reassignment surgery. She figured no balls, no spurt,equals no orgasms. I showed her that was nonsense.



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 12:38:02 PM)

Wow, TMI.

[sm=hewah.gif]

But you didn't answer my question!




Lockit -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 12:44:02 PM)

To be perfectly honest here... the main thing I would have to work around would be the enjoyment of watching the cock grow or not, because of what I am doing.  That would be something that would have to be worked with and a challenge of sorts because I do feed off of my submissive and his reactions.  That is just a couple of reactions I wouldn't be able to feed off of.

I might love all nighter's from time to time... but there is more than being f'd in the f'ing as far as I am concerned.  I want reaction, sounds, physical responses and surprise.

So it would be time to become imaginative and reactive to provide me with more than a hard cock.  I can't find enjoyment in ordering a response... it needs to come from somewhere within the submissive.  Not my job... if it is... I will take dildo... pink, purple, orange and flesh.



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 12:46:29 PM)

It would actually be very enjoyable to me,  to have a casual play partner who couldn't get me pregnant. If I wanted more from someone than sex, like a family, and they didn't want to adopt, it might be a deal breaker for me, but but just on a purely dating and fucking level hell yeah I'd love that.
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ORIGINAL: GeneBulge

I have a problem that I am still struggling with and would like to hear what others think on this subject.  Nearly a year ago I had my bladder as well as my prostate removed because of cancer.  With the removal of the prostate it left me unable to ejaculate semen even though I am still able to have a dry orgasim.  To be honest I really miss this male function and it makes me curious to know how others feel about a non squirting penis.  There are various submissive activities such a milking that I can no longer have done to me.  Would love to hear from anyone on this subject.



GeneBulge -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 1:17:25 PM)

Yes I was fortunate enough to have it covered by my insurance.  My doctor told me that not many do cover it and he had to make sure that they understood that for me taking Viagra or any of those other boner pills would not work and so for me to have intercourse again I needed the implant.  They are very expensive and I wouldnt have ever been able to do it had my insurance not covered it.  All together with hospital cost, surgeon and anastesia it was something like $25,000.  I didnt even stay overnight in the hospital because since I didnt have a bladder there was no reason to catheterize me which would have kept me in there longer.



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 1:28:40 PM)

Again, apologies for the threadjack (and the TMI! -you started it ) but I'm sure I'm not the only one who's curious: your ureters are just surgically joined up with your urethra now that there's nothing in between?



lusciouslips19 -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 1:33:08 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

LOL... LadyPact... when I read that, I wondered about that too.  I am sure some like it... but from what I have seen, read, etc, it is mostly submissive women that seem to ask for that.  It did make me wonder how many would.  I have done this with two partners... and found some enjoyment with it... but that was because I loved them and I loved that they enjoyed it and most often there was another purpose involved besides the act.  I could count the times on one hand and still have extra.  It isn't something I would really want as I like things going in other directions so to speak. 


I think thats more of a guy fantasy.  want it down my throat but not on my face. Eeew.



BoiJen -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 1:38:42 PM)

I can't be the only one who realizes that this guy started this thread to talk about his dick and to get FemDommes talking about his dick exclusively. It's not about "hey if a guy went through this..." it's about "I have my dick here and you don't have to worry about getting preggo....want me to show you?"

At least that's my interpretation...he's not talking about your fantasies and how this might be a perk but what he wants to do and "can" do.

observant boi
Future ruler of the Universe serving MsK
who funny enough doesn't have to worry about getting any chick preggo but can also have the continuous hard-on...next...insert eye roll here



LadyPact -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 1:39:08 PM)

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ORIGINAL: GeneBulge

I am sorry as this was a generalization and not intended to be dirrected toward a domme.  Of course they wouldnt ever wish to have that nasty stuff squirted on them.  I am sorry about the unclarity of my statement.

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ORIGINAL: GeneBulge

This is for Mistress Lashra.  Yes I have been with a good number of dommes and have been involved in D/s for more than 25 years.  When I first got involved you would have been 12 years old. 

To tell you the truth, I wouldn't be involved in D/s for 25 seconds with anyone who talks like they are writing for a tasteless pron mag.  I'm amazed that any Dominant woman was willing to be talked to in that fashion at all.  It has absolutely nothing to do with your prior illness or your current medical situation.


ETA, OK, boijen, you beat My typing by 28 seconds.



GeneBulge -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 1:44:13 PM)

I dont know a whole lot about how they did it but since they had to remove the complete bladder they had to reroute my plumbing to a stoma which is in the area just to the right of my bellybutton.  There is a round opening a little bigger than a quarter I would say and they crafted this red lump out of part of the colon which is called a stoma.  The urine comes out of this and I have a bag that attaches over this with a very sticky gummy adheasive.  I have to change the bag about every four or five days.  I hope I have helped you some.  I think the procedure is called a urostomey and you can propably learn more about it by checking that out or just do a search on bladder cancer and they go into different types of treatments and courses of action to try and get rid of the cancer.  I had a good number of real strong chemo treatments prior to the surgery.



