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Rituals - 4/14/2009 9:48:49 PM

SlaveBlutarsky

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I once belonged to a group of Femdom/msub couples; in one of the discussions, the practice of rituals came up. Ever since then it's played an increasing role in my thoughts.

One couple in particular had a ritual in which every Sunday evening, they would adjourn to the bedroom and he would kneel at her feet while she went over the events of the week. She'd praise him for the good things, and point out the bad. She would then punish hmi, usually with a cane, for his transgression.

After his punishment, she would then take him with her strap on while he was on his back, so they could look into each other's eyes. She siad that was to reinforce the relationship dynamic.

If they could not do it Sunday evening at the appotinted time, they'd do it Monday, or Tuesday or the next avilible night after Sunday, never before.

It was pretty much the hottest thing I'd ever heard.

Some of the others did things like kneeling and kissing implements that were about to be used on them, having to say certain incantations (i think that's the word?), and other different things.

I know a lot of people have routines, but I'm was interested in things that were a little more involved in terms of the D/s dynamic. To me the depth to a ritual is greater than doing specific chores or things along those lines, am I off on this?

Another example would be my ex would wear the same black leather gloves when she was in Domme mode. Usually she'd just come find me in the hosue with them on and proceded from there, but there were times when we'd be walking in the mall and I'd look over and she'd be wearing them or she'd take them out of her purse at a restaurant and just set them on the table.

Obviously the pavlovian aspects to this type of thing were huge :)

Do you have things that you are ritualistic in your dominannce or submission? I'm just curious to see how other's treat this topic.*

* and I may be trolling to recapitalize the spank bank.

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RE: Rituals - 4/14/2009 10:53:52 PM

FullfigRIMAAM1

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I like some rituals, but they usually entail manners, and how he treats me when we are in public, a restaurant, etc...
As to home rituals, it's been difficult to establish, because I've not yet lived with a slave for us to establish weekly routines; and when it's been simply dating, I tend to want to be playful and do what I feel like, without exclusions because of rules/restrictions I've set.

Ideally, I will end up living with someone where spankings, and wearing certain pieces become part of our daily or weekly routine. M

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