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Rainfire -> RE: Wearing my collar in public (4/28/2009 8:07:34 AM)
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ORIGINAL: masterlink65
the OP doesnt sound like she is very professional. i would have had this crystal clear before any permanent plans were made. either way it is something the sub should take up with the dom and not air the dirty laundry on here.
if a sub being collared doesnt make it a slave, then you must be talking about those velcro collars or those party collars. in that case it shouldnt be too hard to remove it. to me a collar means ownership. they make friendship bracelets for other such commitments
No, one can be a happily owned and collared sub without being a slave. Maybe you only have slaves but that is your choice and not the law and rule of BDSM. I am most happily owned and collared and wear a black leather dog collar every day (including to the wedding itself) yet am submissive to Lumus, not slave. Perhaps to some there might not be much of a difference since we're 24/7 but there is.
OP, my first collar was a sterling silver chain with a heart pendant and then we switched to the dog collar. I'm fortunate that I don't work outside the home at this time but in the past, I've used something like a simple gold chain as a collar during work. It's the symbolism and emotion that matters, not appearance. We're in an area where my collar might raise some eyebrows but not cause problems. When asked, I just calmly explain that it's something special that Lumus gave me. Most people accept without a lot of questions when I tell them it was a gift from my now-Husband.
Just talk calmly to your dominant and let him know your concerns. Give options rather than ultimatums. A collar is a sign of ownership so it can be whatever you two decide. A necklace, anklet, bracelet, ring, tattoo (if you do that), whatever is chosen.
Good luck and best wishes.
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