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RE: when you live far away - 4/13/2009 1:15:39 PM

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how can you know you want someone that early on like hes saying. well Im just sceptical.

And how are you intending to find out unless it is by meeting? I'll fly a sub to me a week or whatever after we click, if she wants, put her into a hotel, dinner and a movie, it is the only way to figure out whether or not there's something there. By all means postpone it for a year - you won't know any more about the person than you did after three weeks, all you will have done is waste a year of your life.

I've had this conversation numerous times with prospective subs, who often make a big deal out of the fact that there is another country and an airplane involved, and money. I usually explain that the money I spend to meet someone comes out of my entertainment budget, and that it is fun to meet new people, and that it is fun to do unusual stuff.

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RE: when you live far away - 4/13/2009 2:14:52 PM

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I am going to agree here.. Personally I think the dimminants are scoping the boards for people who are apt to fall for a fast line. It just make sense.
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Really... someone who just met someone is going to spend the money to travel so far to get a lil? Sounds like a bit of the 'promise her the world to get a cam shot'.

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RE: when you live far away - 4/13/2009 2:17:32 PM

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I'm not sure agreeing with me is safe.... some think I am far too critical and jaded! hehe

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RE: when you live far away - 4/13/2009 4:22:30 PM

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Andy and i gave it as long as we felt necessary, and then it was me who travelled to him every time as my circumstances didn't allow for him visiting me, and we didn't pay any attention to other peoples timings. It's a purely personal thing, when you feel ready it becomes the natural next step. i wouldn't set a time scale in stone, it could do more harm than good.

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RE: when you live far away - 4/13/2009 5:44:38 PM

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I made a decision in 2007 to move to the middle of nowhere, far from my friends, much less any new kinky friends I might make. So instead of buying a car, I have a monthly airplane ticket fund, instead of a car payment. Over the last two years, most of the women I have played with, and dated seriously, have lived nowhere near me. We've kept in touch using the coach-class version of jet-setting.

I believe in meeting quickly. As others have said, nothing may happen. The point isn't to get my rocks off. The point is to see if I even want to... and if she does. Oooh baby typing only shows so much about potential chemistry.

I don't hit on people who live on other continents, and here's why. A kinky'n'hot computer expert in Thailand and I have had a "What's up nerd?" "Oh not much dork" kind of relationship online for a while. And...she just invited me to Bangkok in a very smexy way, and she was serious! Well #1) I don't have the money, and #2) I don't have the time to go. So what am I supposed to do with that? Whack off, that's what. (Cold showers are for wimps.)

I know for a fact that long distance can work, but it takes rearranging a lot of things in your life to make it real.

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RE: when you live far away - 4/13/2009 8:04:23 PM

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When you ask people for advice and then get angry because you don't like what they say, you are wrong.
People will give you advice based on their experiences. If you just want someone to validate something you have already decided to do, they go buy a crazy 8 ball. Shake it enough and it will agree with you.
I don't agree with all the advice I have gotten on here, but I did consider it (well, most of it). Slamming those who share with you, is wrong.

My advice, go do what you've already decided to do and I hope it turns out for you. You have obviously already decided on a course of action that others have warned you about. Good luck. You will probably need it.

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RE: when you live far away - 4/13/2009 9:03:50 PM

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I would make sure they are a faithful slave prior to such.. not to insult anyone in general or on this forum but some people are a little craaaaaazy.You definitely need to get to know said person a little better before meeting up.

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