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Falkenstein -> RE: Female Desire (9/6/2009 2:27:19 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DavanKael
Hmmmm, it took me until I reached my late 20's or early 30's to be comfortable simply receiving and not giving pleasure as well. I am still more inclined toward giving pleasure but am also muchly groovy with receiving/taking it. :>
And, I agree with what many have said about the ridiculous social conditioning that women have to overcome regarding their sexuality...of course, I also think that there's a lot of ridiculous social conditioning that men have to overcome regarding their sexuality: we have a really fucked up culture when it comes to sex.
Davan
Dear Davan,
Amen to that. In my wilder years, my girlfriends were extraordinarily shy about what made them climax or what they loved. If I asked for some clues, the answer would be like "I do not like to speak about that" ("that" being prononced with the same face as "vomit" or "garbage can") Or "if you love me, you will know in your heart what to do". Except that falling in love never made me smarter, quite the opposite ;-) Maybe they were ashamed to speak of sex, or found it unromantic, or possibly did not know what to say.
Quite some times ago, I met a woman who, after a few vanilla intercourses, told to me that my --hemm-- performances were not exactly giving the expected results on her side. This was quite a blow to my self-esteem, I tell you[>:]. Especially as I thought of me as a quite sophisticated French lover (well I suppose all the men like to think of themselves as perfect love machines, Guys any disagreement here?).
So I swallowed my pride and asked her candidly what she liked. As thank for my open-mindedness, she made sure that my pride was not the only thing swallowed that night, she was a great, inspiring, motivator[;)]. So she gave me her complete "owner's manual" and we started from zero again. It took us, me, some trys, but with the final result that one day she would, hours later, tell me that her legs were still shacking. I was so proud of me! (and still am [:D]). Oh and it was not just about her, this has been the best sex I ever had.
I think of making love to a woman, like playing with an musical instrument a melody that only the loved one can hear, except that each instrument is unique.
So ladies, please tell us what you like. If you want, you could even write it for that matter. In a nice booklet, leatherbond, of course [:D]
Kinky regards from Switzerland
Henry
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