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RE: Pain - 4/16/2009 5:17:54 AM

sambamanslilgirl

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when it comes to pain (kink or otherwise), i take the silent route. i've been taught (by my parents) not to make sound when it came to them punishing me with spankings.

however i've found with my pet if he screams out in pain, hearing him moan, whimper, etc really turns me on.

when it came to mourning someone or experiencing something traumatic (ie my oldest's accident), i don't show any emotion. i don't cry or even tear up. i'm what my mother considers me to be the "rock" of the family. i keep things bottled inside while supporting the family through sad / difficult times.

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RE: Pain - 4/16/2009 2:15:33 PM

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i think i handle them differently.
"regular" life pain/sadness/whatever gets stuck inside where it sits and rots and makes me sick. that's all part of learning to be a "good girl"
pain in "playing"/whatever the heck you want to call it, is like getting a chance to let all sorts of stuff out
usually there is noise involved on my part
sometimes not as much

i dunno, it depends

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RE: Pain - 4/16/2009 5:30:11 PM

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When I first read this, I was thinking play/accidental pain was the same......til an accidental ouch happened and a stream of cuss words came flying out. Quietly still, but that's the difference.

Mental pain tends to bring tears, the others do not.

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RE: Pain - 4/16/2009 5:41:41 PM

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Well that is not to say I don't verbalize it upon da bang. Like mother fucker that hurt. That's gonna leave a mark. Or and one of my favs
cmere I gotta smack somebody to relieve da pain. Ranks rite up there with I only got 2 hands which one you want me to smack you with.

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RE: Pain - 4/18/2009 2:01:52 AM

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I think it's more a case of how the pain is applied. For instance, I explained to my lady well in advance that a spanking or flogging makes the skin so sensitive that when you make love later the slightest caress can make you writhe in ecstasy. Since she first tried BDSM with me she finds it mind-blowing... but only when she's ready.

I think the key is knowing the difference between causing sensation and when to back off immediately. Also, having spoken to a few subs there is also a "challenge" aspect to it. the best analogy i can make is like a video game... "I got to Level Five last time... I'm determined to get to Level Six tonight!"

And lastly as the "sadist"... I think I'd break down if my love was in "real" pain like after an accident. However the thrill of "torturing" her is phenomenal. After all, us blokeys are brought up to treat weak girlies like pretty flower petals. When a woman with stripes all over her back and arse looks back at you and says "beleive me. I can take MUCH more!"... it's amazing and (for me personally) makes me feel very, very blessed, honored and humbled. This beautiful thing is ready to sacrifce pain and suffering for me? WOW!

But then again, I'm probably just weird!

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RE: Pain - 4/18/2009 2:44:21 AM

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I tend to be loud whether feeling the sting of the whip or making love. Master appreciates the feedback and the louder the response the more it seems to reflect upon the ecstacy of the sensations. There is a time and place for gags but the noise escapes. Why hold in the sound of ecstacy unless it is something that you are directed to do as part of the exchanges. Now is the time to let all the emotions and responses rise to the surface and bubble over.

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RE: Pain - 4/19/2009 8:02:06 AM

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i believe there is a difference in pains. i work in the health care field and know many different kinds of pains. my own differ between real time and during bdsm play.

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RE: Pain - 4/19/2009 1:39:27 PM

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I suffer all types of pain in silence.

In the vanilla context, I do speak with those close to me about the emotional type, but not as much as I probably should. If I hit my thumb with a hammer, I let a muffled swear slip and move on.

In the D/s context, I bite my lip and take it as much as I can because I don't want to let the person doling it out down. It's a matter of service and pride for me in that case.

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RE: Pain - 4/19/2009 2:50:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly

So I started to think...when people receive pain they either go the silent route or the screaming route.
Does it differ, the way pain is handled in bdsm play vs. real life pain (accidental/sickness pain, mental pain..e.g. mourning somebody)?

For me it is quite different. In the vanilla world I tend to be very quiet and hold it in. I remember falling and breaking my elbow and tearing the bicep muscle a couple years ago. I barely even gave mummble. I just held my arm and sat down because I knew it was broke. Not fun and no I do not want to experience this ever again.

In the BDSM world I like to be very vocal and physical when I experience pain. At first I like to be silent but strain my muscles to absorb the pain. Once I reach a threshold I like to be able to strain against my bonds with all my might and to moan/grunt/shout out with a roar. Unless I am gagged. But it is also fun to scream into a gag as well.

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