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profileforpostin -> Can this be real? (4/11/2009 10:55:44 AM)
is this a game or is it ever real? I have been searching for so long and am begining to believe a real sub/dom relationship is not possible, that it is a game we play for a while. Does anyone really have this? It seems each time I try and give over my control, it doesnt work and I end up a little more worn out.

VeryNastyDom -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 11:01:49 AM)
It is very much real, but you have to work very hard to find what you want. Fundamentally, it is no different than dating in the vanilla world except that you have fewer people to choose from that share your particular kinks. Like your mama always told you, you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince.

subtlebutterfly -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 11:13:22 AM)
yup it's real... but in regards to this site.. you know..you joined this website...TODAY...don't tell me you expect results already [8\|] and with an empty profile you won't get very far either[;)]

Juliannadelion -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 11:15:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: profileforpostin is this a game or is it ever real? I have been searching for so long and am begining to believe a real sub/dom relationship is not possible, that it is a game we play for a while. Does anyone really have this? It seems each time I try and give over my control, it doesnt work and I end up a little more worn out. it's as real as you make it. [:D]

MsAlaria -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 11:16:53 AM)
Just as with anything in life, you get out of it what you put into it. Be pro-active. Get out in your local community. Go to munches, go to events. Searching for the right one can take a long time but eventually the perserverance and patience pay off.

silkncarol -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 11:17:40 AM)
What VeryNastryDom said........ If you haven't already done so, you might venture out into your local community. Make some friends and contacts....see how it's done real time and not just online. quote: ORIGINAL: VeryNastyDom It is very much real, but you have to work very hard to find what you want. Fundamentally, it is no different than dating in the vanilla world except that you have fewer people to choose from that share your particular kinks. Like your mama always told you, you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince.

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 11:20:06 AM)
Nope. None of this is real. Its all just a dream I'm dreaming. giggles

subtlebutterfly -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 11:29:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming Nope. None of this is real. Its all just a dream I'm dreaming. giggles dream...or a nightmare that's the question[8\|]

profileforpostin -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 11:49:05 AM)
Well I am very glad to know it is possible. Thanks for any advice given. Subtlebutterfly I have been on for over 3 years but created this profile today to preserve some anomnimity. thanks

subtlebutterfly -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 11:53:21 AM)
ahhh ok well..I'm sure it's possible [;)] I've had a profile here on n off for hmmm 4 years on here..well I've only seen 3-4 ppl tops over that period that I'd do (from a physical/profile viewpoint) but then I don't know them at all, let alone contacted them so[8D] but good luck[:)]

pinkwind -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 12:56:28 PM)
Yes, a relationship is possible, but if you have been here 3 years already and had a few failures i would look at the common denominators between those failed ones, and avoid what you find, or make more allowance for whatever are the most common problems. i have to say, from my personal experience, relationships can be formed between folk on kink sites, but not on here. But like i say, that's just what's happened to me.

colouredin -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 1:20:56 PM)
Life is real, I mean D/s can be a real relationship because its in reality but dont let the ideal carry you away too much

InTonguesslave -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 1:45:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: profileforpostin is this a game or is it ever real? I have been searching for so long and am begining to believe a real sub/dom relationship is not possible, that it is a game we play for a while. Does anyone really have this? It seems each time I try and give over my control, it doesnt work and I end up a little more worn out. so.., what happens exactly - do you want to talk about it.

wisdomofgiving -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 1:50:21 PM)
Sometimes being a little worn out is a blessing, since it gives us an opportunity to step back and review our life. It appears for some here that have posted, they have found the real thing. Even outside of this internet connection, and outside BDSM, finding the right person is not an easy thing for many. Why, I dont know and not in the mind to figure it out. Just be patient with the process, yourself and continue to live life fully. Usually it is when we aren't searching and are happy with our life someone shows up, maybe because it just isnt all that important to find the 'right person' anymore. best of luck wisdomofgiving

DesFIP -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 2:53:27 PM)
If you keep getting involved in bad relationships, then you need to start looking at why you keep picking people like that. You keep submitting to people you shouldn't. Why is that? The only common denominator in all your relationships is you.

CarrieO -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 3:13:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP If you keep getting involved in bad relationships, then you need to start looking at why you keep picking people like that. You keep submitting to people you shouldn't. Why is that? The only common denominator in all your relationships is you. OP, Admiting that you're making poor choices can be difficult but in order to move forward, it may be what you need to do. Of course, I don't know for sure because I'm only going on what you've posted here. DesFIP is right, though, look to the common denominator. There was a post here once that was in this same vein..."why are things not working?"...."why is he treating me bad?"...."why can't I find the one?" One of the replies has stuck in my mind...."Don't cast your pearls before swine".....and there are a lot of pigs out there looking for free pearls! Something to keep in mind when wading through the muck. Good luck and focus on the process...it can be fun.

stella41b -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 3:20:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP If you keep getting involved in bad relationships, then you need to start looking at why you keep picking people like that. You keep submitting to people you shouldn't. Why is that? The only common denominator in all your relationships is you. The caveat here is only if there's a recurring pattern, and that might not always be the case. The best insurance for a good relationship is to avoid having shallow or superficial ones.

pinkwind -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 5:16:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stella41b quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP If you keep getting involved in bad relationships, then you need to start looking at why you keep picking people like that. You keep submitting to people you shouldn't. Why is that? The only common denominator in all your relationships is you. The caveat here is only if there's a recurring pattern, and that might not always be the case. The best insurance for a good relationship is to avoid having shallow or superficial ones. The shallowness of those past relationships could well be the only common denominator or recurring pattern, rather than character traits of those folk encountered. Either way, any pattern is what has to be looked at and dealt with.

stella41b -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 5:29:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pinkwind quote: ORIGINAL: stella41b quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP If you keep getting involved in bad relationships, then you need to start looking at why you keep picking people like that. You keep submitting to people you shouldn't. Why is that? The only common denominator in all your relationships is you. The caveat here is only if there's a recurring pattern, and that might not always be the case. The best insurance for a good relationship is to avoid having shallow or superficial ones. The shallowness of those past relationships could well be the only common denominator or recurring pattern, rather than character traits of those folk encountered. Either way, any pattern is what has to be looked at and dealt with. This is so true. greetings to you and your's

Zechriel -> RE: Can this be real? (4/11/2009 6:07:56 PM)
Good evening! I agree with what the last few posts have said, you should ask yourself things like- What are you wanting? What will you settle for? WILL you settle or you wanna hold out for the whole enchilada? Are there other places/sites you can look? Believe it or not, I found my perfect Daddy at the other meat market site. I was not looking , just getting ideas but we clicked. he lives 10 miles away, we see each other 3-4x a week, and it has been over a year together. After a few bad D/s realtionships, I figured out I wanted it all..not gonna settle for anything less than what I wanted or be fake just to be collared or play. Just be careful, sometimes when we find the right one, we get very scared of it being TOO right and TOO good and we run or hold back. I did that lots of times in the first few months and poor Daddy always had to coax me back into his arms. Good luck! Love, Zechriel [sm=couple.gif]

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