BoiJen -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 1:49:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

ETA, OK, boijen, you beat My typing by 28 seconds.



Next time I'll text you or something so that you go first LadyPact...far be it for me to not hold the door open ;-)

boi
Future ruler of the Universe serving MsKitty



GeneBulge -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 1:50:00 PM)

I dont know what your problem is but this is a very serious condition that I am still going thru.  If I make it to august of next year the chanches of my survival look pretty good and between now and whenever,  So sorry that you think cancer is so tasteless and that it happens to others and not you.  I will never forget the words my urologist spoke when he told me that I have a cancerous tumor in my bladder.  It really takes the wind out of you.  Good luck to you and your health.



Lockit -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 1:50:41 PM)

I agree lushy... I would never let someone mess up my make up like that!  Sorry, it was the best way I could put that at the moment! lol



kinkme43 -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 1:50:59 PM)

hehe to boijen....
yes, how very observant you are...

this made me chuckle



Lockit -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 1:53:59 PM)

Gene, I am all for someone talking about their health experience, but you do seem to love the naughty lil guy sexy embellishments in discribing it all.  Then at times you don't seem to know female dominants.  I have to wonder if those twenty five years in the lifestyle were spent as a submissive... or what you might be doing here with your word choice and such.



BoiJen -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 1:54:32 PM)

No one believes cancer is a tasteless subject. The statement is about how you're addressing Dommes on here and how you're steering the conversation toward your cock.

And don't try throwing bullshit at me, I lost my grandfather to pancreatic cancer two weeks ago. Everyone here can probbly tell you how their lives have been touched by this disease. It's tasteless to make a statement as if others here have not had to experience anguish related to this issue while you get touchy when it's pointed out that a potential motivation behind starting this thread.

boi
Furture ruler of the Universe serving MsKitty
I keep a list



GeneBulge -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 2:03:07 PM)

I think things got a bit more off topic by questions that some of the responders asked and I tried to answer their questions.  I only asked if it should be a big deal if a male can ejaculate or not.  I sometimes get depression very badly about being different now.  I cant even pee normally.  Until the latest surgery my penis was just a useless piece of flesh and not good for anything.  I think if people read the whole thread through from start to finnish they can see where this got off track and that I only tried to respond to their questions.  I guess I am guilty of something terrible here on a bdsm site.



Lockit -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 2:10:10 PM)

Well Gene... I remembered that I was on guard with you because of prior post, but couldn't remember the post.  So I went to have a look.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2536766/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2536766

You are no youngster... and if clueless... watch and learn before you jump into a pile of shit.  In other words... caution.  But since you don't see what you are doing... that twenty five years in the lifestyle and your confusion can lead me to one explaination... found in that thread... humiliation.

You are so far explaining your health issues and not some of what we are addressing, which adds to my call on the humiliation aspect.



lusciouslips19 -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 2:12:19 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BoiJen

I can't be the only one who realizes that this guy started this thread to talk about his dick and to get FemDommes talking about his dick exclusively. It's not about "hey if a guy went through this..." it's about "I have my dick here and you don't have to worry about getting preggo....want me to show you?"

At least that's my interpretation...he's not talking about your fantasies and how this might be a perk but what he wants to do and "can" do.

observant boi
Future ruler of the Universe serving MsK
who funny enough doesn't have to worry about getting any chick preggo but can also have the continuous hard-on...next...insert eye roll here



I was thinkin the same thing.[8|]



LadyPact -> RE: Does ejaculation matter? (4/11/2009 2:18:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: GeneBulge

I dont know what your problem is but this is a very serious condition that I am still going thru.  If I make it to august of next year the chanches of my survival look pretty good and between now and whenever,  So sorry that you think cancer is so tasteless and that it happens to others and not you.  I will never forget the words my urologist spoke when he told me that I have a cancerous tumor in my bladder.  It really takes the wind out of you.  Good luck to you and your health.

It doesn't have anything to do with your condition.  I'm rather sure My specific complaint is your manner of speech.  You tend to write like some horny wanker who gets off on talking dirty.  What I said was, I wouldn't have anyone in My service who would speak in such a disrespectful way.  I can only hope you don't speak to those you meet in person the way you've chosen to do so here on this message board.

A few years back there was a movie that came out called "Almost An Angel."  In it, the lead character played by Paul Hogan, meets up with the brother of the gal who later becomes something of his love interest.  The brother's in a wheelchair as a result of something or another, and basically starts out as a jerk.  One of the best lines of the movie goes something to the effect of, "Just because you're in that chair doesn't entitle you to be an asshole."  That's basically what I'm telling you here.  Your condition doesn't entitle you to speak to women this way.


And for the record, I get the fact that you'll never forget the day you were told, because I've heard something rather similar.  Not just once, but twice.  I've never felt the need to ask anyone if they wanted to see pictures of My cervix after the procedures.



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